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James Kuhlemeier

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1. Know Your Story.
Every single one of us have instinctively written a story in our subconscious to make sense of who we are and why we’re here.

You can’t understand your story by the questions you are able to answer. Anyone can pass a test on identity and purpose. Not everyone is in touch with their emotions.
Your story informs your emotions. Think of it like this.

We witness or experience something—> We filter expereince through subconscious story —> We feel based on filter —> Act

You know what you really believe by sitting in your emotions. Ask what I’m feeling and then slowly ask why. Sometimes knowing the what your feeling is good enough as well.

2. Tell the right story
By spending time in the Bible and under sound teaching we learn who God says we are and why we are here. You can’t start here because you’ll have theory with no practice. We ignore our pains and root belief and desire simply to understand and believe something for the sake of our guilty conscience.

When you’ve sat with your emotions and have seen and experienced what you really believe then you can truly begin to heal those wounds by telling the right story about who you are and why you’re here from God’s perspective.

3. Rehearse your story about who you are
Find a community of like minded followers of Jesus who will patiently listen to the story you have told yourself. Find people who are not afraid to sit in the emotion with you. Find people who will compassionately challenge you to live by the story God has said about you.

We need to get out of the echo chamber of our own heads and get around the physical embodiment of God’s love, his church.

This can be the most difficult step for some if you’ve experienced pain at the hands of people who profess to love and follow Jesus.

It’s a scary step but worth it when you find the right people.

When we do this the narrative is slowly changed and so are the emotions and responses we thought would never be different.

This is the process I help all my clients walk through.
If you looking for some extra help on your journey please don’t be afraid to reach out.
You can request a session in the links above.

#churchhurt by @have.quiet.courage

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They aren’t sorry, they are taking advantage of you.

#hardtruth #biblicalcounsel #mentalhealth #healing by @have.quiet.courage

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When you read the bible like a playbook you’ll find contradictions. It’s about becoming a loving person.

#anxiety #mentalhealth #biblereading #shame #churchhurt by @have.quiet.courage

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#joyrideday2026 @joyride taken in Texas, USA by @have.quiet.courage

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Experts, influencer, and not even the Bible can tell you exactly what you should do with your time and talents!!

They can tell you how you should conduct yourself and behave, but they can’t tell you the best way to spend your time and talents.

Only your creator know what you were created for!

#purpose #meaningoflife #counseling by @have.quiet.courage

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Sometimes we get set up for failure. We’re given silver bullets that work only for a short season or not at all. When we are given the freedom and counsel to feel and process our feelings as david did we can make some real progress when it comes to character.

I’ve been on the verge of giving up. please know there is hope.

#feelyourfeelings #spiritualbypassing #churchhurt #spiritualabuse by @have.quiet.courage

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Thoughts offered by a follower of Jesus who became more preoccupied with perfecting a message and pressuring those to do so as well instead of enjoying what the message was meant to produce in our lives.

We don’t see anything wrong because we have grown accustomed to the practice of colonizing instead of invitation.

#christiancolonizers #gospel #christiancounseling #biblicalcounseling by @have.quiet.courage

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5 months ago

Should I hold onto this memory and teaching? 🤷‍♂️
1. Does it shape the character of christ in me?
2. Does it empower me to take ownership of my own beliefs, emotions, and behavior?

Don’t let someone’s failure rob you of your joy. It’s a journey. I know it’s not easy. Much love.

#chialpha #healing #biblicalcounseling by @have.quiet.courage

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To be absolutely clear if there is anyone who does not think there was anything unhealthy and what the ministry went through is simply spiritual warfare then you need some serious help and maybe even step down from ministry.

I can’t capture my entire heart in a few minutes. For that reason I’ve been making youtube videos as well that clearly portray the toxic elements of controlling culture and spiritual abuse in christian circles. Please check those out if you want to hear a more fleshed out take on everything that has happened.link to my youtube is in the bio.

we need accountability, I’m just trying to play my small part in seeing God bring the healing I know he desires to bring.
much love

Best way to contact me is by email or dm
email is havequietcourage@gmail.com

#chialpha #southtexaschialpha #biblicalcounseling #mentalhealth #churchhurt by @have.quiet.courage

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It’s no secret that the world is going crazy. Find how Jesus understood history, how it pointed to the future, and gives us wisdom to live our lives day to day.

Link in the bio

#endoftheworld #mentalhealth #disclosure #hope #biblicalcounseling by @have.quiet.courage

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Check out my new teaching video.
Breaking down a biblical framework to under sex by.

#sex #mentalhealth #biblicalsounseling by @have.quiet.courage

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Side note, I love Forrest Frank. Our family bumps his music. My kids got to meet him at a pop up, and I got a sign record or his for my birthday. @hiforrest I honor what God is doing through your life.

To those that think I’m a hater. Disagreeing is healthy when it’s constructive. People that love each other have the capacity to do that.

#spiritualbypassing #biblicalcounseling #forrestfrank #viral by @have.quiet.courage

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