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@aprilweng_

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Helping ambitious parents build a family life they love
NYU/NYC corporate → full-time mom³
marriage • money • kids

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Hi, I’m April & I’m a new family content creator.

My hope is that I can help, inspire, and show how I approach life as an ambitious 36-year-old mom of three. (My kids are currently 4, 3, and 1!)

During my 10-year NYC stint, I spent my time climbing the corporate ladder, paying off debts, and earning an NYU MBA. I met my husband who was also an MBA student at Columbia.

When it comes to parenting, I take inspiration from my lovely MIL and my cousin bff in Korea. I’ll be sharing what I learn along the way. I hope you’ll join me.

Thank you for being here! 🤍✨ by @aprilweng_

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Mindset shifts I needed as a mom of one, not a mom of three (as a post-MBA to SAHM who overthinks):

1. A spill is not an emergency. It took me until my 3rd child to realize that spills happen, outfits get destroyed, and random things get sticky - and none of that reflects badly on my kids or me. They’re little humans learning to control their movements and impulses. I can take a deep breath and clean it up.

2. Asking for help doesn’t make me a weak mom. I honestly believed that doing everything myself would prove something. Prove something to whom?! I was independent my whole adult life, so admitting I needed help was hard. It took more emotional crises than I’d like to admit before I finally started to ask for more help with each additional child.

3. You can plan for everything, but you can’t control everything. With my firstborn, I wanted things to be a certain way: birth, breastfeeding, sleep, even which toys and teethers he’d like. But kids are their own little people, with their own needs, preferences, and personalities. With three, I’ve realized that motherhood becomes a lot of controlled chaos. Focus on what you can control & learn to roll with the rest.

4. Childcare is a tool, not a moral statement. My first went to daycare at five months because I needed to return to work. With my second, we pieced together help from my in-laws. By the time our third came along, hiring a nanny to care for all three made more financial sense for our family. All those methods are fine; when your kids are in trusted hands, you don’t need to justify your choice to anyone.

5. Comparison? DON’T DO IT. You’re really doing the best that you can with what you have. That may look and feel so different from how other moms parent - even your best friend. Take inspiration from other moms. Learn from them. But give yourself permission to do things differently & figure out what works for your family.

Where are my baby and toddler moms?! Which mindset shifts are you still working on? Tell me in the comments, and follow for more honest mom thoughts @aprilweng_ <3 by @aprilweng_

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Yes, we really used a Groupon for our wedding! 😂

My ring is sentimental for more than its monetary value. Watching my husband research diamonds, tap his business school network for a trustworthy dealer, and make sure it was exactly what I wanted showed me the thoughtfulness of the person I was marrying.

I wanted to return the favor with something he’d appreciate, too. He hates things that lose value, so I found something that could hopefully grow in value over time.

Our wedding? It was barely post-COVID, our friends were starting new post-MBA jobs, and we wanted to get married without the fuss. While on his business trip to Vegas, we passed a chapel. He joked, “Wouldn’t it be funny if we got married in Vegas?”

We looked at each other. Why not? We’d get married and have a story to tell our kids. The Groupon sealed the deal. 😆

We LOVE weddings, though! Someday, we’ll celebrate with friends and family, with our three little ones there, too. 🤍

For someone trying to build family life on their own terms, that’s what strategic frugality can look like: spending generously on what matters to you and less on what doesn’t. Like Groupon-level less.

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Hi, I’m April. I share the money decisions, relationship lessons, and life trade-offs behind building a life you love, currently with three little kids in the mix.🤍 by @aprilweng_

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Time freedom does not happen by accident.

I’m a stay-at-home mom of three, four and under, with a full-time nanny, and our money strategy is very unglamorous: we rent, we drive a paid off car, I buy less designer, and I resell anything with value on Marketplace.

We’ve realized that my mental health matters to our family dynamics, so these are the big-ticket trade-offs that we’ve made.

That’s how we buy support, calm, and a little more life back. by @aprilweng_

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I did not realize how much motherhood would ask me to let go of control.

Before I had my son, I had a whole little picture in my head.

I imagined being the ambitious, organized, 30-something mom who would still somehow make natural birth, breastfeeding, perfect sleep, cute outfits, and leaving the house with a baby look easy.

Then real motherhood showed up.

He had his own opinions about feeding. My body had its own recovery timeline. Sleep became fragmented. Getting out the door felt like a full event.

And the part I didn’t expect was how much grief can live inside gratitude: loving your child deeply while quietly mourning the version of motherhood you thought you’d have.

✍️ Comment “same” if this was your experience too.
↗️ Send this to a mom going through it.
🤍 Save this for when you need a reminder that all of this is normal. by @aprilweng_

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More like mommy vs. three 💀

I thought I’d have motherhood all figured out. But kids will truly wreck you and your perfect plans.

Let’s not do that again 😅

What’s the most chaotic thing you’ve attempted with all your kids in tow? Tell me I’m not alone.

mom of 3, mom life, toddlers, mom creator, mom humor, sahm, realistic motherhood by @aprilweng_

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Send this to a mom who dishes it right back 😏
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toddler mom, family time by @aprilweng_

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Everything is fine 🙂
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What is your ‘everything is fine’ moment today? by @aprilweng_

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23 days ago

The last one though ⚰️

My 4-year-old has been trying alll the sports over the last couple of years. At this age, he’s so fickle and the last thing I’d want is to commit to 10 classes and battle him to every class to get our money’s worth (ask me how I know😭).

So now I use trial periods and local county programs so we can cancel early on if he’s not into it.

For us, it’s:
* Phase 1: try
* Phase 2: narrow
* Phase 3: commit

We keep it casual and save the bigger time-and-money investment (like private options) for later. If he quits, no problem! On to the next. by @aprilweng_

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a month ago

Soft girl heart, tiger mom era loading 🐯

Are you becoming someone new this season?

Follow along! We’ll figure it out together. by @aprilweng_

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Looking back, the biggest value wasn’t just having someone care for the baby. It was having someone care for me during a huge transition.

I’m grateful I had the ability to hire that support.

But support doesn’t have to look like a $16,000 postpartum nanny. It can look like a partner taking the night shift, a mom bringing dinner, a friend watching your toddler, or someone simply checking in on you.

Moms need care, too. 🤍

Who helped you the most during postpartum? by @aprilweng_

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Spending time with my Korean postpartum eemo (산후조리사) completely changed the way I thought about “normal” baby care. 🇰🇷

I loved learning from her—and was surprised by how many similarities I noticed with Chinese baby-care practices too (my MIL is Chinese).

That’s what’s so fascinating about parenting across cultures: what feels like the right way is actually just one way.

Which one surprised you most? 👀

@bugaboousa by @aprilweng_

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