Lola Rigdon

In my 40s I’m learning resilience, strength and embracing who I am. I’m trying to own my curls, my body and my voice. Learning that forgiveness can be with or without access, with or without out an apology - so I can release that pain and find peace and freedom.

I’m standing up for myself, even if it’s hard or uncomfortable or makes others uncomfortable. Even when it looks dramatic, because I am not going to be quiet anymore and will continue to defend who I am and my heart. I’m facing truths and taking accountability. I’m feeling empowered to take up the space and make the noise when I feel hurt or wronged.

And I’m grateful and humbled by my tribe. I finally feel safe in my world and the people I have around me that shower me with love, that take the time to listen and understand me. That ASK the questions, that seek the clarity. That call me out and challenge me to grow and learn. I never want to stop growing and learning.

And to those of you who left without being curious, without seeking clarity or coming to me first, I hope you have a beautiful life too. I’m still going to pour myself into the people I love and that love me back. It will no longer be a one way street. If you want my respect, loyalty and love you have to match it. And my door will still be open to anyone who leads with kindness and seeks truth.

I’m only a year and a half into this decade but I feel like it’s going to be a good one.