Motherhood After Reflux | Mum of 2 | UK

This one is difficult because almost everything that didn’t help was offered with the best intentions.

And honestly, I didn’t always communicate what I needed very well either.

I was overwhelmed. I didn’t know what I needed. I didn’t know how I’d feel from one day to the next.

“Let me know if you need anything” sounds so kind — and it is. But when you’re barely keeping your head above water, sometimes you don’t even know what you need.

I also found it hard when people wanted me to commit to plans when I genuinely couldn’t tell them whether I’d be able to come. Or when cancelling made me feel guilty.

And sometimes being offered a break from the baby wasn’t what I needed at all. I didn’t necessarily want someone to take her — I wanted someone to sit with me while I held her.

Looking back, I don’t blame anyone. I wasn’t very good at communicating it either.

I think I just needed people to understand that I wasn’t being difficult or unreliable. I was surviving a really difficult time.

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