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Minaa B., LMSW

@minaa_b

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Teaching you about family, siblings and community.
Therapist, Author & Creator of The Siblinghood Theory
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Update: My book is officially available. Click the link in my bio to order your copy!
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I have exciting news!! My book, Owning Our Struggles: A Path to Healing and Finding Community in a Broken World, is officially available for pre-order!

- I wrote this book for people who want to learn how to heal from trauma through community-care.

- I wrote this book for people who come from dysfunctional homes and want to reconstruct the nuclear family concept and embrace chosen families as a path toward healing.

- I wrote this book for people who struggle with race-based traumatic stress and need cultural healing practices.

- I wrote this book for people who are plagued by the pain of their childhood trauma and need inner child healing.

- I wrote this book for people who want to learn how to be better friends, partners, parents, allies, and community members.

I’m excited for this book to release on August 22nd; Pre-order everywhere books are sold. Visit the link in my bio!

Thank you for your endless support. Let's heal together!🙏🏾

Big thanks to my team: @tarcherperigee @presentperfectlit

📸 @sarahaile Image of the book cover, Owning Our Struggles by Minaa B. taken in New York, New York by @minaa_b

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Sometimes, you won't get the apology you're looking for, or acknowledgment of the behavior that hurt you.

Sometimes, you won't resolve conflict in the way that you hoped.

Sometimes, you won't get the closure that you're looking for.

Your life still needs to go on. Growing and healing will require us to accept that we might not always get the outcome we want, but we still have the power to move on and live a meaningful life. by @minaa_b

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Parenting - the most consequential job you can get with absolutely no test or interview process.

And our guest @minaa_b tells us what happens when parents aren’t done raising themselves yet. Plus, did Pete steal a baby?!

Listen to our latest episode with therapist and author Mina and listener stories 🤫 by @minaa_b

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What family label did you get stuck with? 🤔

This week’s episode is a special one! We read your wildest listener stories - your family secrets, childhood lore, and drama - with therapist, author and host of @thisfeelsfamiliarpod … @minaa_b!

And @badasswizard (aka producer Pete) is live and in the flesh!

NEW Episode out now. Listen my trauma club! 🖤 by @minaa_b

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You can love someone and dislike some of their qualities. Sometimes, this person is your mother, brother, or even a friend.

You don't have to "throw the whole person away" just because they have imperfections that annoy you. It's okay to admit that there are people in your life whom you care for and love, who also have qualities that get on your nerves. by @minaa_b

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Do you feel like you had a completely different childhood from your sibling?

Just because siblings grow up together and are raised by the same parents doesn't always mean they have the same perception of their family.

Sometimes this is the result of age gaps, developmental differences, trauma, and how each child is parented.
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Read the full essay by subscribing to my newsletter, ALL THE HARD THINGS, on Substack, where I share tools on how to navigate the things that feel hard when it comes to family, relationships, and emotional growth. Link in my bio. 🔗 by @minaa_b

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15 days ago

Speak up. The only way to build your assertiveness skills is to speak up. Stop pretending things are fine when they aren't, and teach yourself that you can do what feels hard. by @minaa_b

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20 days ago

Raise your hand if you have a sibling you are not that close to!

Siblings who are raised together won't always have a close bond due to a variety of reasons. Not being close with every member of your family, including your sibling, is normal and more common than you might think. by @minaa_b

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Friendships are relationships, too. It's okay to have needs and expectations with the people you choose to do life with who aren't tied to you by blood or romance. Expressing your needs in a friendship is perfectly normal and healthy. by @minaa_b

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Some conversations are not worth the energy they take. Reclaiming your time means being okay with not needing to have the last word. by @minaa_b

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Doing too much is how you end up exhausted, burnt out, overstimulated, and overwhelmed. If going hard means constantly dysregulating your nervous system, your mental health will continuously suffer.

Growth looks like knowing your limits and setting boundaries with yourself when necessary. by @minaa_b

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Emotionally immature people lack the ability to see beyond their own self-interest. This is why they struggle with reciprocity in their relationships–they care more about their needs being fulfilled than pouring into others.

Discernment is critical in relationships because it allows us to see people for who they are and not who we want them to be. Sometimes, your requests aren't unreasonable, you're just asking the wrong person. by @minaa_b

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