Emma Gold ✨️❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖✨️

Capacity is one thing ✨️

Obligation to extend that capacity is entirely another 💖

Having capacity for someone, their emotions and the way they are meeting you, also needs to consider the space YOU are in currently, and what you have going on in your life... ✨️

Its really admirable that you are able to hold someone so well, whist also holding yourself and everything you have going on in your life 💖

But there's never an obligation to be constantly available for anything, be that actual bad behaviour or mistakes, triggers and trauma dumping that still affect others without any real intention to do so ✨️

I have been able to hold so much in the past and have also felt unable to say sometimes when it gets too much, which actually, for the person on the other end, can feel really hard because, when we aren't being honest with others, or ourselves, about how much we can hold, we are actually creating a disservice to the whole and holding EVERYTHING up in the process 💖

We are all learning, I myself had an experience recently where I was the needy one over expressing and over explaining and, though it was just another aspect of that needed love, it was my own responsibility to give that to myself and to learn how better to relate in future ✨️💖🥰

#learning #noobligation #holdyourself #capacity #love