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Posted On: November 1st 2026, 05:10 pm
Stop trying to make him marriage material.
I’m sharing 10 marriage lessons I now coach women through.
This is Lesson 6: See him for who he is, not who he could be.
At 16, I had my whole life planned with my son’s father. Then I went down a crazy path of delusion for years, trying so hard to bring that plan to life. It was never going to happen…Finally, I let it go.
And that wasn’t the only time. I celebrated my 21st birthday with another child. I was less naive, but I still didn’t think I could have better.
Here’s what I know now. We all have potential & endless capabilities. That doesn’t mean we’ll lean into them. If he isn’t kind, thoughtful, and respectful of your time, he will not magically change.
Your standards aren’t decided by anyone but YOU.
The type of man you keep attracting is because of how you see yourself & often you’re unaware of it.
I remember where I was the moment I was done. I was decided. I’d never go back. I’d be single first.
The f*ck boys dropped like flies.
It was like they didn’t see me. Or maybe it was vice versa.
I kept dating, but the quality was completely different.
I had to BELIEVE the man I wanted was out there.
It’s November 1. New month.
Time for a new way of dating.
Stop dating men you know don’t fit. Don’t do it to fill time because you’re bored. Don’t do it “while” you’re looking for the one. Don’t do it because you’ve been looking forever and you’re tired.
When you entertain treatment or experiences other than what YOU want, you energetically send the message that THIS is good enough.
You won’t find quality relationships until you’ve decided to uplevel them. And this isn’t just about romance. It’s friendships, opportunities, all of it.
Your dream man (or LIFE) will never just fall into your lap. You’ve got to be decided first. You’ve got to be HER first. Think like her. Treat yourself like her.
That’s what calls in what you want, not entertaining a mess until he arrives.
Cut ties with what (and who) doesn’t align with where you’re going, and I promise you’ll see a whole new world.
DM me and tell me one characteristic in a man you’re DONE entertaining and settling for.
I’m sharing 10 marriage lessons I now coach women through.
This is Lesson 6: See him for who he is, not who he could be.
At 16, I had my whole life planned with my son’s father. Then I went down a crazy path of delusion for years, trying so hard to bring that plan to life. It was never going to happen…Finally, I let it go.
And that wasn’t the only time. I celebrated my 21st birthday with another child. I was less naive, but I still didn’t think I could have better.
Here’s what I know now. We all have potential & endless capabilities. That doesn’t mean we’ll lean into them. If he isn’t kind, thoughtful, and respectful of your time, he will not magically change.
Your standards aren’t decided by anyone but YOU.
The type of man you keep attracting is because of how you see yourself & often you’re unaware of it.
I remember where I was the moment I was done. I was decided. I’d never go back. I’d be single first.
The f*ck boys dropped like flies.
It was like they didn’t see me. Or maybe it was vice versa.
I kept dating, but the quality was completely different.
I had to BELIEVE the man I wanted was out there.
It’s November 1. New month.
Time for a new way of dating.
Stop dating men you know don’t fit. Don’t do it to fill time because you’re bored. Don’t do it “while” you’re looking for the one. Don’t do it because you’ve been looking forever and you’re tired.
When you entertain treatment or experiences other than what YOU want, you energetically send the message that THIS is good enough.
You won’t find quality relationships until you’ve decided to uplevel them. And this isn’t just about romance. It’s friendships, opportunities, all of it.
Your dream man (or LIFE) will never just fall into your lap. You’ve got to be decided first. You’ve got to be HER first. Think like her. Treat yourself like her.
That’s what calls in what you want, not entertaining a mess until he arrives.
Cut ties with what (and who) doesn’t align with where you’re going, and I promise you’ll see a whole new world.
DM me and tell me one characteristic in a man you’re DONE entertaining and settling for.
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