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Ben Mills

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For years I’ve journaled and spoke about her to all my friends.

The woman that I will raise four kids with. Someone smart, kind, self aware, who follows God, and loves steak as much as I do. My “future wife”

But when I finally met her, I realized something. Nothing about what I had spoke about is why I wanted to marry her.

It was never really about her checking boxes on a list titled “future wife”

My life changed with her in it because of the way she loves me for the effort and not the result. The way she’s helped me grow in business, my self reflection, and to be closer to God. It’s the fact that I’d trust her to raise our children even if I passed.

And now I promise to be the man that protects all of that, as we build a life together.

My wife, my Dezerae.
08.08.26 taken in Santa Teresa, Costa Rica by @benxmills

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It only takes 6 months to change your entire life by @benxmills

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Habits that are keeping you average… by @benxmills

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Nobody can do the work for you.

Everything you want, to be shredded, make internet money, to be respected, and find your future wife

It’s on the other side of first cutting out the bad habits you know you need to stop. Maybe you’ve been doing them for years and think there’s no way.

But that’s what’s holding you back. You don’t need any new routine or new habits to start doing. First cut the ones that are holding you back.

Start by adding friction. If you want porn before bed then put your phone in another room when you get ready to sleep.

Set out your clothes to hit one workout on a morning.

You nail one day, then another. and another.

Before you know it, that consistency turns into momentum, and success comes with momentum.

If you have any questions, drop it in the comments.

My name is Ben, and my goal is to help you become the most masculine, best version of yourself. If you want more men’s self improvement, hit the follow. by @benxmills

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“TOXIC” behaviors that every man should do by @benxmills

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The 3 stages of self improvement by @benxmills

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As someone who’s always seeking to do more, and get the most out of life… I used to be very guilty of shiny object syndrome.

The second the dopamine ran out on what I was doing, I’d convince myself I should pivot and go do something else.

Every time I started lifting, I wanted to do calisthenics.
Every time I posted a talking head, I thought I should post hyper-edited storytelling.

Every time I traveled, I missed home. Every time I was home, I wanted to travel.

But if you want to be successful in anything, you have to be consistent and stick to one thing long enough to actually see it work.

It’s cliche but the grass isn’t greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it. by @benxmills

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In 2024 I dropped out of pre-med at Northeastern University.

Instead of becoming the doctor my parents and everyone expected, I chose to go all in on posting content.

But I was making no money.

I ran up over $20K in credit card debt trying to make it work.

Then the girl I was dating broke up with me, and I found out she had been cheating on me.

So I moved back into my parents’ house, broke and embarrassed.

I promised myself one year of giving content everything I had.

Then at the beginning of 2025, after several months of grinding and posting daily, I signed my first client and made $5K.

Then $6K. Then $8K. Then my first $10K month.
Somewhere in there, I met the woman I was going to marry.

We hit my first $27K month. We started traveling together. We built the life I used to only write about in my journal.

In August of this year, we officially got married.

And I just recently hit my goal of 250K followers while filming this from Bali.

It’s cliche to say this but it’s crazy how fast life can change when you go all in on what you love and refuse to give up. by @benxmills

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When I first started posting TikTok’s back in college, my “friends” all thought it was so cringe.

I got called ‘fatphobic’ and ‘transphobic’ for saying that men should dress better, and go to the gym to become jacked so they can be more attractive to women (crazy concept I know).

I stopped going to parties. I stopped drinking every weekend. I started saying no to things I used to say yes to because I wanted to stop being just a skinny broke college kid.

I started training in the gym more, and got called a “try hard gym bro.” and it use to get to me.

But thing is, these people will judge you no matter what you do.

Now more than two years later, most of them are still exactly where they were or worse. Working a job they hate. Hanging out with the same people, talking about how “college was peak.”

And here’s the thing, I almost joined them.

The worst thing I did was stop posting for a period of time to try and do what everyone else was telling me to. Go study pre-med and become a doctor.

Then after one semester I finally decided to stop listening to everybody else and go all in on what I actually wanted out of life. To be a creator. To make money. To get shredded. Find my future wife.

Two years later, I’m traveling here in Bali and I’ve achieved all those goals and I’m striving for more.

So regardless of what your friends, parents, coworkers, or anyone else says… Just do what you actually want. by @benxmills

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You don’t need $10k/mo taken in Canggu, Bali by @benxmills

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“Toxic” behaviors that EVERY man should do. by @benxmills

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Every side quest maxxer’s dream location taken in Oahu, Hawaii by @benxmills

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