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Drashti | Motherhood Legacy Grief Love

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Grieving daughter. Doting mother.
A millennial mom turning my mumma’s memories into my daughter’s inheritance.
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I’m raising Dua with my mother’s love, and my mother is gone.

If you’re a motherless mother, or grieving your mom while raising your child, this page is for you.

I’m turning her memories into Dua’s inheritance: one story, one recipe, one song at a time.

Tell me in the comments: what’s one thing your mom used to say that you still hear?

Send this to a mom who needs it today. 🩷

#motherlessmother #grievingmom #millennialmom #motherhoodandgrief #legacy by @maaqidua

Just a few ordinary things that I miss about my extraordinary Mumma, every single day. 💞

If you’ve lost your mom, I hope this made you feel a little less alone. 🤗

Tell me in the comments: what do you miss most about yours? And if you’re lucky to still have your mom with you, then tell me what’s the most ordinary yet special thing that you do / share with her every day?

Save this for the days you need it, and send it to someone who misses their mom too.

#missingmom #griefandloss #motherhood #momlove #grief

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This one’s for you my darling Mumma 💖

Thank you for giving me the gift of this life and teaching me how to live it well. 🤗

I hope I always make you proud. ✨

Keep showering your love and blessings on me from the heavens above. 😇

I love you always and forever till the end of time 😘❤️

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My mother is gone, but she isn’t missing from Dua’s life. I’m making sure of it.

Her recipes, her songs, her sayings, her blessings: this is the inheritance I’m building for my daughter, one small thing at a time.

If you’re a motherless mother, you’re not doing this alone. You’re allowed to miss her and keep her alive, both at once.

What’s one thing your mom left you that money can’t buy?

Save this for the hard days, and send it to a mom who needs it.

#motherlessmother #grievingmom #millennialmom #legacy #mothersdaughter by @maaqidua

Have you seen God?
Yes I have.

The days I spent in the hospital with my mom, brought me closer to God like never before.

He was present with my mom and me in so many different ways, times and forms.

There were many moments when I felt utterly helpless but just then I felt God’s presence right within me.

He was showing me what it means to fully trust and surrender to him. Let life unfold as per his plan and having faith that it was the best there could be.

If you too have felt God’s presence in your life, please let me know in the comments below.

Tag someone who was God for you in a hard time.

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What grief teaches me isn’t crying.

Crying is the part everyone sees. It’s the smallest part of what I’m learning.

Grief teaches me to keep showing up when my heart is somewhere else. It teaches me to make breakfast, answer “Mamma, why?” for the tenth time, and smile at my daughter while missing my mother so much it hurts.

It teaches me to notice things I used to rush past: her recipes, her habits, her voice in my own words. It teaches me that love doesn’t leave when a person does. It just changes shape and moves into the ordinary days.

And it teaches me that I’m not “getting over it.” I’m learning to carry it, and passing her memories on to my daughter as her inheritance.

If you’re grieving too, you’re not doing it wrong, whether you cry or not. 🫶

Save this for the day you need the reminder. Share it with someone who’s carrying a loss quietly.

What has grief taught you that nobody warned you about? Tell me below. 👇

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During my mom’s last days at the hospital, I learned that ‘being there’ is the ‘care’. In the ICU, where patients often can’t speak, a calm voice, a gentle touch and a steady presence say what words can’t.

To every attendant and caregiver sitting through those long hours: what you do matters more than you know.

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The bittersweet reality of motherhood and loss 🥹

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The journey of one and half months in the hospital ICU with my mom taught me many things.

These memories have impacted me in ways I probably cannot fully explain but the lessons I’ve learnt in these days will shape how I walk through this life ahead.

Here’s a detailed breakdown of what each of these experiences taught me:

1. Being in the hospital teaches you gratitude like nothing else can. Every person inside the hospital is either fighting for their life or is praying hard for their loved ones to be alright. When I spent 48 days in the hospital and sat outside the ICU, I constantly thanked god for just another day of being alive for myself and for my mom. Everyday was another chance to be grateful for the chance to live, to care for my mother, to love her a little more, to say things I hadn’t earlier and make each moment count.

2. When your loved one is admitted to the ICU and you’re going through the daily ups and downs, it is difficult to maintain a calm state of mind and a balanced disposition. But we need to remember that being kind and polite during our most difficult times is also a sign of great character and inner strength. I personally experienced the rewards of this kindness I gave. The way I spoke to and interacted with the security staff, the doctors the nurses, the medical teams on call and the patient care teams helped me in so many ways where they accommodated special requests with regards to my mother when I needed them the most.

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The journey of one and half months in the hospital ICU with my mom taught me many things.

These memories have impacted me in ways I probably cannot fully explain but the lessons I’ve learnt in these days will shape how I walk through this life ahead.

Here’s a detailed breakdown of what each of these experiences taught me:

1. The doctors and medical staff will always do their bit. But the most important role is that of the one person who takes the responsibility of being the caretaker and attendant to the patient when they’re in the ICU. Right from the dedication you show towards your loved one, the care you give, the questions you ask about their treatment, the decisions you take, the arguments you have and the advise that you challenge while being there make the real difference to how your loved one recovers or gets treated.

2. Most patients under critical care are unable to speak fully or express what they feel / want. In this situation, understanding their non-verbal communication becomes key. Now strangers like nurses, doctors and medical teams don’t know your loved one as much as you do. They may not always understand what the patient is trying to communicate. So you need to be able to understand and convey their needs to the medical team. This is a very integral part of ICU caregivers because the agony that a patient feels when unable to speak can sometimes lead to further distress and discomfort to them.

3. Shared grief has a profound influence on how you can cope with the pain and trauma experienced while caregiving in the hospital. In the waiting room, attendants of different patients find comfort and peace in talking to each other, praying together and sharing their feelings with each other. I met some amazing people in this very room at this hospital who helped me stay strong throughout my time there.

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A song that my mumma, me and Dua would sing together happily. This was her life’s philosophy which she passed on to my daughter and me, so beautifully.

The original writer and composer of this Gujarati poem and song “Ochintu Koi Mane” (“ઓચિંતું કોઈ મને”) is Dhruv Bhatt.

Dhruv Bhatt wrote the piece after an encounter with a joyful elderly farmer working along the Narmada River / Saurashtra region who, despite harsh conditions, responded with deep contentment when asked how he was doing.

This song inspires us to accept what life gives us with grace and live each moment with full gratitude and contentment.

If you also have a favourite song that connects you deeply to someone you love, please let me know in the comments below.

#motherhood #lifelessons #legacy #love #memories by @maaqidua

I will always make my Mumma proud by living my life to the fullest, because I know she’s watching over us and wants us to be truly happy while we still learn to live without her ❤️

Thank you, Mumma…for giving me the strength to carry on with the grief in my heart. ✨

#motherhood #grief #lifelessons #motherdaughter #momlife by @maaqidua