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Posted On: July 26th 2026, 02:05 am
"Adolescence breeds oversharing. It is inevitable that groups of children, when forced to spend a lot of time together, are going to discuss the self-discovery process. It is not necessarily harmful — bouncing ideas off of others aids in the development of the individual. It can build morals and create strong relationships. But as time progresses, we become smarter and begin to better understand who we are and what we believe in. It should be easier to hold back on telling our confidants every minute detail of our lives, but in reality, it is not. This is because young adults have an unfortunately low level of trust in themselves.
To be blunt: Keep it to yourself. Not everything has to be analyzed, not everything requires a second opinion and even the people you trust most do not have to know everything about you. It is a difficult mindset to form, but at the end of the day, you are the only person who knows what you need. Accepting this and living by it shapes a level of confidence that many do not believe they are capable of. It can change your life for the better, and doing it during a transition period like your college years will work to create a strong foundation of security when the time for full independence actually arrives.
Although discussion and free thought is extremely important — especially in a time when critical thinking is discouraged — sometimes it really just serves as a waste of time. If you are facing a personal issue of sorts and go to multiple people for advice, it only delays the solution. Perspective is good: It can bring us to conclusions we would have never considered. But it has become apparent to me over the years that a lot of people are really just looking for reassurance. Deep down they already know what they are going to do but want validation from others before committing to that choice. It does not come from a place of wanting guidance, but rather a place of insecurity."
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✍️: Isabel Roth
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#DailyTargum #opinion #adolescence
To be blunt: Keep it to yourself. Not everything has to be analyzed, not everything requires a second opinion and even the people you trust most do not have to know everything about you. It is a difficult mindset to form, but at the end of the day, you are the only person who knows what you need. Accepting this and living by it shapes a level of confidence that many do not believe they are capable of. It can change your life for the better, and doing it during a transition period like your college years will work to create a strong foundation of security when the time for full independence actually arrives.
Although discussion and free thought is extremely important — especially in a time when critical thinking is discouraged — sometimes it really just serves as a waste of time. If you are facing a personal issue of sorts and go to multiple people for advice, it only delays the solution. Perspective is good: It can bring us to conclusions we would have never considered. But it has become apparent to me over the years that a lot of people are really just looking for reassurance. Deep down they already know what they are going to do but want validation from others before committing to that choice. It does not come from a place of wanting guidance, but rather a place of insecurity."
Opinions expressed by columnists are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Targum Publishing Company or its staff.
Tap the link in our bio to read more.
✍️: Isabel Roth
📸: Kaboompics.com / Pexels
#DailyTargum #opinion #adolescence
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