Freeze gets misunderstood. People see it as checking out, shutting down, not caring enough to engage. But it's the opposite. It's your nervous system caring so much about your survival that it overrides everything else.
The parts of you that learned to go still, to disappear, to stop speaking, they're not broken. They adapted to conditions where speaking wasn't safe. And they're still here, doing what they know how to do.
The work isn't about forcing yourself to speak up or pushing through it. It's about meeting those parts. Building enough safety, in relationship, that your system can start to feel like there's another option.
Slowly. At your pace. Without the shame that usually comes with it.
What does freeze feel like for you when it shows up?