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Marissa Shadler

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This Christmas season looks a whole lot different this year and I can honestly say I’m indifferent about it. I miss my people, the cold weather, bundling up to leave during a snow blizzard Christmas Eve/ Christmas Day because you forgot an ingredient, to then return back and open the door to the warm smelly of ham and cookies as your glasses fog up and you take off all your layers.

Though I feel a wee bit lonely and isolated I’ll end on a positive because this week is the first week in three months I’ve felt genuine happiness thanks to some much needed bonding time, a coffee date today, and making a promise to my best friend via FaceTime since she left Fl and went to Cali….maddie you brat.

Thank you for these photos @s.matias001 they made my week. Missing home a little extra this holiday season by @marissashadler

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2 years ago

March 20, 2026 1:07MT 3:07EST 39.48° N, -106.04° W

-the first and only song Jack ever put on and dedicated to me with tears said this will be our first dance song years ago.
-we met a dog named goose today
-the same bird I pointed out on the lift up before proposing is the same bird that landed in the tree to witness this (my dad said look for him in the birds (called himself a free bird)
-our reservation tonight was served to us by MADDIE my best friends name
-jacks first time snowboarding in Colorado was with Tripp one of his best friends name, his helmet he rented had the name TRIPP on it for last user
-my dream place to snowboard and the place I almost moved to before meeting Jack and deciding against it was Colorado (or Florida)
I never thought I would be married. I never felt deserving of love. Worthy enough. It’s something I still struggle with often. I question people’s timelines in my life, plan for the worst with friends or partners, but alas. Here we are.
Today was sorta cool or whatever taken in Breckenridge, Colorado by @marissashadler

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7 months ago

Is it clocking to you that we’re standing on business? @lilbieber
When I was a little ….ahhh got ya Nick ahhhhkahkahkah.
No seriously this is a very surreal feeling, and I couldn’t be more proud of you @jackharger I told you we’d be living over here, you said no….moment of silence please, no seriously the silence up against our PRESERVE, on a CUL-DE-SAC, no one but us on there, no one across from us etc is screaming, with critters it’s nice actually. Anyways. Cheers to my 30s starting off horrid but full circle ending with a home in this economy. Xx by @marissashadler

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a year ago

Friendship maxxing.
I realized I’m old on this trip
There’s a man out there with a video of me in der clerb that could make him a lot of money
Old roads and heels don’t work well
4am giggles with friends feeds the soul
Our bride gyrates everywhere she goes
I could spend all day in the rain forest
Bird watching has become my thing
Sam got bamboozeled to go down a rock slide
Having a planner in the group is iconic cause I could never handle 14 opinions and manage to wrangle them all together
PR night life is something I’ve ever seen before
Why isn’t there a club where I live I can be sober and dance in?
My energy level rn 🪫
Ttyn taken in San Juan, Puerto Rico by @marissashadler

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One thing about this group of gals, is there is gonna be a theme, we’re gonna say “what the hecccccckyyyyy” but then we’re gonna show up, show out, and the next day go: “that way so fun”
1 batch trip
1 birthday
2 weddings
To go for the year of 2026. It’s been a hell of a year.
2027 goals : get married, visit Alaska, have an epic birthday for my girl pusha p(I laughed out loud in bed writing that) and just keep L I V I N instead of D Y I N (say the letters not the word, it flows better) by @marissashadler

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a month ago

The craziest two weeks I’ve ever had in the best way. best friend came, we found my wedding dress, did a weeks worth of activities in 2 days. She left, I reset our home, Jack returned the following day, we spent a day together only for my other favorite human to come (Ronald aka brother) my friends threw me an incredible house warming / engagement party at our home, THEN we celebrating Sarah’s birthday at medieval times and honestly, idk what i liked more, the show or the carpool there and back with our ppl. I then asked pip to be my matron of honor, drum roll yall, she said yyyyeeeessss (if she said no I’d give my keyboard warriors her handle to bully her 😌but alas shes blessed me yet again)
My cup hasn’t been this full in a very long time, the world is balancing out, I think I’m catching a big break and God has decided I’ve won the war along side our green knight by @marissashadler

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2 months ago

The fear of opinions from others because most of us (me) are chronically online scrolling, judging, comparing, isolating, rethinking decisions so on and so forth has a way of making you feel really small(overwhelmed) in 2026, I think that’s something that no matter the time we can all agree on(man or woman). You feel less than because Anne just bought a new home, Margrette just got a new promotion, Sue just finish her degree, Ellen threw a triple digit wedding and you’re wondering where in this economy did she find the funds or is something wrong with me because I don’t wanna put myself in debt for one day, Gregory just bought your dream truck, Allens buyin land and building on it with his 3 boys 1 girl and cool wife… you get what I gettin at(comparison the thief of joy lemme tell ya). I battle I think monthly with caring, not caring, wanting acceptance then saying if it means sacrificing morals I don’t need it, with wanting a career but remembering I’m sacrificing all the things that bring me joy(mentally cannot work full time and maintain the home to 100%).
I look online, I find inspo, my imagination is shut down, i can’t start unless I pin it of course. I pin it, it’s the same font as Joanna’s home now..the plot feels lost of the world, we’ve been so transformed by the media. Everything is a theme, every fit is a pin, every gadget is a TikTok must have, everything is bad, everything of this is good though. My bathroom took me M O N T H S because i waited for perfection.. it only got finished because I didn’t look up inspo, I found apiece of weird whatever that white thing is called, and just threw it up, and then went from there. My imagination of what I LIKED and I WANTED came back and I feel like I used to do that all the time ya know? Just what made me happy? No fear of if someone else would like it too. Anyways this long post just to say, get inspired yes but it doesn’t need to match, be perfect, and you don’t need all the pieces to start somethin. Alright I’m scared to post this cause it’s been a moment that I wrote from my brain. So glad our buddy Is deployed (send him prayers) because this would be a joke I just know it n by @marissashadler

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8 years ago

Spent the last 2 weeks cleaning / finishing our guest bathroom for our people to come over and celebrate us in a way I thought I didn’t even want. I’ve realized the art of letting go is actually amazing. Let people do what they want and let go of control cause this party with our people was beyond anything we could even fathom. I am so happy to have had my brother in town, healed my heart and gave me the refill I needed. Thank you Sam and Piper for finding a way throughout your BUSY lives to do this for us. So special and I’ll remember forever. Thanks for pressuring me and doing it when I swore up and down I DIDNT want it hahaha. To everyone that came thank you for welcoming not only me but my brother and Soph.
We found our perfect match(a) was inspired by a series
I started / I saw the saying on the interweb hehe but the brief series was me/us trying to find the perfect matcha in here, then I realized anywhere I went with him to try one was perfect, even when they were bad it was always more fun together. That’s life with em, insert Jack Johnson it’s always better when we’re together and Jack folding his pants in excessively as we walk down the beach into the sunset and seagulls fly perfectly by as if paid alright thanks for looking I jsut wanted to lowkey brag about this party I can’t even lie to yall cause there are party helpers, party goers and party doers, we’re lucky enough to have all that within this group of people. A time was had by @marissashadler

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I think someone said “I’m secretly disliked by many, but I’m respected and that’s enough for me” and to that I’ll raise a matcha and say that’s Gods honest truth

Might frick around and go back to taking a bunch of photos getting creative and only posting one at a time #bringbackoldinsta #bringbackhastags taken in Cafe Bich NGA by @marissashadler

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7 months ago

Isn’t it crazy how in adulthood holidays almost feel less and less like a holiday. I think because we focus so much on presentation, the cleanliness of the house, the judgment of what outfit we are choosing, the gifts and if we spent enough so on and so forth. Truthfully the reason kids have a better way of living, a better time is because they simply do. Not. Care. my prayer for 2025 for myself and everyone, is that you don’t take life so serious. You say yes to new things. To new people. You water who waters you, stop trying to pour into cups with broken bottoms. LEARN A BOUNDARY and how to say no, you don’t have the energy? Say no. You didn’t do something to water your partner or yourself lately, say no to plans with others, you are even slightly on the fence that’s a no. (you know who I’m speaking to if you’re reading this). Choose friends that’s choose you and encourage you to be better, kinder, get you out of your shell. Remember it’s about the people not how often you did your laundry and how clean your house is. People remember how you made them feel, not where you live and how perfect things were. Stop caring so much. Just do. What. You. Want. With. Who. You. Want. When. You. Want. And all Gods people said amen
Loving memory and never forgotten (first pic is my little brother Tyler, with his bestie Ruben from childhood, grandma to the right, and Lydi whom by now you all know) taken in Delray Beach, Florida by @marissashadler

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I think we have a misperception of the word. Which is super easy to have when you read a little more of it. I say all the time I most likely won’t go to heaven. Not because I don’t want to, but there is a difference between knowing God and KNOWING God. The way we walk is so important and I certainly don’t walk in His image. I conform to the world around me. To keep the peace, or not be the odd one out, to not be I suppose lonely/unliked.
He says clearly in Matthew not everyone who says “Lord Lord” will enter into the kingdom. That the gate is often wide and many walk that way. The narrow path/gate is difficult for obvious reason.
We misconstrue the word to fit our mold and comfortableness. We tailor it and wrap a bow on it so we don’t have to change..
Harsh reality is some of us sit in church and are the worst kinda followers, tough pill to swallow knowing lowkey is yourself.
When you think about your life, lifestyle, your weekends out, the way we treat our bodies what we say the things maybe we don’t say and should, itll make you think a little. Which is clearly what’s happened today for me personally.

On a scale of 1-10 1 being the lowest chance 10 being the highest, where would you sit on getting in, hint you’ll never be a 10 (perfection doesn’t exist but you get my drift.
I can honestly say I’m at a 3/4 teetering in the 1s if you’ve wronged me because Lord is grace hard and forgiveness tougher when justice isn’t served.

MArIsSa what God would want you to feel like you have to be perfect or that you have to do xyz and honestly (this came up in convo today), I’ve never felt like I’m not loved, or seen. It’s the opposite really, it’s more so that I’m TOO SEEN everytime I start back on this relationship building / walk I’m reminded how much I am OF this world not in it. I feel guilt and shame because in my personal body I feel conviction for the way I’ve chosen to live, speak, carry myself.

The take away is simple, you can believe, go every Sunday to church, worship loud, but do you walk it. I surly don’t enough. Anyways I went to @zachlanebryan , his wife changed him cause those eyes had a little soul to em last night by @marissashadler

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