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Posted On: May 14th 2026, 05:03 pm
A recurring theme that crops up in my corporate life has been a quiet sense of inadequacy.
It tends to surface in rooms where confidence of others is strong, opinions are certain, and there is little space for hesitation or questioning. In those moments, I notice my voice change. It becomes quieter, less clear and anchored… And in that tightening, something ironic happens. In trying not to appear uncertain, I sometimes begin to embody uncertainty
Yet there are other moments where the opposite is true. When I feel grounded, my voice is steady and clear. Not because I know more, but because I am less internally conflicted in expressing what I do know.
It leaves me with a question: how do we remain secure in our voice while still forming our thoughts in real time?
Because much of what gets labelled as inadequacy is simply the process of thinking out loud under pressure.
And yet we are rarely afforded grace to be unfinished in our thoughts.
We are expected to arrive fully formed, rather than be seen in the process of becoming clear.
It tends to surface in rooms where confidence of others is strong, opinions are certain, and there is little space for hesitation or questioning. In those moments, I notice my voice change. It becomes quieter, less clear and anchored… And in that tightening, something ironic happens. In trying not to appear uncertain, I sometimes begin to embody uncertainty
Yet there are other moments where the opposite is true. When I feel grounded, my voice is steady and clear. Not because I know more, but because I am less internally conflicted in expressing what I do know.
It leaves me with a question: how do we remain secure in our voice while still forming our thoughts in real time?
Because much of what gets labelled as inadequacy is simply the process of thinking out loud under pressure.
And yet we are rarely afforded grace to be unfinished in our thoughts.
We are expected to arrive fully formed, rather than be seen in the process of becoming clear.
Comments (4)
6 months agoshanikaur_x
This was so well articulated!! I’ve definitely had a few ego checks this week 😅. Best reminder to journey inwards 🙏🏽✨
6 months agoanoop.kaur.daas
Amen sista’, you’re onto something here! I think the practice and solution lies in being radically, genuinly and honestly our real selves (in a respectful way towards others of course) - no matter what the reality of that is moment to moment. As if our lives depend on THAT, and not on trying to be someone we are not (as the ego believes). Our lives really does depend on the former, in the latter case - we miss our lives. The Dalai Lama frequently replies ‘I don’t know’ to questions, even on live broadcast for the whole world to see. 🙏🏻
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