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14 days ago
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Posted On: October 21st 2026, 10:13 pm
YOU. ARE. NOT. YOUR. ATTACHMENT.

ATTACHMENT IS SOMETHING YOU BULLS L BUILD, NOT SOMETHING YOU ARE.

UNDERSTOOD??
Comments (16)
leezandro.gael 10 days ago

leezandro.gael

I need the whole hierarchy setup if not it’s not a go for me. Then again this is all new to me so it may change but as of now it’s exactly what I need.

claire.666500 10 days ago

claire.666500

Found out what my partner labeled as Anxious attachment was actually my system finally breaking down from their emotional neglect and abuse. Kicked that nesting partner out after eight years together and now my poly relationships are smooth sailing.

yasmynnettle 14 days ago

yasmynnettle

Do you have anything else on attachment styles? :) thank you

yasmynnettle 14 days ago

yasmynnettle

Needed to hear this! Thank you

aojcsmith 14 days ago

aojcsmith

I needed this a few years ago. Also, what color nail polish is that? I need that in my life.

fufu__fafa 14 days ago

fufu__fafa

Can someone explain me what "anxious" means? I feel like people use it very differently and that sometimes confuses me 🙃

thayarkenea 14 days ago

thayarkenea

My anxious attachment has always felt like a curse 😂

quantumlesbian 14 days ago
smol.deviant 14 days ago

smol.deviant

omg THIS! 👏 I thought that i'm super anxious and jealous and it's just me who isn't made for non-monogamy but no, it was the uncertainty and lack of intentional date nights with my nesting partner. there's not much that hurts more than seeing your partner getting ready, making themselves presentable for someone else while you live everyday life with them 😅😅 kids, don't do the same mistake!

banana_valentine 14 days ago

banana_valentine

I hate the stupid morning and evening texts. It feels like a task that needs to be done, like brushing your teeth. I want to feel important. Not as something that has to be done.

jays0ncamer0n 14 days ago

jays0ncamer0n

Attachment style is less like your horoscope and more like how you relate to someone else: you can have different styles based off the connection with the other person.

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