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Celina Demeo LMHC, BC-DMT, C-HEP l Relationship Coach

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💚 Green flags to look for in a partner AND in yourself when handling conflict

🙊 Notices when they are starting to get flooded and starting to shut down during a stressful conversation or conflict, names what is happening for them, and asks to pause the conversation. When a body starts to freeze any access to ability to connect and ability to problem solve goes out the window

👂🏻Listens to what you are saying and attempt to acknowledge and validate what you just said before jumping right into their response. This is their attempt to signal that they are with you and still care about you even in a hard moment or hard conversation

🙋🏻‍♀️ Tries to practice the famous “I” statements to express what they are feeling and communicate what they are needing. This type of scripting is a structure to stay true to yourself, not abandon yourself by still expressing yourself during conflict, while also not unintentionally attacking your partner

🫱🏻‍🫲🏼 Makes attempts at repair either during or after the conflict, these can sound like “oops that didn’t come out right, let me try again,” or “hey that conversation didn’t go as I’d hoped, I can try to do better by xyz moving forward”

🤸🏻‍♀️ Is able to maintain connection and the sentiment that you are on the same team by incorporating light playfulness and humor even during heated moments. **Please note that this is a bonus one and this skill is an extreme sport that I don’t recommend trying initially. It can be used to help cool things off in the moment but it can potentially come across as minimizing**

🫶🏼Now my favorite reminder, anything that you are looking for in your partner I invite you to look for in yourself first. These are conflict skills and don’t always come naturally and are not always taught growing up.

❤️If you are wanting more support in knowing what to look for in a partner when dating or want to learn more relationship skills like these for yourself, comment “ME” below and I’ll send you an invite to my free community to get support with how to master modern dating & relationships❤️

#relationships #gottman #dating # by @embodiedcc

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Not everything you think is a red flag is a red flag 🙊

We have gotten so overprotective of ourselves and so fearful around dating that we are calling normal human imperfections red flags 🚩

And I really understand, self protection is loving and needed
BUT we also need to remember that people are human and are allowed to be a little flawed without being totally written off

Try not to let your hypervigilance keep you from being curious and really getting to know someone before you call something a red flag ❤️‍🩹

🤎If you want a little more support on how to discern red flags from humanity comment “ME” and I’ll send you an exclusive invite to my free community

#dating #datingtips #relationships #secureattachment #redflags by @embodiedcc

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This is the best thing you can do for your dating life & your future relationship 👇🏻

Already start creating and living a life that you want to create & live

I often get a lot of pushback on this advice, and I understand because it feels frustrating and on the surface seems like it doesn’t “solve the problem” with dating struggles
But trust me when I say if there is no other dating advice you want to take, take this piece 🧩

It is your best protector against rejection, best screening tool, and best way to lower the stakes that cause you stress when dating 🫶🏻

If you want to learn how to create this life and master modern dating, comment “DATING” and you’ll get a free invite to my private community and receive support with this and more ❤️

(Or if you just want to duke it out with me because you don’t like this tip, let’s go & let’s chat 😏)

#datingadvice #relationships #secureattachment #dating by @embodiedcc

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5 days ago

When did we get to be so shaming around dating? 🫣

I get it, you don’t need someone, which is true, you do already have everything you need inside of you, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to just want someone 😜

You can have a beautiful full life on your own, and you can also co-create a beautiful full life with someone special

There has never been a time in human history where we have not been wired for connection, including right now

💘So stop the shame, embrace your desire for connection

If you want help overcoming dating shame, anxiety, or hopelessness, I got you 👇🏻

🤎Comment “ME” and I’ll send you an invite to join my free community to support you in your dating & love life

#dating #datingadvice #relationships #secureattachment by @embodiedcc

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8 days ago

You have already done some work and taken some time to get ready to date (and you already know you’re a catch so that’s a bonus 😉) but you don’t know where to start

You may even feel a little nervous if repeating a similar pattern from the past
Even if you have trouble identifying what exactly is that pattern

This is why I have created my own quiz What’s Your Modern Dating Style?
To help you figure out what pattern you get yourself into and I give you your unique next step on what to do next

Curious?? 👀 comment or DM me “QUIZ” and I’ll send it straight to your inbox ❤️ by @embodiedcc

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10 days ago

Patiently waiting for all the girlies in their 20s & 30s who love love and celebrate it everywhere they see it, who show up for all the weddings, engagements, and babies, and ready to find their person but haven’t quite found the love their looking for in their dating life yet to find me ❤️

❤️Comment “ME” to join my free community of women just like you learning how to master modern dating

#dating #relationships #love by @embodiedcc

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13 days ago

The bad relationship advice you are taking in is hurting your dating life

Swipe through some dating & relationship tips from a therapist and relationship coach
The 54321 skill but for hot takes meets practical advice

Comment “READY” to join my free Facebook group for access to free training’s & resources to help you master modern dating ♥️ by @embodiedcc

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15 days ago

I’m so excited to share my new resource created, “From Fight or Flight to Friday Night” - your personal guide to regulating your nervous system and attracting your person when dating

This is for my modern daters who are ready to drop old relationship patterns that keep them from the creating the connection they want & know they deserve

You’ll get 3 nuggets of nervous system wisdom and 5 tips on what do with it, all in 1 place

Comment “GUIDE” for your free access to my guide and I’ll send it your way 🩷

#relationships #dating #datingadvice by @embodiedcc

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15 days ago

Despite what it may feel like, it is not impossible to meet someone in the wild 🐯 (I did it 😉)

While dating apps can be one place to put yourself out there and meet someone special, it is not the only way

If you feel stuck or burnt out on dating apps and would love a real life meet cute, here are 4 (of many) ways you can meet someone organically:

🙂‍↕️ say yes to group events when your friends invite you out, this is a great way to meet someone you have mutual people in common with

☕️ find a spot locally that you love (coffee shop, book store, breakfast place, fun bar) and become a regular, familiarity fosters a sense of closeness and you can organically meet another regular

🙊 initiate small talk with someone who is in line with you (at one of your favorite local spots ;) ), a small compliment, ask for a quick recommendation, and then let go of any outcome for a longer conversation. This is a great way to build confidence

🏃🏻‍♀️ do the things you already love to do, but in a reoccurring group, this could be a run club, pickleball, sports group, music scene, book club. I recommend looking up various groups in your city and finding one or two that get together somewhat regularly

💛If you feel excited to take one of these steps but also a little nervous on not knowing how or what to do say when you do, comment “JOIN” and I’ll give you an invite to my free facebook group where we go more in depth on practical skills to meet someone and overcome any anxiety you may feel when you do

#datingadvice #relationships #love by @embodiedcc

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17 days ago

Most of things that people tell you need to look for in a partner, you don’t.

Here’s what you actually need ⬇️

💪Willingness
A willingness to show up for themself and their needs, to show up for you, and to show up for the relationship They can choose to connect even when you both are tired, frustrated, or scared

🪞Ability to self-reflect Can they look inside, get curious, and get honest with themselves Do they understand their story and their role in your relational dynamic? Because self-awareness isn’t optional

🎢Fun! Can you two actually PLAY together Laugh Be silly Let your guard down
Because connection involves joy together too   💗You deserve someone who brings all three to the table, but more importantly you deserve to embody and bring all 3 yourself before you start looking at your future person 
So start with where are YOU with your ability to be willing, self-reflect, and play?

Ready to learn how to be and look for all 3?

❤️ Comment or DM me “JOIN” for an invite to my free Facebook community where we do this work together

#relationships #datingadvice #dating #secureattachment by @embodiedcc

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18 days ago

Hi everyone! 🤗 this is my Sunday share on why I chose to specifically to focus on sharing about and helping modern dating 🩷

Share your comments down below, would love to hear your thoughts 🥰

Join my free Facebook group where are constantly talking about all things love life 👇🏻
Comment “JOIN” if you want the invite

#dating #relationships #secureattachment #datingadvice by @embodiedcc

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19 days ago

The dating advice you’ve been listening to is not helping you.

Not all relationship advice is created equal 👀

A lot of what you see online right now teaches you to protect yourself, scan for red flags, and drives you away from trust in yourself and other people.

But hypervigilance is not safety, and it is keeping you stuck and guarded

💔 When you’re constantly looking for what’s wrong, you second-guess people, create distance instead of closeness, and miss out on a real (probably even really good) human

Real connection requires presence
And this is the work

🤲To learn to trust yourself to show up open and curious
💪To learn to trust yourself that you can handle and navigate what comes up as you meet people

You need advice that actually helps you connect, not just give you more things to find wrong in people

If you’re ready to stop operating from fear and start creating something genuine (and even fun):

💛 Comment or DM me “JOIN” for an invite to my free Facebook community where we do this work together
 💛 OR if you’re like REALLY ready to change your old patterns in a sustainable way, comment or DM me “READY” to book a free clarity call and let’s talk about your unique story and challenges and how to overcome them

#relationships #dating #datingadvice #secureattachment by @embodiedcc

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