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A great day doing health checks for staff and brilliant opportunities for health coaching! It’s brilliant to see organisations like #bclm living museum taking a proactive approach to supporting staff wellbeing! #staffwellbeing #coaching #healthchecks #letstalk #mentalhealth #nhs by @aproperchat

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2 years ago

Hoping you have managed to rest over the festive period.

This was without doubt my favourite post over Christmas and a brilliant reminder of why knowing your people is so powerful.

In this case, a student took the time to stay curious and find out more about someone else. This act of kindness gives hope that we can all give something that is free.

Kindness & Love 💛
 #coachingforeducation #wellness #teaching #coachingschools #coachinginschools #happymind #mindful #teacherwellbeing #prioritisewellbeing #mentalhealth #schools #behaviourchange #change #CoachingForChange #PositiveParenting #behaviour #StaffWellbeing #motivationalinterviewing. Credit unknown by @aproperchat

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3 years ago

This year I have worked hard to drop assumptions, biases and certainty and taken a much more coach like approach to as many interactions with people I know.

The thing that has taken me by surprise has been my own assumptions around the christmas period. In many recent coaching conversations I have found that this is actually a really challenging, tender time for many people.

Christmas can feel all consuming, everyone is seemingly surrounded by family, love, friends while for many life can feel empty and lonely at this time of the year.

So, I have worked hard to lean into conversations with people who I know are struggling this month. It’s all to often to wonder if I should just leave them to it. Will I say the wrong thing?

We can all approach christmas in a kinder, compassionate and considerate way.

A reminder that someone you work with might:

💛 Be grieving a recent loss of a loved one
💛 Struggling with their own mental or physical health.
💛 Experienced a life event such as a relationship break up.
💛 Is really struggling to afford the basics let alone additional treats.

Be kinder by leaning into these conversations. You don’t need to say the perfect thing just being there for another is all you need. If you do worry about what to say, here are some examples.

I’ve also found myself asking ‘what’s christmas like for you?’ A curious question that first helps you better understand another’s reality.

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 #coachingforeducation #wellness #teaching #coachingschools #coachinginschools #happymind #mindful #teacherwellbeing #prioritisewellbeing #mentalhealth #schools #behaviourchange #change #CoachingForChange #PositiveParenting #behaviour #StaffWellbeing #motivationalinterviewing by @aproperchat

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3 years ago

How often do you jump to offer your thoughts? Give advice? Share your perspective?

Often this comes from a good place, as teachers we are almost programmed to be the advice givers, experts or be the fountain of knowledge.

I know that this can be an exhausting place, particularly as a leader. The more advice you offer the less empowered our teams can become and know matter how experienced you are there is no guarantee that what you have to offer will help that person.

When I started asking permission I noticed a powerful shift in behaviour change. People are far more inclined to change when they feel a part of the process of decision making rather than being told what to do.

As a health and wellbeing coach in the NHS, the righting reflex is something that constantly needs honing and I have found pausing and asking permission as the most effective way to control this.

Are there any other ways that you avoid defaulting to advice giving?
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 #coachingforeducation #wellness #teaching #coachingschools #coachinginschools #happymind #mindful #teacherwellbeing #prioritisewellbeing #mentalhealth #schools #behaviourchange #change #CoachingForChange #PositiveParenting #behaviour #StaffWellbeing #motivationalinterviewing #rightingreflex #motivationalinterviewing by @aproperchat

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3 years ago

Most teachers are great at offering praise. Often students are unaware of what it actually was that warranted the praise. We have unintentionally created praise monsters.

However, when we choose to affirm a student we are recognising their innate strengths and achievements and focussing on skills that are truly meaningful.

For example:

Praise: well done Lenny.

Affirmations: I noticed how determined you were to get that task completed. Well done Lenny.

Here’s some to try today 💛
 #coachingforeducation #wellness #teaching #coachingschools #coachinginschools #happymind #mindful #teacherwellbeing #prioritisewellbeing #mentalhealth #schools #behaviourchange #change #CoachingForChange #PositiveParenting #behaviour #StaffWellbeing #motivationalinterviewing by @aproperchat

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3 years ago

When you design school policies how often do you include, consult or engage the people who will be directly impacted by it?

How often is the person, their life, their individual circumstances factored into decision making?

We encourage your organisation to take a people over policy approach. Will you make the courageous move to create policy that really works for all involved?
 #coachingforeducation #wellness #teaching #coachingschools #coachinginschools #happymind #mindful #teacherwellbeing #prioritisewellbeing #mentalhealth #schools #behaviourchange #change #CoachingForChange #PositiveParenting #behaviour #StaffWellbeing #motivationalinterviewing by @aproperchat

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3 years ago

When teachers are well the whole school community is well.

These are my personal 10 tried and tested non-negotiables for staying well and healthy at work.

As a teacher, these are rules that enabled me to have the energy to do the job well as such, there was no negotiation on these. Not now. Not ever.

What do you do to stay healthy at work?

#staffwellbeing #coachingforeducation #wellness #teaching #coachingschools #coachinginschools #happymind #mindful #teacherwellbeing #prioritisewellbeing #mentalhealth #schools #behaviourchange #change #CoachingForChange #PositiveParenting #behaviour #staffwellbeing #lateness #schoolbehaviour

#healthyteachers #fitnessforteachers by @aproperchat

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3 years ago

What’s the response you frequently hear when a student is late to lesson?

Are you furious that a student has such a lack of respect for your lesson? Or do you remain curious to find out what is really happening for that young person?

Instead of launching into sanctions our coaching approach equips you with the tools to use a wider range of styles, starting with engaging, guiding and finally directing.

When we engage with students we are open to finding out what is happening for that young person rather than jumping to blame and shame.

If we stand alongside a young person and try to help them better understand their behaviour we empower them to do something about it.

I know as a teacher a lack of punctuality was a particular trigger and it’s all too easy to want to find the fix or rush to applying sanctions.

This approach will support your aims to remain clear and firm whilst trying to support a young person to change.

What are your thoughts?

#staffwellbeing #coachingforeducation #wellness #teaching #coachingschools #coachinginschools #happymind #mindful #teacherwellbeing #prioritisewellbeing #mentalhealth #schools #behaviourchange #change #CoachingForChange #PositiveParenting #behaviour #staffwellbeing #lateness #schoolbehaviour #coachingworkshop by @aproperchat

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3 years ago

We have always loved this quote by #brenebrown

We need braver leaders and more courageous cultures.

🚫No to hero leadership
🚫No to burnout management
🚫No to skirting around the concerns and tender subjects.

Being clear with another is the most compassionate and kindest thing you can do. Leaders who lack courage to say it as it is potentially cause greater concerns.

They foster a culture of avoiding the tough questions or giving productive feedback. So, leading to organisations that struggle to be open, supportive to encourage risk taking.

How have you been clear this week?

#staffwellbeing  #coachingforeducation #wellness #teaching #coachingschools #coachinginschools #happymind #mindful #teacherwellbeing #prioritisewellbeing #mentalhealth #schools #behaviourchange #change #CoachingForChange #PositiveParenting #behaviour #StaffWellbeing @brenebrown #brenebrownquotes by @aproperchat

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3 years ago

Walk into any school in December and you will often find students and staff hanging on for the holidays.

This doesn’t have to be the case, you don’t have to commit to activities that drain you at a time of year that already feels exhausting!

What are you doing to protect your wellbeing at this time of the year?

#christmas #staffwellbeing  #coachingforeducation #wellness #teaching #coachingschools #coachinginschools #happymind #mindful #teacherwellbeing #prioritisewellbeing #mentalhealth #schools #behaviourchange #change #CoachingForChange #PositiveParenting #behaviour #StaffWellbeing by @aproperchat

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3 years ago

Our easy to follow grief guide - if you are a team leader/manager/HR lead what else would you add? #griefjourney #griefawarenessweek #coaching # by @aproperchat

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3 years ago

It’s national grief awareness week and many would agree that bereavement and loss can be a tender topic to discuss at work. We believe it shouldn’t be, the most supportive organisations are compassionate, human and proactive.

Have you recently had a conversation with someone about loss? Perhaps you felt supported or not? In coaching, I often find this is a topic we all need to lean into far more. There is no perfect response or ideal way to handle someone else grief. In fact, the more we become comfortable with holding the space and not trying to find the fix the situation for another person the better placed we are to listen.

In schools, I often hear of worrying policies that simply don’t support our colleagues during the grieving process - share your experiences below 👇🏼

 #coachingforeducation #wellness #teaching #coachingschools #coachinginschools #happymind #mindful #teacherwellbeing #prioritisewellbeing #mentalhealth #schools #behaviourchange #change #CoachingForChange #PositiveParenting #behaviour #StaffWellbeing #motivationalinterviewing #grief @griefawarenessweek
#griefweek #crusebereavementcharity #bereavement by @aproperchat

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