Reko Vitae

Read Caption 👇

Part of loving someone is recognizing how much we seek love from them, but more importantly how much we cut ourselves off from love.

Conditions and preferences are normal. They are part of a relationship.

But we often confuse them for love itself.

That is why heartbreak is so painful.

The love is still there, but the conditions aren't.

So we clamp down on love, rejecting the love we feel, hurting ourselves in the process.

There is an irony and humor to this.

We think we are sacrificing our own needs and desires to meet another person's, loving them the way they want.

But that is actually what we want to do.

We are still loving them the way we want to love them, and they are loving us the way they want to love us.

It will always be that way unless we commit to love beyond our conditions and preferences.

#love #intimacy #emotionalhealing #consciousrelationship #zenpractice