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Thanks for being here. by @harbonator

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Join over 600+ members building lifestyles of total freedom through high leverage, high impact creative work.

Click the link in bio right now. 🏆

P.s - we like to have fun on the journey 😁 by @harbonator

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Find a purpose deeper than just looking after yourself.

#selfimprovement #selfdevelopment #business #mindset #purpose #mentalhealth #brotherhood by @harbonator

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You just ran your own job through that test in your head.
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And if it’s mostly rules in, answer out... you already know how that ends.
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Anything with one correct answer is a maths problem. And maths is the one thing a computer was built to do better than you. Bookkeeping, data entry, spreadsheets, basic admin... it all has a right answer, so it goes first.
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Creative work runs on judgment. Knowing what this specific person needs, what his audience will actually feel, what to cut and what to keep. That’s the part people still pay a human for.
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Yeah but AI makes images and videos now... sure. It makes outputs. It doesn’t sit with a client after his launch flopped and work out what he should do next. Someone who actually cares about the result does that. Being someone’s right hand man is very hard to automate.
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So this week, write down everything you do in a normal day. Mark every task that has one right answer. Whatever’s left is what you build on, because that’s where people pay you to think.
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And stop waiting for the headlines to tell you it’s safe. Nobody knows what the next five years look like, including the people writing them.
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The guy waiting for certainty is the one who gets replaced.
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If you liked this reel, you would love the full video, and my YouTube channel in general.
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#artificialintelligence #youngmen #selfimprovement #careeradvice #entrepreneurmindset by @harbonator

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18 hours ago

You think the girl who makes you work for it is wasting your time.
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She’s actually trying not to waste hers.
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Look at it from her side. She can’t see your character, your habits or how you act when life goes wrong. She’s got a few dates to work out if you’re someone worth building with. So she watches how you react when she’s slow to reply, when she pushes back, when she says no to the first plan. A guy who sulks or gets needy just showed her exactly what he’d be like six months in.
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It feels like games because from your side every delay feels like rejection. So you read it as her messing with you, when really she’s asking a question.
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So next time she pushes back, don’t chase harder and don’t punish her with silence either. Stay the same guy. Keep your plans, keep it light, stay interested. Staying calm while she tests you is the answer to the test.
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Yeah but why can’t she just tell me what she wants? Because what she wants to see is how you act when nobody’s told you the right answer. Telling you would ruin it 🤣
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Same as anything worth having. The stuff that comes easy is rarely the stuff you’d keep, and the slow version is the one I’d pick every time.
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She was never testing whether she likes you. She was testing whether you’re worth the risk.
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If you can pass her tests but still don’t know how to lead the date anywhere...
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#datingformen #attraction #selfrespect #youngmen #courtship by @harbonator

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5 days ago

You still cringe about that moment at night. You’ve just never asked what caused it.
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And most of the time the answer’s embarrassingly small.
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Replaying it feels like you’re dealing with it. You’re not. It’s the same feeling on loop with no question attached, so your brain keeps flagging it because you never gave it an answer.
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Most guys go wrong by turning it into a verdict on who they are. I’m awkward. I’m bad with girls. I’m just not that guy. You can’t fix a verdict. You can fix a cause.
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Sometimes the cause really is that your breath stunk. Buy the mouthwash, problem solved for life 🤣
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So take the thing you cringed at most this week and shrink it down. Not I’m bad at talking to girls. Something like I didn’t ask her a single question, or I talked about myself for ten minutes straight. Then decide the one thing you’ll do differently next time and actually do it.
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Yeah but some of it isn’t that simple. True. Some of it takes weeks to see properly. Keep coming back to it anyway, because the slow ones are usually the ones running in the background of everything else you do.
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This is the part that should give you hope. Every time you get embarrassed, you’re handed information most guys throw away.
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Embarrassment is only wasted if it hits you twice for the same reason.
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If you keep finding the lesson but still fall back into the same habits...
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#selfreflection #personaldevelopment #youngmen #datingtips #confidencebuilding by @harbonator

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Maybe you’re with someone you’d leave tomorrow if you thought you could find better.
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Or you got burned once and decided that’s just what women are like.
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Both come from the same mistake. Treating your first relationship like it’s the whole picture. It’s one data point, and it’s the one where you knew the least. Building your view of every woman on it means letting the most clueless version of you write the rules.
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Settling feels safe because starting again is scary. The cost just doesn’t show up straight away. It shows up years later when you’re bored, resentful and still not admitting why you stayed.
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Relationships are a skill like anything else. How to argue without it turning into a war. How to say what you actually want. How to be honest when it’s uncomfortable. Nobody’s born knowing that, and nobody learns it from a guy shouting about the dating market.
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So this week, if you’ve had one, go back over it and find the exact moment you stopped being honest with her. That’s where it started going wrong. If you haven’t, watch how couples who’ve lasted ten years talk to each other, and notice how little it looks like what those podcasts tell you.
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Yeah but she really did do me dirty... maybe she did. That’s still one person, and the man you become afterwards decides more than anything she did.
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PewDiePie and Marzia is the example I always come back to. He didn’t get that by moving like these guys tell you to.
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You can be right about her and still end up alone.
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If you want to be the man who keeps a good one but don’t know where to start...
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#relationshipadvice #youngmen #selfaccountability #mensgrowth #mindsetshift by @harbonator

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8 days ago

Almost everyone from my old life watches everything I put out.

They’ve watched a depressed, anxious boy turn into a man who travels the world with a laptop, dates beautiful women and lives life on purpose instead of letting it happen to him.

And while they watch, a lot of them mutter “he got lucky.”

They don’t see that while they’re sat on the sofa watching me build my life on IG, they’re doing absolutely nothing to create their own luck.

“Luck” comes from putting yourself in the right position, and the guys who just watch never put themselves anywhere it could find them.

So they keep watching, for months and then for years. And when someone holds a mirror up to everything they haven’t done, they need a story to protect themselves.

“He got lucky.”

Cope. Seethe.

I’ve got guys who’ve been thinking about joining the Academy of Excellence for over 6 months. In those 6 months, the guys who join are already booking their flights to Thailand.

Every couple of weeks there’s another “question”:

“Hey bro, does this actually work?”
Yes. I have 3 story highlights full of student results because there are too many to fit in one.
“Cool thanks man! I’ll think about it...”

Total mental masturbation.

That timid energy is infectious, and I’ll never let it into the Academy.

Experience has nothing to do with it. Most of the guys who join have never edited a single video. It comes down to whether you act or wait.

People love telling me the video editing market is oversaturated. They’re right. It’s saturated with guys who watch, wait and cope. It’s full of pussies.

So if you’re a savage, you’ve never had less real competition.

That’s who’s in the Academy of Excellence. 500+ editors across our hubs in Thailand, Tbilisi, Bali, the UK and the USA, landing clients, living how they want and keeping each other on track.

Every day you wait, opportunities to create your own luck walk straight past you. by @harbonator

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You’ve got a reason for every girl who didn’t text back. None of them are you.
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And there’s always a guy online happy to hand you another one.
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Blame works because it ends the pain without asking anything of you. If she’s the problem, you never have to go again. If the real problem is that you’re scared of being humiliated, you have to walk back in and risk it. One of those is comfortable. The other one actually changes something.
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That’s why the angry stuff spreads. Every video that agrees with you feels like learning. It isn’t. It’s the same belief with a new clip attached.
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So look at the guy you watch most and ask what he gets paid for. If his income depends on you staying angry, he’s never going to tell you to go and try again.
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And next time it goes wrong with a girl, write down one thing you’d do differently before you write down a single reason it was her.
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Yeah, some women are like that. Knowing it gives you nothing to work on though, and a belief you can’t do anything with just keeps you exactly where you are.
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Same goes for me. I fuck up too, so don’t take anything I say as gospel either. Take what works and test it 👊🏻
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Owning it is the good news. If it’s never your fault, it’s never in your control either.
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If you’re ready to own it but don’t know what to actually build first...
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#selfimprovement #youngmen #accountability #mindset #mensdevelopment by @harbonator

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You laughed, but your plan’s the same one. Just with better lighting 💀
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Nobody cares what you have to say until you’ve done something worth listening to. The fastest place to earn that is behind the camera of someone who already has the audience, getting paid while you learn how it actually works.
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#personalbrand #contentcreator #selfimprovement #youngmen #youtube by @harbonator

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Create your own luck. by @harbonator

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