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Danita Fitch Davis

@danitadavis_lmft

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>Lic. Marriage & Family Therapist
>Kink & Sex informed

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☀️ F’N 🪽around and finding out is part of the magic.🪄

We didn’t come to play it safe — we came to get lost,
get loud, and get found in the middle of the Siwa dunes.

4x4s flying through golden 💛sand, sun ☀️ kissing 💋 our skin, laughter🤩 echoing like ancient chants💫.
Every wild turn was a portal.
Every risk, a revelation.

Because when you stop trying to control
the outcome, the universe shows off.

We thought we were just exploring the desert, but it was the desert doing the exploring.

This is what happens when you follow the thrill⚡️, flirt 🫶🏼with the unknown, and let your higher 🙌🏼 self take the wheel.

⚡️ Sometimes the only way to remember who you are… is to f*** around and find out.

And when you remember — when you ⚡️reactivate ⚡️the version of you that’s magnetic, 🧲 radiant, ☀️ and fully expressed —
everything else starts to fall into place.

That’s where the real 🌟glow🌟 up begins.

✨ Glow Up Your Vibe isn’t just a program — it’s your initiation into remembering who in the. . .🩵🪽”HEAVEN ON EARTH” you came here to be. . .

✨The frequency shift.✨
✨The embodiment.✨
✨The alignment that makes life start moving for you.✨

⚡️Ready to find out what happens when you stop holding back?⚡️

🔗 Tap the link in bio and step into your next level self!
The 🪽glow ⭐️up 🪽starts
The moment you remember.

#VibeHeal #GlowUpYourVibe #Siwa #divine #luxury #frequency #Unbeaten #path #magnetic #HigherSelf #desert #alchemy #catalyst #fun #ThrillOfBecoming taken in Siwa Oasis, Western Desert, Egypt by @danitadavis_lmft

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Self acceptance, self empathy, self compassion, surrender, let go, serenity now! 😜❤️ by @danitadavis_lmft

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🐶🙏🌏 by @danitadavis_lmft

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When a partner interrupts, derails, or hijacks conversation, it’s not just “bad communication.” It changes the emotional climate of the relationship and, over time, the erotic climate too.

What it does to intimate connection (sexual and relational)
• Desire needs safety and spaciousness. If she doesn’t feel emotionally held in conversation, her body often won’t open sexually. Many women experience this as: “I love you, but my libido is gone.” It’s not a mystery, it’s nervous system logic. It builds resentment, not longing. Resentment is basically desire’s cold shower. She may start avoiding not just conversations but touch, because touch can feel like an invitation to more disconnection.

What she often starts believing (even if it’s not true)
• “My feelings are inconvenient.”
• “I have to fight to be heard.”
• “If I’m honest, it won’t go well.”
• “He cares more about being right than being close.”

What he often is trying to do underneath (common drivers)

Not excuses, but helpful to name:
• Anxiety and urgency (fear of being wrong, misunderstood, or “in trouble”)
• Poor impulse control or ADHD-style conversational impulsivity
• Shame spiral (interrupt, then “sorry sorry sorry,” then withdraw)
• Low distress tolerance (derail to escape discomfort)
• Control as a safety strategy (steering conversation to feel less vulnerable) by @danitadavis_lmft

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Life….would you stop Life’ing for a minute please!

#ftmorgancolorado by @danitadavis_lmft

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What it can look like in real time

In the body
• Sudden numbness, heaviness, “far away” feeling
• Eyes glaze, staring, slow blinking, flat face
• Shallow breathing, frozen posture, yawning
• “I can’t feel my hands,” tingles, lightheadedness

In the mind
• Losing the thread of the conversation
• Words sound muffled or “far away”
• Time jumps, memory gaps (later: “I honestly don’t remember what you said”)
• Feeling unreal, like watching yourself from the outside

In behavior
• Going quiet, monosyllabic answers, “I don’t know”
• People-pleasing autopilot: nodding yes while internally gone
• Sudden irritability or “check out” behaviors: phone, leaving the room, spacing out

Why it happens more with a partner

Intimate conflict can poke the most tender places: attachment fear, shame, abandonment alarms, feeling controlled, feeling like you’ll “fail,” or feeling trapped. For many people, closeness + conflict equals threat, and dissociation is the nervous system’s way of avoiding escalation.

Common triggers in couples:
• Feeling criticized, cornered, interrogated, or “on trial”
• A partner’s raised voice, fast pace, or intense eye contact

A quick distinction (important clinically)
• Stonewalling is a protective shut down that still has some engagement/choice.
• Dissociation is more like an involuntary “power saving mode” with memory and sensory changes. by @danitadavis_lmft

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HAPPY VALENTINES DAY💖❤️💛💚💜💙 by @danitadavis_lmft

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Finished the certification through Sexual Health Alliance! Super grateful for all the leaders and educators in the field of Human Sexuality! I love my education through SHA because it helps me be in greater service to my clients. Having this certification helps give clients permission and an invitation to be open about some of the most difficult to talk about topics. I ❤️ my clients! by @danitadavis_lmft

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by @danitadavis_lmft

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Squeezes 2025❤️😍 *not all memorable squeezes were caught on camera 😉😘 by @danitadavis_lmft

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💋Xoxo! by @danitadavis_lmft

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Books were a life saver growing up. It was how I felt relatable in a world that didn’t make sense. I could escape into another world and have a break from harsh childhood reality. They helped me not feel so alone. I love the power and magic of books to this day✨What’s your favorite book and why?! 🤓 childhood or adult book? Anyone read James and the giant peach? I dreamt about juicy 🍑🍑 peaches! by @danitadavis_lmft

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