#deconstructing
I grew up in charismatic evangelicalism, where falling in line was often honored more than my humanity.
my faith was never dependent on a service.
but my nervous system was taught that it was.
I was taught to never miss a sunday service.
so when I stopped going to church, my body often felt unsafe.
it wasn’t until I realized that my connection with God never faltered, only the ritual around it changed, that I found comfort.
1) God was never as fragile as I was taught.
I learned that my faith didn’t disappear when attendance stopped.
God did not withdraw.
I wasn’t abandoned.
the structure changed, but the relationship remained.
2) my emotions mattered outside of worship spaces.
emotional expression was honored in public practices of worship, but not in everyday life.
I learned that God actually cared about my emotions in ordinary moments.
in quiet.
in grief.
in stillness.
people celebrated loud.
I learned how to celebrate quiet.
3) requires an exiling of self.
in high control systems, the system is honored more than the person.
needs, desires, and instincts are surrendered to keep the system intact.
and over time, you lose touch with what you need.
part of my healing was realizing it was actually okay to need something.
that honoring my humanity didn’t threaten my faith.
it deepened it.
#deconstructingfaith #deconstructing
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If you’re addicted to ‘true crime,’ it’s time to seriously consider why. Could your nervous system be addicted to trauma?
@dr.thema thinks so, and we have to agree. We’ll go even further to draw connection between the popularity of true crime within Amerikkka, one of the most capitalist and imperialistic cultures to ever exist, and how white supremacy functions within the society.
For Amerikkka to generate the amount of money it does, its workers must not only be obsessed with work, but also, fear. And what’s a better way to keep Americans chronically afraid than with an endless supply of ‘true crime?’
Unfortunately, even what we perceive to be our genuine interests have roots in white supremacy—such is the nature of that beast.
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#Deprogramming #HealingTrauma #NervousSystemDysregulation #WhiteSupremacyIsTerrorism #WhiteSupremacy #CapitalismIsKillingUs #UnlearnAndRelearn #Deconstructing #Anticapitalism #Antiracism #Unlearning #WhiteSupremacyCulture #Whiteness #BIPOC #StayCommitted #DoTheWork
I cannot thank creators, authors, and feminists enough for helping me deconstruct!
Capitalism and the Patriarchy influence the beliefs we hold about ourselves, our behaviors, others, relationships, what is wrong and right. They push us away from authentic attunement to our intuition.
If someone saying it’s important to deconstruct to understand your beliefs better feels uncomfortable, that’s something to be curious about.
#patriarchy #deconstructing #mentalhealth #therapy
Deconstructing is hard. It is scary. It is costly. But it is worth it. 💚
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#Deconstructing #progressivechristian #queerchristian #christian #lgbtchristian
Responding to "I Left MAGA Rant Update"
Deconstructing hurts. Accountability hurts. Both can be true at the same time.
Your pain matters but it doesn’t erase the harm others are still living with. Healing isn’t performative, and it doesn’t require a public audience
Original Video: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8xyr2Eb/
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#revkarla
Unhealed people are stopping you from healing. #healingjourney #deconstructing
apathy is a tool for oppression, but submitting to it is a choice.
doing so convinces us that our voices don’t matter, that the systems in place are too big to fight, that disconnection is the only option—which is all a carefully crafted lie.
this is your reminder: your awareness is a weapon. your words have weight. your presence is power.
come unlearn with us and @deconstructingkaren on april 5th in a virtual, DK-themed session designed for ww to ‘deconstruct your inner karen.’
biwoc, ‘healing in a world of karens,’ on april 6th is our a virtual, DK-themed session designed as a soft place for you to land.
let’s continue fighting apathy, together. 🫂
speaking: Prof. Cheryl I. Harris and her son @soapmanwun
source: @seastersjones
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#Deconstructing #ApathyKills #StayAngry #Unlearning #KeepFighting #KeepBelieving #ANewWorldIsPossible #UnlearnAndRelearn #JournalingCommunity #UnlearningRacism #TheUnwrittenClub #DeconstructingKaren
I have had every one of these said to my face. You don’t unhear the hate, the callous smugness of those who are happy you’re gonna “get yours” someday. You don’t unfeel the rejection, and you don’t outrun the inner critic and moral OCD without a ton of therapy and work.
#deconstruction #deconstructing #church #religioustrauma
“Why would a loving God create evil?”
#biblecontradictions #deconstruction #deconstructing #questioneverything #explore
@shannanwrites says her dad taught her this growing up on a farm in Ohio:
When you carry something heavy in one hand, carry something equally heavy in the other. You stop lurching. You pull back to center.
It sounds counterintuitive but it works.
This isn’t about counting our blessings. It’s about countering our weights. Acknowledging the things that are hard and challenging, the things that make us angry and exhausted — naming them — and then finding a way to counter them.
It’s not about perfect balance either. She says she doesn’t believe in that anymore.
But if we can find some things every single day that pull us a little bit off the ground, that help us move forward even in slow and small ways — that’s a win right now.
Listen to more about finding easy ways to balance the heaviness of the world today in this week’s episode of the Untidy Faith podcast.
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I’ll be playing a live show in LA on Nov 4 w/ a full band • hope to see you there 🫂
#popmusic #newmusic #queerartist #deconstructing #vocals
How can you support some questioning their faith? Give them space. Let them breathe. Don’t be threatened by their questions. If you’re someone who’s deconstructing their faith, send this to someone who loves you—so they can help support you in the way you need support!
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