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Where fear gets sweeter and new life grows.
Storytelling, psychology & the science of behavior change. Subscribe to Substack.

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It’s easy to make your dreams happen. Don’t complicate it. Don’t go it alone.
1️⃣ Find the people who have a version of what you want
2️⃣ Ask them these questions
3️⃣ Build yourself a roadmap to follow by @jelly___monster

Our brains are primed to learn from other people and our environment.

I wanted to buy a home in New York, no idea where to start. So I found two women who’d already done it — and moved in. Literally.

Want the cheat code to borrow your way to any dream? See the latest Substack.

#goalsetting #behaviorchange #mindsetshift by @jelly___monster

The scientific term for stealing behavior is “vicarious experience.” Use it your advantage. Surround yourself with people who’ve already done the thing you want to do.

Psychologist Albert Bandura’s Bobo doll experiments in the 1960s proved we imitate the people around us. Automatically.

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#Psychology #GoalSetting by @jelly___monster

Trying to go it alone is dumb. Every dream you’ve ever wanted, someone else has a version of it. Don’t start from scratch, start from everyone you’ve ever known. How to borrow, steal and build your way to any goal.

Latest post on Substack for full guide.

#goalsetting #tool by @jelly___monster

I know there is a tendency at this time of year to be hyper focused on bringing in 2026. But I promise you have time to set your goals. To do your to do list. Time to party. Instead, slow down, and take some time to reflect on what you loved, learnt and want to take into the new season.

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#goals #2025review #selfknowledge #psychology by @jelly___monster

The reason it’s important to reflect on our year, not just bulldoze through to goal setting, is that how we remember our experiences directly impacts our future selves. Turning memories into “meaning” is an how our brains shape our future identity and behavior.

Want help doing this? Read the latest @jelly___monster Substack. by @jelly___monster

There’s a psychological theory called the Zeigarnik effect, that unclosed experiences stay looping in the brain until we complete them (like those to do lists that keep us up at night). Looking back on your year and writing experiences down completes the loops and frees up attention for the future.

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#Brain #psychology #memories #2025wrapped #2025inreview by @jelly___monster

This end of year reflection will change your year ahead in just 30 minutes. Scroll for a science backed way to close mental loops, avoid negativity bias and set you up for future success. Don’t over think it. Spend 10 minutes on each section.

1️⃣Catalogue the last 12M
2️⃣Pull out the big wins & lessons
3️⃣Review areas of your life

#reflection #2025review #neuroscience #endofyear #goals by @jelly___monster

🧠What’s happening in our brain during a mini death?? From a neuroscience perspective, we are evolutionary hardwired for attachment, narrative continuity and survival, understanding this helps us switch it up!

📚read my latest Substack on mini deaths for a deep dive.

#endings #change #loss #selfhelp #neuroscience #brain #psychology #understanding #transformation #healing #grief by @jelly___monster

🤮Nothing can prepare you for that gut wrenching feeling when something suddenly ends.

❤️‍🩹But luckily understanding what is happening in our brain can help us heal.

💻Click the link in bio to get this info & read the email that took my breath away in my latest Substack

#Change #neuroscience #movingon #lettinggo #grief #shock #death #poetry #writing #writerscommunity #writersofinstagram #endings #substack by @jelly___monster

Real talk endings are hard. But remember after that comes a new begining, and you get to shape that however you want. So next time you experience a ‘mini death’ and a period of winter, get excited cos spring is coming baby!

#death #loss #change #levelup #transformation #transition #selfhelp #change #hope #dobetter #spring #joy #changeiscoming

Image @hana.katoba by @jelly___monster

New substack out now on mini deaths and how to move on with grace. This may seem a morbid topic, but actually it’s beautiful! I’ll explain how your brain processes this change and share my personal ritual for moving forward with grace after endings. Link in bio.

#death #endings #movingon #lettinggo #selfhelp #neuroscience #makingpeace #grace #change #beginnings by @jelly___monster