There is so much to think about and plan and organize when it comes to running a household and raising kids. No wonder moms are burning out when they are the ones carrying the majority of it.
I choose to believe that there are many men in relationships with women who genuinely think that asking for a list is a normal and logical thing to do.
But it’s not the answer.
Frankly, it just adds more work to the plate of their partners. It’s just another thing to do. It’s another thing to remember.
Let’s stop assuming that every part of managing the household is a woman’s responsibility to begin with, and start having open honest conversations early on about what mental parts of managing the household can be redivided.
What things can you redivide at home? Do you struggle to talk about the mental load?
Comment “Honest Motherhood” and I will send you the link to my memoir where I share my own journey with breaking from carrying too much in motherhood.
#motherhood #momlife #mentalload #sharetheload #divisionoflabor emotionallabor householdchores marriage
2 hours agodeejay4social
Woman have a huge mental load, men also have a huge mental load and on top also have to deal with woman
6 hours agolewis.pickers92
Women really be outing themselves on social media that they have bad taste in men and need to pick better 😂😂😂
17 hours ago_book_hoarding_
It's always worth trying to communicate though! It does work sometimes! My partner has gotten so much better when he realized
21 hours agoalphama.app
The list is not the answer, this is so right. Handing someone a list means someone still had to make the list, track the list, and update the list. The load is the remembering, not the doing. Real redistribution starts when both partners hold the same picture of what needs holding, so nothing lives in just one head.
a day agocolleeenrr
I will not allow my son to be this man, even though my ex is, in spades. That is the hill I will die on.
a day agocolleeenrr
Oh Libby. I love that you’re talking about this. I wish I had a positive experience when I asked him over and over to do his part, but I gave up and filed for divorce.
a day agomack_rowley
Jesus Christ shut the hell up. You take it upon yourself because you like to be in control. Here’s a crazy thought. Stop thinking for other people. Let them fail and they’ll learn how to do it themselves. But you take it upon yourself to handle everything because you want to be in control and then you play the victim about it. No one‘s forcing you. If someone misses a soccer practice because you didn’t remind them guess what the world will keep spinning and next time they’ll fucking remember by themselves, won’t they?
a day agoprisciladelagza
🙌 ok, this is true, but to be honest if my husband all of the sudden asked me to pay the bills, I would have to ask him what’s the website, username and password 😢 I have failed as an adult because I don’t know how to do that 😂
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