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Parul Gupta | Mid-30s Reinvention & Relationship Mentor

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ALL of this is still deeply relevant to you if you’re currently in a relationship, but find yourself constantly stuck in the agonising “Should I stay or should I leave?” loop.

Doing this deep internal work is what will allow you to see what is actually possible in your current relationship once you start showing up fully as yourself.

And if you’d like to do this with my support, alongside an entire community of women who are done shrinking, done over-functioning, and are ready to anchor into their true worth, then comment WAITLIST for a private invitation to my monthly membership, UNAPOLOGETIC. ❤️‍🔥

Inside, we will use tools like Human Design to map out your body’s unique decision-making blueprint, along with going deep into topics like shadow work, boundaries, sacred rage, intimacy, and conscious relationships.

One month at a time, we will unravel the “Good Girl” conditioning and the subconscious trance that has kept you stuck in relationship limbo so far.

You will learn how to stop abandoning yourself just to keep peace, clearly speak what IS and ISN’T okay, and finally step back into the driver’s seat of your own life.

Comment WAITLIST to save your spot and be first in line for exclusive early-bird pricing and early access bonuses.

Doors open at the end of October and we officially begin in November. by @healingwithparul

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19 days ago

Experiences & connection > things, any day!!!

#adventures #relationships by @healingwithparul

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When we treat ourselves with respect, love, and integrity, we naturally attract a partner who reflects those same qualities. But as long as we ignore our own needs, we will keep attracting people who ignore them too.

Just because we over-give, self-sacrifice, or nurture others, it doesn’t mean that we as women are emotionally available.

It simply means we were programmed to give while ignoring our own emotions.

When you shift your perspective, the solution becomes clear — stop trying to “find” an emotionally available man and start becoming an emotionally available woman to yourself.

That’s where I would start… whether I was single and looking for true love, or married and tired of feeling invisible in my relationship.

I have 1:1 coaching spots for September. These are for women who want to do the inner work, find clarity on the relationship they actually want, and never settle for breadcrumbs again.

DM me the word “READY” if you want to chat about claiming your spot. by @healingwithparul

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Wow!! That’s a lot about me, so tell me who are you? What are you into and why are you here? I’d love to get to know you. 🫶🏻 Or drop your Human Design type and the big 3 signs below ⬇️💕

It’s so hard to condense all that anyone is within a few words, but here we go! What is your Human Design type or your big 3 signs?! Tell me ⬇️

More than any of these labels, the biggest thing I bring to my work is embodied lived experience of everything I teach and talk about so you know that I will never give you textbook cookie cutter advice.

The best way to be!!! Tell me your big 3 signs 😍⬇️

Grateful for all the challenges that have shaped me into who I am and what im able to offer to the world today!

Still finding my feet on this, so please be patient with me and thank you for all your support and encouragement. 🩷

IYKYK - I’m here for you babe! If money was not an issue, what support would you be seeking out for yourself?

Just a few big ones on my list but there’s a lot more that’s wrong with the world and that I’d love to eventually get involved with shifting.

This might be your sign if you’ve been feeling empty or dead inside for a long time.

I can’t wait to get to know you all! Thank you for being here ❤️❤️❤️ by @healingwithparul

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Nope, if it’s been feeling a little broken, marriage or babies won’t fix it. by @healingwithparul

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Leaving my marriage was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, that’s why it fully cracked me open. 💔

Of course, I couldn’t see the blessings while I was in it. Sitting in this confusion for almost 3 years felt like the biggest emotional roller coaster ever, because not only did it bring up the grief of leaving, but also SO much stuff from my past that I was unaware was suppressed inside me… like the grief of losing my mum unexpectedly when I was only 12 and the anger I had against my dad for not being the parent I needed him to be.

But on the other side, once I started integrating the lessons and making sense of my journey, I could see how much this was a much needed shakeup to bring me back into alignment with who I really am and what I actually wanted without the societal SHOULDS.

It brought me face to face with all my fears and as I kept facing them one by one, my trust in myself started to grow.

So for me, it wasn’t a breakdown, but the breakthrough I needed to learn to trust myself, to draw my boundaries with people who didn’t get me and to discover my own identity in the world without a man or relationship to define me by.

And I’m so incredibly grateful for this lesson, because it was every bit worth it. ❤️‍🩹

Leaving is my story, but it doesn’t have to be yours.

What matters more than staying or leaving is that you use this portal to LISTEN TO YOURSELF and uncover all the stories, beliefs, patterns and behaviors that might be keeping you stuck right now.

If this resonates, come to my free masterclass this Saturday, Oct 24 at 10am AEDT — SHOULD YOU STAY OR SHOULD YOU LEAVE. ✨

I’ll go much deeper into my story, and also show you how your survival blueprint might be blocking you from connection, intimacy and seeing the truth of this situation and making a clear decision.

Comment MASTERCLASS if you’d like to attend. 💓 by @healingwithparul

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20 hours ago

He works hard.

Everything looks perfect on paper… the family, the friends, your home.

You did everything you thought you “should” do for a good life, as a smart and sensible woman.

So why are you now starting to feel like there’s something missing?

We equate good man = no obvious physical or emotional abuse, provides and doesn’t cheat.

And we think that should be enough. Like what else do we even need?

But as humans, we NEED MORE. Yes, both men and women.

💗 We need emotional connection.
🧠 We need intellectual intimacy.
✨ We need to feel seen, heard and connected to our partner.
🦋 We need to be able to talk about our big emotions, the messiness of our human experience together, and to genuinely cherish the time we spend together.

If either or both partners can’t connect or communicate clearly, honestly and deeply, eventually they are going to feel disconnected and lost or empty.

How is it a luxury to want to feel connected to someone you spend the most intimate parts of your life with?

The old model of men provide and women look after everyone else and their emotions doesn’t work anymore.

We are wayy beyond that age now.

I was stuck in this exact same limbo for almost 3 years.

We were doing well financially, we used to travel together and he didn’t cheat or misbehave with me. Everything looked really good on paper. That’s why I was so confused for such a long time.

And when I tried talking to my aunt or girlfriends, no one around me understood. Everyone thought I was losing my mind for even questioning a relationship that looked so good on the outside, including me until I finally figured out exactly what was missing.

If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, I want you to know there’s nothing wrong with you.
You are not losing your mind!
You’re in fact finally reading it RIGHT.

I’m breaking down all the factors that lead to this disconnect and how to start working through each of these in my free live masterclass:

SHOULD YOU STAY OR SHOULD YOU LEAVE?
📅 Saturday 24 October, 10am AEDT

Comment MASTERCLASS to save your spot if you’re feeling confused about your relationship right now and don’t know where to start. by @healingwithparul

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Thought it might be helpful for all of you here too, so sharing my answer ❤️

I was settling because of a few reasons.

1. No one had ever educated me on how to listen to my own needs and how to communicate them effectively. Not my mum or my dad or others around me.

(I’m not blaming anyone in saying this but wondering 💭 out loud why is something as indispensable as this for a good quality of life and relationships left out so conveniently from our conversations and upbringing?!)

I just knew that I’m feeling empty and I’m not attracted to him, but I didn’t know what to do about it. I used to lie awake at night thinking “He’s safe and a good man so I “should” be happy. Then why am I not happy?”

2. I was afraid to leave the safety of this safe marriage. I was afraid of not being able to financially sustain myself on the other side. I also wasn’t confident in being able to live on my own and navigate life’s complexities on my own.

(When I tried speaking to other women around me about this, most of them said: “don’t be silly! You’ve lost your mind. The world out there is a tough place for a single woman.” And that made me furious. Why is it unsafe? And why as a grown up 35 yo woman can I not safely live on my own?)

3. I felt very guilty for breaking his heart, for telling him that I didn’t want to sleep with him or that there was something wrong in our marriage, because that would’ve spoiled the “peace” and our routine.

Saying that out loud would’ve meant things wouldn’t be as nice or peaceful or collaborative anymore.

While moving through that journey, I learned that as women, we stay in these situations simply because we have been conditioned to believe that this is as good as it can get. So we don’t even allow ourselves to want more.

That’s why we keep settling for situations that may be good enough, but not exactly what we want.

If you’re also feeling a little confused about your relationship right now, then please come to my free live masterclass next Saturday, Oct 24: Should You Stay or Should You Leave? 🦋

Comment MASTERCLASS and I’ll send you the link to save your spot x by @healingwithparul

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PLAY, FLIRT, DRESS UP & look after yourself!

Your needs, your rest, your pleasure and learning to receive… focusing on these is your only job, and no this is not selfish. It’s how we can show up as fully alive and emotionally consistent humans for those we love, instead of tired and resentful.

Stop acting like his mother, so he can step up and look after you like his loverrrr! 💓

You are his equal, not his caretaker. by @healingwithparul

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One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned after moving through my divorce and spending the past 6 years doing deep inner work is that often it’s not the other person, but how we have been showing up for ourselves in our own life.✨

When we show up a certain way, we attract someone who is also in some way carrying the same beliefs, habits & frequency. And eventually we start feeling empty in that relationship because we are expecting the other to fulfil what we ourselves can’t even name.

And once we start doing the work to unravel these layers and stories, we start coming into alignment with who we really are and the relationship then either grows with us or falls away. ❤️‍🩹

That’s why when you approach it with this understanding and a desire to do the work Individually AND together, there is no room for guilt or self-judgement.

That’s why only talking about it in therapy or counselling can’t fix the disconnect because the problem is deeper.

I’m bringing together everything I’ve learned about making this big decision from a conscious place in my upcoming free live masterclass, SHOULD YOU STAY OR SHOULD YOU LEAVE next Saturday, Oct 24.

Comment MASTERCLASS if you’re curious about this and are confused about your relationship right now.

You will learn:
→ Why telling yourself you should be grateful is the exact loop that is keeping you stuck.
→ The real reason you feel disconnected from him and what to do instead
→ How your “survival blueprint” is keeping you from happiness in your relationship
→ How to feel seen, connected, and clear again, without having to blow up your entire life.

Excited to see you there! 🩷 by @healingwithparul

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Whether you STAY or LEAVE, this threshold is pointing you to something deeper within that needs your attention.

Staying will require you to connect & communicate differently and leaving will require you to face your guilt, fear and grief. ❤️❤️‍🩹

I know how messy this space can be, that’s why I’m hosting a free live masterclass next Saturday to break it all down in a way that helps you see both the choices clearly.

If you’re currently sitting in this confusion, you don’t have to do it alone. 🤗

Join us next Saturday just to sit and listen.
 SHOULD YOU STAY OR SHOULD YOU LEAVE?
 Sat, Oct 24 at 10am AEDT
Give yourself about 90 minutes ✨

Specifically you will learn:
→ Why telling yourself you should be grateful is the exact loop that is keeping you stuck.
→ The real reason you feel disconnected from him and what to do instead
→ How your “survival blueprint” is keeping you from happiness in your relationship
→ How to feel seen, connected, and clear again, without having to blow up your entire life.

Comment or DM me MASTERCLASS for the link xx

#relationships #separation by @healingwithparul

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5 days ago

Most relationships fall apart because we’re not speaking our truth and walking around with a silent scoreboard inside our head.

When we hold back on expressing what we really mean, want and need, we rob the other person of the emotional journey they’re meant to go through with our truth.

We think we’re being a “caring” and “thoughtful” by holding back, when really this is hurting the relationship more than doing it good. by @healingwithparul

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