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He might never say it.
But the thing he desires most from you… is how he feels around you.

🌹 Does he feel safe?
🌹 Does he feel free?
🌹 Does he feel peace?

That’s where his devotion begins.

Men need safety too.
Not from fixing or performing,
but from your presence, your softness,
your anchored nervous system.

If you’ve been giving too much and still feeling unmet,
this isn’t about doing more.
It’s about coming home to yourself,
so he can come home too.

✨ Comment PERTH and I’ll send you details to our Fundamentals of Tantra weekend - a 2-day workshop where we will help support you in softening your nervous system, awakening your feminine energy,
and becoming the kind of loving presence
that nourishes both you and him. by @_chantelleraven

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a year ago

Most couples are lacking presence and are looking into their phones more than they are looking into each other‘s souls.

Tantra is the art of slowing down enough to actually meet the person in front of you.

These practices may seem simple…
but when done consistently and with awareness, they can transform the entire field of a relationship.

Save this carousel and try these practices over the next week.

And if you feel the call to explore much deeper couples practices and guide others into this work…

Our Tantra Online Practitioner Training and Practitioner Retreat will teach you how to hold these experiences.

You can join them separately
or bundle them together for a lower price (shown at checkout).

Comment TRAINING and we’ll send you the details 🔥 by @_chantelleraven

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7 months ago

I’m Chantelle Raven, founder of Embodied Awakening Academy. I started this account early in my journey as a Tantra Teacher and I’m reintroducing myself as so much has changed, not just in my career, but in me. I’m a different woman from the one who started this account.

In my 30s, I was still trying too hard; to heal, get everything right, to improve my relationships, & to “work it out” when I felt uncomfortable instead of simply being with what is.

I wanted to be a perfect, unconditionally loving Tantra Teacher. In hindsight, it was a way of dealing with low self-worth. I put up with & dished out too much!

I didn’t know I deserved consistent love & abundance, & made myself wrong whenever I wasn’t receiving “enough”.

In my 40s, I realised that I’m a good woman who deserves my life to be aligned with my deepest longings, needs and desires.

At 47, I feel alive, peaceful, loved, free, abundant, & in the truest expression of my soul essence & dharma. It hasn’t always been easy. I had to keep trusting & honouring myself, relinquish conditioning, autopilot responses, reactions, the tendency to caretake, settle, distract, over-invest, & turn a “blind” eye.

I listened to my heart & body over my mind. I took risks, made my life more spacious, trusted my deepest desires, shifted my priorities, & started to truly love all of me.

The beautiful resonance I feel with my man, career and money are all manifestations of potent internal shifts.

The more I deepened in my practice of loving all me, the more receptive I became. Instead of constantly feeling I had to “be more” to receive what I wanted, I realised I was “enough” NOW.

This is my era of living in my complete naturalness.

I teach and guide on what I have experienced myself. I help you understand & master self-love, sex, relationships, & dharma at an embodied level so you can RECEIVE the most love, pleasure, ease and abundance possible!

Comment TANTRA101 & I’ll send you my free 8-day journey that will take you through the steps you need, to heal your self-worth wound and BE yourself.

Here’s to YOUR love & freedom! 🥂 by @_chantelleraven

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2 years ago

My biggest kink is being met in the depths.

I feel so grateful that I get to experience this with my beloved.

He gets curious when the conversation gets real. Can name what he’s feeling, listen to what I’m feeling, and let honesty bring us closer.

There’s something wildly arousing about a man with a rich inner life.

An inner and outer adventurer.
Who journals. Meditates. Contemplates.
Learns. Listens. Evolves.
Feels deeply and takes responsibility for what he does with those feelings.

A creative free soul. A musician who loses himself in the music. A nature lover who takes me to the best spots, plunges into the ocean, journeys deep into the forest and lets beauty move him.

He brings that same presence to me.

When I feel emotionally met, something in my body softens. My breath deepens. There’s more space for play, tenderness, mystery, spontaneity and desire.

I can reveal the parts of myself that need time, attention and trust to unfold.

I feel his depth in the everyday moments…his silence, his wise guidance, his willingness to hear an uncomfortable truth, his capacity to process his emotions rather than project them, the way we stay open when we see things differently and return to love.

Consistency lets that intimacy deepen. Each time his actions honour his words, I feel more able to open.

We have the chemistry. The laughter. The music spilling through the house. The pleasure that make us forget what the mind couldn’t solve.

And we keep discovering each other beneath it all.

This is something we practise together and I meet him there too. Willing to listen, reveal myself, and stay curious about the world within him.

There is so much more to know of someone than what’s on the surface.

Meet me where the conversation gets real.
Where silence feels close.
Where we can be fully human and still connected to Spirit.

What makes you feel met in the depths? 🌊 by @_chantelleraven

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Let’s talk through our bodies.

Through the warmth of skin meeting skin.
Through hands that ask and kisses that answer.
Through the tenderness, desire and mystery that come alive when we hold each other close.

Making love can open a conversation that we have been circling with words.

The tightness between us softens.
Desire shows us what is still alive between us.
Our hearts open beyond the walls of our mind.
Love is remembered.

Our differences may remain, yet we can meet them through a union that goes beyond duality.

Our bodies and our pleasure give movement to what we have been holding.

Our hearts speak.
Our bodies listen.

Sometimes there are things we need to understand or change.

Other times we just need to feel the love we keep trying to talk about.

I know your stories.
I long to feel what remains when they all fall away.

In the reassurance of your strong embrace.
In the moaning that spills into ecstasy.
In the appreciation that fills my heart when I feel you deeply with me.

My naked body is an invitation into my bare soul.

Feel the trembling beneath my confidence.
The vulnerability within my bliss.
My delight in being desired.
The merging that asks for my whole body.

Sometimes the deepest conversation begins where language runs out.
A gaze that makes me feel deeply seen.
Arms that draw me in and say, “I’m here.”

Send this to your lover.
Let it be the first whisper of a conversation beyond words that you’re longing to have✨

Candles @lavaluna.au by @_chantelleraven

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3 days ago

I spent the first part of my life believing success, money, a beautiful home, recognition, security, the right investments and being a good Italian caretaker were the most important things in life.

Then in my early 30s, I found Tantra…

Slowly, almost everything I valued began to change.

→ I started asking different questions:

Not how much money can I save or how successful can I become, but how can I live my life to the fullest and how free can I feel?

How deeply can I love?

How much of this life can I actually be here for?

Those questions changed the way I lived.

I began choosing time over security.
Presence over productivity.
Experiences over things.

Deep love, pleasure, nature, creativity, adventure, intimacy, beauty, long mornings, spontaneous afternoons, dancing barefoot, swimming naked, following the road simply because something in me wanted to know where it went.

The life I used to read about in my fantasy books stopped being an escape from my reality and became the magical life I was actually living.

I still love creating, having desires and dreams that pull me forward, but I no longer want them at the expense of my aliveness.

→ Tantra has taught me that a beautiful life isn’t something waiting for us at the end of all our striving.

It’s here - NOW.

In how deeply we inhabit our bodies. How fully we love. How much beauty we let ourselves receive. How courageously we follow what feels alive.

How fully can I experience this life?

That’s what I’m interested in ❤️ by @_chantelleraven

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We don’t need perfect relationships.

We need inspiring reminders for the moments our wounds take over.

Reminders that slow down the story.
Keep space from becoming abandonment.
Turn apology into repair.
Bring us back to responsibility, tenderness and truth.

This carousel is support for the moments when love feels hard and your old survival patterns get loud.

Save it for the next time you forget…

Your partner is not the enemy.
Conflict is not the end.
And relationships can hold both love and freedom.

Follow me for relationship wisdom that helps you love deeply without losing your autonomy♥️ by @_chantelleraven

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I spent my 30’s longing for a deeply aligned relationship while living out of alignment with myself.

My body said no, but my mind overruled it.

I wanted devotion, but accepted inconsistency.

I wanted emotional availability, but kept trying to initiate potential.

I wanted to be adored, reassured, validated and cherished without adoring, reassuring, validating and cherishing myself.

It wasn’t only in love that I was living out of alignment.

I wanted to surrender fully to my dharmic path, yet kept chasing opportunities and money at the expense of my soul.

Self-betrayal dressed up as determination, loyalty and persistence.

Inner alignment is when what you feel, know, say and choose all point in the same direction.

It’s honouring your deepest YES and trusting your clearest NO, even when it costs you the man, the opportunity, the fantasy or the future your ego desperately wants.

When you’re aligned, you stop settling, nagging, convincing and trying to love or change people into becoming right for you.

You see what is actually in front of you.

Does his behaviour match his words?
Can he meet me emotionally?
Do I feel desire, safety and respect?
Is this relationship aligned with the love I say I want and need?

When you’re disconnected from your truth, you cling to hope.

When you’re aligned, you trust reality.

You don’t chase consistency.
You don’t negotiate with incompatibility.
You don’t call anxiety chemistry.
You don’t abandon your needs to avoid being abandoned.

My relationship isn’t aligned because we never disagree, trigger each other or face challenges.

It’s aligned because neither of us has to betray ourselves to remain connected.

There is honesty.
Desire.
Respect.
Responsibility.
Shared vision and values.
Freedom to express our truth.
Evolution into the best versions of ourselves.

Alignment isn’t a relationship strategy. It’s a way of living.

I stopped settling everywhere. In my work, my home, my travel and the choices shaping my life. I started asking, “What feels like a full-bodied FUCK YES?”

How you do anything is how you do everything.

Relationship alignment begins with self alignment🔥 by @_chantelleraven

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The parts of you that you hate the most are not trying to ruin your life.

→ They are trying to communicate to you.

Your anger. Your jealousy. Your neediness. Your desire to control.
 The part that rescues everyone, then resents them for needing you.

→ Every time these parts appear, do you judge them, silence them or attempt through your will to make them disappear?

💡 What you reject within you does not disappear. It fights harder to be heard.

The invitation is not to eliminate the parts you dislike, but rather to turn towards them and get curious:

What are you protecting me from? What are you afraid will happen if you change? What do you need me to understand? How can I give you what you need without abandoning the rest of myself?

Perhaps your anger is asking for a boundary.
Perhaps your jealousy is revealing where you do not yet feel secure.
Perhaps your controlling part is exhausted from believing it alone must keep you safe.
Perhaps your rescuer keeps focusing on everyone else so you never have to feel your own vulnerability and unmet needs.

→ Acceptance does not mean surrendering your life to the shadow…

🔑 It means creating enough inner safety that the shadow no longer needs to fight for your attention.

When it is finally heard, its energy can begin to transform.

Fear becomes discernment. Anger restores self-respect. Need creates deeper intimacy and higher self worth. Grief reopens the heart.

This is integration; not eliminating the shadow, but listening deeply enough to discover what it has been carrying and welcoming that exiled energy home.

What we resist persists. What we embrace transforms.

🍯 Comment “QUEEN” if you want personal support with shadow work! by @_chantelleraven

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If you’re living from the outside in, you’ll look outside yourself to feel sexy.

Do I look good?
Do they desire me?
Am I enough?
What are they thinking?
Am I impressing them?

You become so practised at reading the room, anticipating desire, performing, TRYING to be sexy, seducing, that you lose touch with the most magnetic thing of all…

Yourself.

Your natural aliveness.
Your own pleasure.
What genuinely feels good and alive.

When you begin expressing yourself from the inside out, something shifts.

You stop asking:

“How should I behave?”
“How should I move?”
“How should I respond?”

And start asking:

“What wants to move through me?”

You stop looking for permission and become the permission slip.

You stop comparing and competing and start embodying your own unique essence.

That shift ripples into everything.

Into lovemaking, the way you dance, the way you take up space, the way you move through relationships, the way you express yourself and the way you live.

A woman’s deepest sexiness is never found in how hard she tries, or how well she performs, pleases or perfects herself.

It’s found in how wildly, unapologetically and fully she inhabits herself.

Her truth.
Her pleasure.
Her naturalness.
Her fire.

She doesn’t need you to validate or complete her.

She knows her worth and chooses you from the fullness of who she already is.

Save this carousel for the moments you forget that your deepest magnetism begins when you are unapologetically you🔥 by @_chantelleraven

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Movement returns my life force.

It wakes me up out of numbness and clears stagnation.

It exhales the noise and I start to remember; You’ve got this. Come back to the moment. Trust life.

→ I believe that movement is Shakti: creative energy, a power so much greater than the mind.

I’ve always been willing to shake my booty, even when I don’t necessarily feel like it, because I know it’s the thing that always gets me out of a funk.

→ The more I trust the natural impulses in my body, the more my heart opens and energy returns.

Next time you feel stuck: MOVE!

Try this sequence, then free flow.
Trust the next little impulse of your body.

That’s how you stay charged 🔥 by @_chantelleraven

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The feminine isn’t all sunshine and rainbows…

She is wild. Unpredictable. Sometimes a little nuts. And absolutely overflowing with untameable Shakti.

She has tenderness AND teeth. She can be deeply still one moment, then dance the whole damn room awake in the next.

I want to make room for ALL of her.

💡 Here are 5 simple practices that help me stay connected to the fullness of my feminine Shakti:

1️⃣ I don’t take myself too seriously.

Every morning, I dance like a wild thing; I shake, sound, jump, stomp, sway and flow. 
I let my body move before my mind decides how it should look.

2️⃣ I spend time in nature every day.

Bare feet on the earth. Face in the sun. 
Mother Nature reminds me: I don’t expect her to be gentle all the time, why would I ask that of myself?

3️⃣ I protect my energy.

I notice what leaves me feeling alive and what leaves me feeling drained. I choose carefully where my attention goes.

4️⃣ I make space for joy and silliness.

I laugh with my kids and friends. Make weird noises and ridiculous faces. Sing whatever comes out. Cuddle dogs in the street. 
There’s something freeing about forgetting to be impressive and letting myself have FUN.

5️⃣ I dance with life instead of trying to control it.

I practice loosening my grip on how everything should unfold and feeling how I want to meet what’s here.

My feminine feels most alive when I give myself room to feel, move and express what’s actually here.

Softness. Fire. Grief. Pleasure. Mischief.

All of me is loveable! by @_chantelleraven

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