Jess & Lou • Attachment Coaching

@sosyncd

7 months ago

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Posted On: April 8th 2026, 12:31 pm

This one thing is what makes avoidants change.

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Comments (14)

3 months ago

There are only two triggers that allow the avoidant ego to realize they are damaged and it’s a choice to continue down that path. 1 - they get into a relationship with someone even more avoidant. Suddenly they are on the receiving end of their abusive behavior and they realize that’s exactly how they have treated countless people prior and they need to change. 2 - they hit absolute rock bottom. Usually this happens when they get older. The looks fade and the prestige associated with their profession has faded. Suddenly they realize they are very alone having pushed away everyone who ever truly loved them. All their “friends” have the depth of a puddle after a spring rain.