3 years agonotamangomouse
OP… someone getting in bed and touching you without your consent is pretty bad, even if they’re drunk and even if you enjoyed it. Proceed with caution. When you’re seeing the world through rose-colored lenses, all the red flags just look like flags.
3 years agooneofakindfabulous
COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE!!!! You’ll be surprise what pple are into! If it’s something that’s ganna be just sexual LET IT BE KNOW if there’s more coming out of this four way thing SPEAK UP.
3 years agoaribaby103
Hey hope you’re feeling relieved by now. It can go either way you want. But keep it separate & joined depending on how you feel. That’s what being poly is
3 years agofinmusicuniversal
Sounds like there are little boundaries. If that was a man that jumped in the bed and started touching her like that, would she have reacted the same or seen him as a violator? Where was the consent for this other woman to just jump in bed. Being poly is not a free for all. This doesn’t seem right, seems forced.
3 years agoglamseebie
Wow that’s a LOT! I love a complex polycule and I love exploring queerness in more ways that polyamory can open up with safe meta relationships and such, but these are huge consent violations to me. If you are ok and feel you can build trust through it, I don’t think there is anything wrong with repairing after boundaries may have been crossed. And if no one feels bad then it’s fine, though it’s data for how folks may behave in other situations . I would continue cautiously exploring what would feel good to all involved, with a careful eye on protecting yourself and what expectations you have for consent and advance conversations
3 years agostebo_fasho
Communication is the key. Kudos for telling both guys what happened but the new guy should have been over communicative with her about the wife. At the very least. I wouldn't stay in that situation because the second dude seems manipulative. But that's just me.
3 years agomizzout
The dope part is everyone seems to be keeping an openmind and not tripping out (first) over any sort of insecurities or simply being negative. Good luck 💪🏾
3 years agogeesuhs
seems like there’s room to grow in the dynamic as a three, but if you want to pursue your man as a pair with the option of occasional encounters with his wife, then you can customize that journey! They’re obviously needs to be more communication both ways
3 years agokaispeaksofrivers
Definitely agree with taking time for yourself to “debrief” from the situation before you return to the group. Think about specifically what you enjoyed and note any times when you felt uncomfortable/ like a line was crossed through out the whole evening not just the sexual encounter, because you had concerns about the vibe and communication earlier in the evening. Prepare to share these discoveries with your partners/ the group in a loving and honest way.
3 years ago_saintje
Boundaries boundaries boundaries. Know yours and know theirs. Be easy on yourself.
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