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Posted On: December 10th 2025, 10:43 am
My life has split in 2.
Have you lost someone you loved? Then be sure to follow me @grace_and_grief_healing so we can be friends and support each other
I’m wondering if you look at your life this way too …
“Before and After”
Before my son died and after my son died.
Now, living in the “after”, I feel like a completely different person.
One of the things that I carry is a hole in my heart.
Sometimes it’s quiet, but most of the time it’s loud. And it gets the loudest when someone will ask me how many children I have …or the dreaded question… “How are you? “
Do you feel that hole inside too?
I guess it’s because I have all this love in my heart for my son and I don’t have a way to give it to him in person.
It’s the strangest and most profound pain I’ve ever known.
You know what I mean?
As I walk in the “after”, I’ve started doing a few things to help me pour out my love to my son.
A memorial table is something I started. It’s a place for me to go to feel a bit closer to him. I put a photo of it as well as shared a few other things to help “manage” my grief
If you’d like to see it, comment FIVE below and I’ll send it to your inbox
You are not alone 🩷
xo Melani
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#griefhealing #griefisajourney #CortisolControl #cortisol #endorphinsmakeyouhappy #fightorflight #cortisollevel #cortisolmanagement #StressAwareness #anxietysupport #healingfromtrauma #holistichealing #emotionalwellbeing
Have you lost someone you loved? Then be sure to follow me @grace_and_grief_healing so we can be friends and support each other
I’m wondering if you look at your life this way too …
“Before and After”
Before my son died and after my son died.
Now, living in the “after”, I feel like a completely different person.
One of the things that I carry is a hole in my heart.
Sometimes it’s quiet, but most of the time it’s loud. And it gets the loudest when someone will ask me how many children I have …or the dreaded question… “How are you? “
Do you feel that hole inside too?
I guess it’s because I have all this love in my heart for my son and I don’t have a way to give it to him in person.
It’s the strangest and most profound pain I’ve ever known.
You know what I mean?
As I walk in the “after”, I’ve started doing a few things to help me pour out my love to my son.
A memorial table is something I started. It’s a place for me to go to feel a bit closer to him. I put a photo of it as well as shared a few other things to help “manage” my grief
If you’d like to see it, comment FIVE below and I’ll send it to your inbox
You are not alone 🩷
xo Melani
#childloss #childlosssupport #grievingmom #griefclub #fightorflight #griefsupport #griefjourney #childlossgrief #grievingprocess #grievingbrain #griefbrain #grievingbody #mentalwellness #griefandguthealth #cortisol #cortisollevels #grievingmother #grievingparents #childdeath
#griefhealing #griefisajourney #CortisolControl #cortisol #endorphinsmakeyouhappy #fightorflight #cortisollevel #cortisolmanagement #StressAwareness #anxietysupport #healingfromtrauma #holistichealing #emotionalwellbeing
Comments (42)
a year agomammakim58
Even after nearly 20 years, I still find myself having my breath taken away. Missing him, my beautiful 11 year old baby.
a year agolaw238bmw
I say this all the time , it’s just so difficult to accept my son is no longer with us. My heart is shattered forever.
a year agoajgoesgrey
The before and after is a very profound experience. I too had so much joy in my life , how lucky was I . When my beloved son died a huge part of me died too . I’m a different person now . I prefer hanging out with new people , who know this ‘me’ because I have really changed . I’ve moved house & changed jobs , quieter life . It has helped . After so much trauma we have to move forward in health and grace until we meet our beloved child again ❤️
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