Lindsey Williams

Before you get offended, ask yourself what modern dating has actually taught us.

To sleep together before commitment. Move in together before covenant. Keep our options open in case someone better comes along. Pick apart every imperfection in another person while refusing to confront the selfishness in ourselves.

We’ve made dating an endless audition for someone better, and somehow convinced ourselves that the longer we audition someone, the more prepared we’ll be for marriage.
So we pretend. We entertain temptation. We give people access to our bodies and our lives while avoiding the conversations that could reveal we’re not even pursuing the same future.

And five years later, we’re shocked when it doesn’t work.

But here’s what I think we’re missing.
You will NEVER find a perfect person. And you are not one either.

We spend so much time dating to discover everything that’s wrong with someone, when marriage has taught me how much God needed to reveal about what was wrong in ME.
Marriage isn’t a reward for finding someone who meets every expectation you’ve created. It’s a covenant that requires you to confront your ego, surrender your selfishness, learn to serve, and love someone through their imperfections while God works on yours.

And that’s exactly why I believe the enemy (aka demonic spirits) would rather keep us distracted by temporary pleasure, endless options, and fear of commitment than see two people pursuing God together.

The world tells you to take your time finding someone who makes you happy.

God tells you to commit to a covenant quickly and seek Him.