Giving myself the same understanding I’d give a friend?
Still working on that. ❤️
7 days agocaitlintimmons18
Great book if anyone is struggling to understand. Stop letting everything affect you
7 days agocaitlintimmons18
I swear my autoimmune condition is because of this!! Why do they think they can behave a certain way, we react and we are the problem!!!
7 days agogrimblegril
This is so very true. I also documented so much - in part so I captured the truth as I was being gaslit so much. In a strange way the gaslight tactics continue in some form post divorce - but I am much more self aware & Teflon coated - and with firmer boundaries x
7 days agomayumirobinsonproperty
I have an apology card for him getting so drunk he left me on a campsite with 3 little kids, a massive tent and all the ridiculous things he packed like a whole bbq and table. All for me to pack up and put away and I still think was it my fault because he said it was. But I was asleep when he started kicking off and fighting with a friend. Coming wasted to the hospital when I rushed back in 3 days postpartum and I still wonder if I was just too sensitive 😂
8 days agoinductor101
Yes looking at each argument or complain or just the moments I stayed silent over doesn't seem bad but when putting them altogether I do not know how I survived. I regret not speaking up for myself sooner but I was trying to keep the family together but I realize now the family is happier now no more walking on egg shells and staying quiet just to keep the peace.
8 days agoandreapharvey
You knew you were not happy& acted appropriately for you & the children. Just pat yourself on the back& know you are happier now. Well done to you.👏👏🌹🌹
8 days agoallaboutbuk
I do this occasionally too. It’s serves as a great reminder of why I left whenever I waver. It was the best advice to put it all down in one place to look back on, I’d been unintentionally noting it down for years but just scattered across various things. Having it all in place is the best way so you see the truth when you question yourself again
8 days agostebbles1
I still have all my text messages from my relationship from 2022, I can’t delete them as sometimes I have read them to make myself feel better but also realise what I went through as I thought I was going mad, I read them now and still think I was in the wrong, but then I realise I wasn’t and it was all reactive abuse. It don’t get easier and is always still feel like he’s on my shoulder judging me, but that’s years of disagreement and thinking your a bad parent. It all about memories and fun with kids nothing else. X
8 days agoejh266
I’ve deleted mine as I thought it was better not to mull over it and yet I still find myself going through videos and feeling nostalgic of how when he was being a present parent he was wonderful? It’s just too much of a head f**k sometimes
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