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Listen for most of my life, I felt like the ugly duckling. I felt like something about me was broken or not enough.

Even now, I’m not “there yet.” I still experience high-functioning anxiety. I still have moments of doubt, fear, and making myself smaller than I am.

But the difference is awareness.

Today, I’m building my dream life consciously. I’m learning how to regulate my nervous system, how to soften without losing ambition, and how to show up for myself instead of constantly criticising myself. I’ve become my own cheerleader.

Becoming her, your best self, isn’t about pretending you’re healed, confident, or fearless. It’s about choosing yourself daily, even when anxiety shows up, even when your inner critic tries to take control. It’s about learning to love yourself while you grow, not after you’ve “arrived.”

And, this is why I created the community where women like me can fully feel seen, and be celebrated for who they truly are.

Comment "BECOMING" and join women worldwide who understand how it feels to be a busy young woman who wants more from life while being different 🦢!

#becomingher #uglyducklingsyndrome #dreamlifecreation #transformation #selflovejourney #womenintransition #ambitiouswomen #nervoussystemregulation #becomingyourbestself by @becoming_her_empire

If you had met me a few years ago, you probably would have seen someone who didn’t love herself at all…

I was changing my body in the gym for approval of others. Trying to appear less “nice” with putting this bad b*itch image on myself. And being mean to people, because I didn’t know how to process my pain properly.

For a long time, I tried to fit in with others. Making myself smaller in all the possible ways.

But the life I have today started when I started choosing myself.

It started when I started slowly accepting my “ugly” parts.

It was messy, there was a lot of doubt, and there still is. But if I could have enough courage to make decisions to start building a life that felt right for me, even when other people did not understand it. Then so can you 🌹!

Because I know how it feels to want more from life and not know where to start while trying to heal big scars left from painful things in the past..

If you’ve always felt different and know you’re meant for more than the life you’re currently settling for, comment TRANSFORM and I’ll send you the link to book your free Meant For More call 🦢!

A space to talk about where you are, where you want to be, and whether working together feels aligned.

#createyourlife #healyourself #transformationalcoaching #womenintheir20s #meantformore by @becoming_her_empire

You know what’s f*cked up?

You can spend YEARS trying to fit into rooms where you have to constantly change yourself just to be accepted.

You pretend to like things you don’t like, you keep quiet when you want to speak, and you hide the parts of yourself you think might be too different.

And eventually, you start wondering if maybe YOU are the problem.

My response? You are f*cking not.

You’ve just been trying to belong in places that were never meant to see your value.

I know what that feels like, and it’s one of the
main reasons I created Swan BHE Community.

Something I needed when I was sitting alone in classrooms, weren’t invited in groups, and was rejected time, and time again for being too different.

Imagine Duolingo, but instead of learning a language, you’re learning how to become the best version of yourself. While making REAL connections with women who also didn’t belong, and also make an impact as 5% of your membership goes to the NGO you choose.

That’s the idea behind Swan BHE Community. A real safe space where you can finally be fully yourself, and make an impact.

Comment SWAN and come meet your people. 🦢

#becomeherempire #swanmembership #womenintheir20s #womenwhofeeldifferent #blacksheep by @becoming_her_empire

Nobody tells you how much of your old life you might have to let go of to become the woman you keep dreaming about.

And I’m not just talking about habits. Sometimes it’s friendships, relationships, family members. The need to be liked by everyone and the version of you that keeps saying yes when everything inside you is screaming NO.

I’ve had to let go of a lot of that s*it.

I basically had to kill a lot of older version of myself, especially the people-pleasing Lara. And trust me, she still makes an appearance sometimes 😂 . But we’re learning. Because here’s the thing you can’t keep choosing the same old patterns and expect a completely different life.

Your next level might look ugly as f*ck before it starts making sense. Why?

Because you will lose people you care about, change your identity, and deal with shadow part of yourself that you don’t want to. Life being chaotic at times, doesn’t mean that you’re doing things wrong.

So keep going, believe in yourself, even when the process is messy as f*ck. Your most powerful version is worth all of it. 🦢

Let me know in the comments what old version of yourself are you finally ready to say goodbye to?

#personalgrowthjourney #selfdiscoveryjourney #peoplepleasingrecovery #becomingyourself #becomingherempire by @becoming_her_empire

I’m still thinking about this Saturday.. 🦢

BE REAL: Create a life you f*cking deserve with AI was more than just an event. It was a room full of women having real conversations, and being fully ourselves.

We got real about how we see ourselves, who we want to become, and what the f*ck we actually want from our lives. And with our first special guest Maja Završnik, we learned how to make AI work for us, and we had a chance to create a plan for our next steps for the life we actually want.

In the last part of the event, we had networking. Where first our second special guest Dr Anastasia Dedyukhina shared her experience, and then we asked both of our guests questions without feeling too young or inexperienced as young women still figuring life out 💃.

And this is exactly why I built Swan BHE Community. To create a space I needed when I was sitting alone in the classroom, and nobody wanted to sit next to me as I was too different. For all my revels, black sheep, and wild women to have a space where you can be as weird, intense and real as you are, and nobody asks you to be somebody else.

The energy of the event will continue in the Swan BHE Community, which is finally live now! So if you are also done with not feeling like you belong, become a Swan Member, in a private global community for the women who also never fitted in. And 5% of every membership goes to an NGO you choose supporting women around the world, so you’re making an impact just by being in it.

If the BE REAL event made you think “I need more of this in my life,” you’re right. You do!

Comment SWAN and I’ll send you the link to join. Welcome HOME 🦢!

#becomeherempire #swanmembership #womenintheir20s #womenwhofeeldifferent #barcelonaevents by @becoming_her_empire

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Maybe you have big dreams but no f*cking idea where to start.

Or you’ve tried making plans, asking everyone for advice, or scrolling through other people’s lives, hoping something will finally click.

And somehow, you’re still here, wondering what the hell you’re supposed to do next.

I f*cking get it! I also was confused, and doubted myself a lot. However I used anger as my fuel, and my intuition to guide me. Let me tell you that it was not a linear line, and still isn’t. But I am getting closer, and so can you!

That’s exactly why I created a special experience for you where we’ll combine transformational coaching, AI, and real conversations to help you see what you really want, feel you can finally belong, and get clarity on your next steps.

Together with me, and our two special guests, Maja Završnik, and Dr Anastasia Dedyukhina, we’ll create an unforgettable experience for you 🦢!

📍 Barcelona | Saturday, October 31
⏰ 11 AM–12:30 PM

Are you ready to get f*cking real tomorrow? If you’re one of the real ones comment SWAN and I’ll send you the link to reserve your seat.

#barcelonaevents #real #womenintheir20s #aiforwomen #transformationalcoaching by @becoming_her_empire

What’s the f*cking point of Becoming Her if we don’t help other women rise with us? 👊🏻

Because while we’re working on creating the lives we want, there are millions of women and girls around the world who don’t even have the same opportunities.

And I wanted to change that, even if we start small.
That’s why I’ve built something special in the new HOME I will soon share with you. 🦢

Every month, 5% of your membership will go towards supporting initiatives that empower women and girls.
And YOU get to choose which NGO organisation you want to support.

You can even change your selection, with the change taking effect the following membership month.
These organisations are not official partners or affiliated with Becoming Her Empire. They are independent organisations I want to support through donations currently.

Because I don’t just want to build a community of women who always felt different. I wanted to build a community of women who help OTHER WOMEN rise with them.

And this is only the beginning. Comment SWAN, and be one of the first members 🦢!

#becomingherempire #womenempowerment #womensupportingwomen #globalimpact #swanbhecommunity by @becoming_her_empire

AI can give you a thousand different answers about your life, but it can’t tell you which one actually is right for YOU.

Sometimes, the problem is that you have too many ideas, and options running through your head that you don’t know which is right.

I know that can be overwhelming, and that’s exactly why I created BE REAL.

On October 31st in Barcelona, I’m creating a special experience for you where you can create a personalized plan for your future.

Imagine roses, Colombian coffee, real connections, and getting clarity that you deserve about the life you want or already are creating.

Together with Maja Završnik, a 5-time founder who educates women around the world on using AI to their advantage, we’ll help turn big ideas into a plan you can actually can work with.

While Dr Anastasia Dedyukhina, our second special guest will join us for networking. She is a global thought leader on digital wellbeing, two-time TEDx speaker, and founder of the Consciously Digital Institute.

📍 Barcelona
📅 October 31st

Comment SWAN to reserve your seat 🦢, and I can’t wait to see you there.

#barcelonaevents #selfdiscovery #personalgrowthforwomen #aiforwomen #transformationalcoaching by @becoming_her_empire

She is not who you are anymore!

Maybe you also learned to keep certain parts of yourself hidden, to become “less weird”, or more like them because being yourself seemed to push people away.

And I also did the same for years without even knowing it. I changed the way I dressed to look less “innocent”, I hid my intense energy because it was “too much” for most people, and I hid my head shaking, because it made others scared of me sometimes.

And I even unintentionally hurt others when the rejections, bullying, and isolation hurt too much, and I didn’t know how to process the pain in the right way.

These versions of me did their best to survive, and so did yours. This is why I am creating a HOME for you! A space where you can connect with other women who have felt different their whole lives, have REAL conversations, be fully yourself and also have fun.

Inside you will have a chat where you can connect with other members in a Swan Circle.

As well as SOS chat where you can write if you ever have an emergency situation where you feel isolated, rejected or are bullied. For any other extreme situations I will give you contact to turn to other professionals for help.

This is for my real ones, the women who felt like black sheep, aliens, and like there was something wrong with them since they were born.

It’s time we all gather, and turn s٭it around for us 🦢.

Are you also a real one? If yes comment SWAN and you’ll be one of the first members for the biggest global community for ducklings becoming powerful fucking swans.

#becomingherempire #InnerBHECircle #womeiintheir20s #womencommunity #uglyducklingsyndrome by @becoming_her_empire

Were you also always the different one?

The one who wanted more?

The one who never really felt understood, even when you were surrounded by “your” people?

If yes, you probably learned to make yourself smaller, hide parts of who you are, or pretend to be okay with things that never really felt right to you.

And honestly? That sh*t can hurt.

But what if you were simply born in a space where you were not meant to stay in?

The same way the duckling had to be a million times rejected to realise he was also a powerful swan. If you know the childhood tale…

You deserve friendships where you don’t have to shrink yourself to be accepted. A safe space where you can talk about your dreams, share your struggles, and be a work in progress without feeling like you have to explain yourself all the damn time.

And that’s a huge part of why I created the Inner BHE Circle.

A community for women in their 20s who have always felt different, who are figuring life out, and who want to surround themselves with women who really want to see them grow.

Comment “SWAN” and I’ll send you the link to join the Inner BHE Circle 🌹!

#womenintheir20s #femalefriendship #personalgrowth #womensupportingwomen #becomingherempire by @becoming_her_empire