When your child dies, the future disappears. People tell you to take it one day at a time, but even that feels impossible.
I was just wondering how I was supposed to survive the next five minutes…and how I was supposed to take my next breath when the one before it hurt so much.
If someone had told me then that one day I would write a book about what grief taught me... that it would be published by Maria Shriver's imprint @openfieldbooks that it would carry the wisdom my son left behind... that it would find its way into the hands of people who needed hope and guidance that would change everything ... I wouldn't have believed them.
It wasn’t that I didn't believe in healing.
It was because I couldn't imagine ever feeling alive again.
And yet, here we are. And I am so grateful and excited.
Crying Out Loud is the book I desperately needed when the ground disappeared beneath me. It's everything I've learned as a therapist, everything I've lived as a grieving mother, and everything Sammy continues to teach me about love, loss, and what becomes possible when we stop trying to outrun our grief and learn how to move with it.
This book isn't about leaving your person behind.
It's about discovering that grief can become a doorway. That love doesn't end. That even after the unimaginable, life can slowly expand around the pain until one day you realize you're breathing again. Laughing again. Loving again. Living again.
If you're in the place where I once was, where tomorrow feels impossible and hope feels like it belongs to someone else, I want you to borrow mine.
Because I know now what I couldn't know then.
Your story…their story… isn't over.
If I could find my way here, I believe you can find your way forward too.
✨ Crying Out Loud: A Path Through Grief into a Life Reimagined is available for preorder now.
(Link in bio or go to Drlauraberman.com/cryingoutloud)
Every preorder helps more grieving hearts discover this message, and I can't wait to share it with you.
Thank you for walking this journey with me.
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9 days agojhartwell63
Thank you for speaking at Godmother’s last night and for writing this amazing book!
14 days agobryan_grijalva
You are such an inspiration! Thank you for being the lighthouse shining through the darkness for so many ❤️.
a month agoemilieintransit
This really touched me. I’m a divorced widow, and there have been moments when I couldn’t imagine feeling fully alive again either. Your words about life slowly expanding around the pain and learning to breathe, laugh, love, and live again feel like hope from someone who’s been there. Thank you for sharing your story and Sammy’s wisdom so openly. Congratulations on Crying Out Loud 🤍
3 months agoct_old_lady
Good article on “staying with your mate”. But I didn’t. He became a “grief bully”. even before her death he could not take responsibility for his actions- small things that added up. My grief therapist , who sat with us both separately after her death, said “you are not seen”WOW”. (My mistake for locating the same grief therapist who could see us at different times- is that ethical?) That comment HIT me like a brick!! How did I not SEE that? I’m smart….. but I took the blame he laid on me. I started to believe everything he said. All his generational trauma was dredged up. I’m sad for him. He loved her. I’m sad for me. I gave him 31 years. I’m praying for our son. My nervous system is better. I don’t have a purpose now. It’s 10 months in my new place with the new me who is still legally connected to him. I own 1/2 that house….. best wishes. I’m happy for you and your husband Sam.
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