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Finding my person has not been easy. Every rejection is a redirection. My journey to find my soulmate has led me to deeply appreciate my Creator. I’ve learned the meaning of Tawakkul (trust), Sabr (patience), Shukr (gratitude), and Taqwa (God-consciousness). Allah tests our faith through trials. These challenges help us realise how much trust and patience we have in our Creator.

I received three insightful thoughts from my cousin, colleague, and mother:

1. Cousin: God knows the person we need to be with and is preparing us for that individual. You’re not the same person you were between 22 and 28. Your list of what you wanted when you were young differs from what you want now. Why? Because you’ve changed as an individual. Our marriage has been decided by Allah. We shouldn’t focus so much on this but on improving ourselves. When God thinks we’re ready for the person He has chosen for us, we’ll be growing.

2. Colleague: We often focus on how a person makes us feel, but we should really focus on how they treat us. When we fixate on our feelings, we might miss how their treatment may not be what we need. Is the feeling reciprocated? Do they bring us peace? Do they strengthen our faith? Butterflies don’t make a marriage, and attraction can only sustain a healthy relationship for so long.

3. Mum: We don’t control when we get married—that’s been decided by Allah. We need to “tie our camel” (do our part) and leave the rest in Allah’s hands. We should focus on what we can control, not on what we don’t know when or how will happen.

In the journey of finding “the one,” it’s essential to trust in Allah’s plan, focus on self-improvement, prioritise character over fleeting emotions, and maintain a balance between taking action and having faith—remembering that the right person will come at the right time, as ordained by our Creator.