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Yall wanna see a dead body? Michae Brodie

#dontcutyaphoneoff by @devornervin

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2 days ago

What’s happened to the birds 🦅 last night they didn’t show up to Monday night! by @devornervin

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3 days ago

LESSONS I’M LEARNING AS I DATE AFTER 50…

At 56, I’m learning that wanting love and being ready for partnership are not always the same thing.

This week’s conversations about living together, separate homes, retirement and independence made me turn the question back on myself.

I’ve spent the last few years building a life that feels peaceful.

My schedule.
My routines.
My space.
My decisions.

I enjoy that freedom.

But it has caused me to ask myself an uncomfortable question:

Do I genuinely want a partner—or do I want someone who fits into the life I’ve already built without requiring anything to change?

Those aren’t the same.

After 50, independence can become so comfortable that partnership begins to feel like an interruption—even when we say we want it.

A committed relationship means more than adding someone to the empty spaces in my schedule.

It means considering another person’s time, feelings, needs and plans.

It means compromise—not losing myself or giving up my peace, but intentionally making room for someone else.

I want love, loyalty, companionship and intentional time.

But am I willing to share some of the control that comes with doing life alone?

I’m honestly still figuring that out.

Maybe the question isn’t only:

“Can I find the right person?”

Maybe it’s also:

“Have I created room for the right woman when she arrives?”

🔵 I’m ready to adjust for true partnership
🟡 I want love, but I prefer separate lives
⚫️ I’m still figuring out how much room I can make

Be honest: Do you truly want a partner—or do you want companionship that never requires you to change?

Let’s learn how to date after 50 together.

Coffee, no suga. ☕️

— Joe Lockett by @devornervin

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5 days ago

I would like to give a big shoutout to my favorite sister, She’s also the best Nana she took her grandchildren to Disney World I had to go hold her down. Them kids wore nana out every single night. I’m proud of you big sis. Thank you i know your grand had a wonderful time! And also shoutout to my niece Quandaíí big Auntie love you baby! by @devornervin

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6 days ago

Had to pull up and hang out with my favorite big Sister and my Oldest Niece, My sister took her grandchildren to Disney World! Had a good time taken in Disney's Animal Kingdom Theme Park by @devornervin

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9 days ago

They’re always going to pull up on Coach Les, these are my guys lol We fight I yelled at them cursed them out , they yelled back. They played hard we won a lot but most importantly they all have College degrees some multiple and it was all free because they took care of business in the Classroom first, student Athletes! Our Village is proud job well done 👍🏾

Brooklyn Kings by @devornervin

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Brooklyn Kings Abou and Naz pulled up On Coach yesterday at the post! The Brooklyn Kings are definitely proud of these guys. These guys used basketball they both have degrees/ hey keep making us proud and keep leading by example taken in The Post BK by @devornervin

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17 days ago

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18 days ago

Let’s get it! by @devornervin

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18 days ago

by @devornervin

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20 days ago

Man, this is why I coached Basketball see this kid right here. This kid was out work horse. He did all the little things all of the dirty things. He locked down opposing teams best guard. I saw him at the gym yesterday. He gave me the biggest hug. He told me COACH whenever I’m playing ball. I can hear you. Most importantly, he said COACH I got my masters. I’m a sixth grade teacher man. I hugged him I told him I’m proud of him told him I loved him. Jared, the Brooklyn Kings family the village is proud of you. Great job to his family. His mom and dad Brooklyn Kings for Life. by @devornervin

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Stop trying to rescue women from the consequences of how they were raised.

You are not her therapist.
You are not her rehabilitation program.
And marriage is not a character-development project.

If she consistently brings chaos, disrespect, entitlement, or dysfunction into your life, don't convince yourself that you can love it out of her.

Walk away before you learn the lesson the hard way.

#richcooper #theunpluggedalpha #highvaluemen #mensdynamics #RedPillAwareness by @devornervin

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