Farwa Kadhmi فروا کاظمى

Three months postpartum, and I finally feel ready to share my beautiful birth story. 🤍

Growing up, I was terrified of childbirth. Even seeing blood could make me faint. When I got pregnant with my first daughter, I remember shivering at my first appointment thinking, “I’m pregnant… but how am I going to get this baby out of me?”

Then I met Hafsa @hafsakq - She educated me, gave me knowledge and became my guiding light throughout both pregnancies & childbirths. Every woman needs a Hafsa in their life. ♥️
I went into my first birth wanting to birth without drugs, but towards the very end, I had a weak moment and asked for an epidural.

Three years later, pregnant again, I knew I wanted to try again.
We moved to the States and I found @twincitiesbirthcenter and it was everything I had ever imagined a birth space could be. This time I wanted to do things differently so I tried hypnobirthing @kghypnobirthing because I knew my biggest challenge last time had been mental. There comes a point in labor where your mind says, “I can’t do this anymore.” I listened to the hypnobirthing audios every night, and the visualisations helped me so much during active labor, especially with opening my body and letting go. The mind is so powerful, and when we learn how to work with it, we can do amazing things. I would 100% recommend Hypnobirthing.

Every time I said, I can’t do this, my support people held my hand and told me “You can. You’re already doing it.”
This time around I had extra support @heim.kat from my wonderful doula who understood the assignment. I felt so comfortable around her during our first meeting and knew instantly that I wanted her to be my doula.

I got asked why did I put myself through the discomforts when we have the drugs available now? 😂

The honest answer is: Because Allah has designed our bodies to do this. I kept listening to Surah Maryam during labor and thinking how He was there for Maryam (A.S), He doesn’t burden a soul more than it can endure.

I had a beautiful water birth. I truly felt my pelvis open and my body make way for my baby.

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