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She gave you the title Maid of Honor because she trusts you.

Now comes the part nobody really talks about.

What does she actually need from you?

Every bride is different. One may need help making decisions. Another needs someone to keep the bridal party organized. Another simply needs her person to know when to step in and when to let her breathe.

Don’t assume.

Have the conversation.

The Bride + Maid of Honor 1:1 is where we get clear on expectations, communication, boundaries and how you two are going to navigate this season together.

Because the friendship should be just as beautiful after the wedding as it was before it.

LINK IN BIO🤍

#theelevatedetiquette #maidofhonor #bridalparty #mylifenstyle by @mylifenstyle

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20 days ago

Perfection is exhausting!

Nobody is asking for that.

Intention is different.

Intention is choosing how you show up.
In your home. In your hygiene.
In how you speak. In how you arrive.
In how you treat people when no one is watching.

That is what elevated means.

Not flawless.

Intentional.

Every single time.

#theelevatedetiquette #intention #mylifenstyle #elevatedliving by @mylifenstyle

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3 months ago

When you are invited to an event at someone’s home — follow the instructions.

I want to start there because that is where most people go wrong. The invitation comes with information. And what most people do is read the parts they like and quietly decide the other parts are suggestions.

They are not suggestions.

Here is what following instructions actually looks like:
ARRIVE ON TIME. Not early. Not late. not CP time. On time.
I need to say that again because both of those are a problem. Early is not thoughtful. Early is inconvenient. The host is still setting up, still getting dressed, still putting finishing touches on a space they have been preparing for you. Showing up 30 minutes early because “you’re excited” is showing up before you were invited. Don’t do that.

Late is disrespectful. Your host planned a timeline. Food has a window. The evening has a flow. When you walk in 45 minutes after the stated time because “that’s just how you are” — you have communicated that your comfort is more important than their effort. On time means on time. If the invitation says 7 — you arrive at 7.

THE DRESS CODE AND THE COLOR SCHEME. If they told you — they told you for a reason. A host who gives a dress code and a color scheme has a vision for their event. They thought about how it should look, how the photos should feel, how the room should come together. And when one person decides the instructions don’t apply to them — they become the thing in the photo that doesn’t belong.

Garden party attire means garden party attire. All white means all white. Black tie means black tie. A color scheme means you wear those colors.

It is not a suggestion. It is part of your invitation. And if you cannot or do not want to follow the dress code — the elevated choice is to decline the invitation graciously rather than show up on your own terms. 🧐
See comments for conclusion. by @mylifenstyle

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3 months ago

There is something that happens when your space is clean that nobody fully prepares you for.

The fog lifts.

Not slowly. Not eventually. Almost immediately.

You walk into a room that is clean — really clean, surfaces cleared, floor swept, that smell of something fresh in the air — and something in your chest just... releases.

You didn’t even realize you were carrying it.

The weight of the mess. The low hum of everything unfinished. The way your brain was quietly logging every pile, every dish, every corner that needed attention — all of it running in the background like too many tabs open at once.

And then it’s gone.

And you can think. Clearly. Fully. Without that noise underneath everything.

That is not a coincidence. That is not in your head.

Your environment is in direct conversation with your nervous system. And a cluttered space tells your brain that the work is never done. That rest is not available yet. That peace is somewhere on the other side of the pile.

A clean space tells your brain something different.

It says: you handled it.
It says: you are someone who takes care of where you live.
It says: you can rest now.

And rest — real rest, not just sitting in the middle of chaos and calling it relaxing — changes everything about how you show up the next day.

So if you have been feeling foggy lately.
Overwhelmed for no specific reason.
Like you cannot get your thoughts together no matter how hard you try.

Before you journal it.
Before you talk it through.
Before you do anything else —

Clean your space.

Make your bed. Do the dishes. Clear one surface. Light a candle.

And then sit in it.

Just sit in it.

And feel what peace feels like when it finally has somewhere to land.

🎥: The Home Edit

#theelevatedetiquette #mylifestyle #cleantheclutter #clearthefog by @mylifenstyle

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First dates are not about being perfect.

They are about being prepared and present.

Men — here is your first date checklist:

🕺🏿1. Plan ahead. Know where you are going before you pick her up or meet her. “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” is not a plan.

🕺🏿2. Be on time. Early is on time. On time is late.

🕺🏿3. Your hygiene should be spotless — fresh haircut if possible, clean nails, ironed clothes, good cologne applied lightly.

🕺🏿4. Put your phone face down or in your pocket. She should have your full attention.

🕺🏿5. Open the door. Pull out the chair. Walk on the street side of the sidewalk. These details matter more than you think. Sit facing the door.

🕺🏿6. Ask questions and actually listen to the answers. Do not spend the date waiting for your turn to talk.

🕺🏿7. Handle the bill without making it a moment. Reach for it, pay it, move on.

You are not auditioning. You are just showing up as your best self.

#theelevatedetiquette #mylifenstyle #firstdate #datingtips by @mylifenstyle

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3 months ago

It’s okay to give her a compliment sis!

I know we don’t always say it because of what we think it means.

We think saying “you look amazing” to another woman means we’re admitting she looks better than us.

We think saying “you killed that presentation” means we’re handing her something we wanted for ourselves.

We think lifting her up somehow lowers our ceiling.

And none of that is true. None of it!

Here is what is actually true:

The women who shine the brightest are almost always surrounded by other women who told them they were shining long before they believed it themselves.

Somebody told her her hair was beautiful on a day she almost didn’t do it.

Somebody told her she was good at her job on a day she was about to quit.

Somebody told her she looked amazing on a day she felt invisible.

And that one sentence — that one small act of seeing someone — changed something. Maybe it changed her whole week. Maybe it changed her whole direction. Maybe she went home and told her daughter that a woman noticed her today and it was the best part of her day.

You have that kind of power. Every single day. And it does not cost you anything!

Not your beauty. Not your brilliance. Not your spot.

There is room for all of us. And the women who know that — the ones who say it out loud, who celebrate freely, who lift without keeping score — those are the most elevated women in every room.

Be that woman. Tell her. Today.

#theelevatedetiquette
#mylifenstyle
#nobodytoldyouthis
#bethewomen by @mylifenstyle

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3 months ago

I love a strapless dress. (As you can see) I love a spaghetti strap moment. I genuinely do. But I need to have a conversation about what is happening — or more accurately what is NOT happening — underneath some of these outfits. 🫣

Here is the truth nobody is saying out loud:

The dress being strapless is a style choice. Skipping support is a different choice entirely. And those two things are not the same decision.

Here is your setting guide for when support is non-negotiable:

WORK OR PROFESSIONAL SETTING:

A strapless or thin-strap dress at a work event, a presentation, a meeting, or anything professional requires a strapless bra, a bra-built-in option, or adhesive support. Full stop. This is not about being old-fashioned. This is about the fact that your professional presentation includes everything your outfit is — and isn’t — doing.

CHURCH, FUNERAL, FORMAL FAMILY EVENT:

The same standard applies. These are settings where modesty and intentionality are expected. A flowing strapless sundress at your cousin’s graduation without proper support is not the moment.

DINNER DATE OR FIRST DATE:

You want to feel confident and put-together. Proper support changes your posture, your silhouette, and how the dress actually fits. The dress was designed to sit a certain way. Support helps it do that job.

A WEDDING AS A GUEST:

You will be in photos. You will be standing, sitting, dancing, hugging people. Proper support for the entire event is not optional — it’s just smart dressing.

Now — a beach day? A backyard cookout? A casual Saturday with your friends? Live your life sis!
Dress your way. Do what feels right for the moment and your body.

But here is the elevated standard I want you to carry:

The question is never just “does the dress need a bra strap?”

The question is: “does this setting require me to show up with full intention — and is my foundation supporting that?”

Dress for the occasion.

From the inside out.

#theelevatedetiquette #mylifenstyle #nobodytaughtyouthis #dresswithintension #womenstyle by @mylifenstyle

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I know what’s in that pile.

👖The jeans you wore once and they’re not dirty but they’re not clean either so they went to the corner.

👚The shirt you tried on, changed your mind, and tossed instead of hanging back up.

🧥The hoodie you wear so often it lives on the chair because putting it away feels pointless.

👗The outfit from that thing you went to last week that you definitely meant to hang up.

That pile is not clutter. That pile is a series of small decisions you decided not to make. And every morning you wake up and see it — it drains something from you before your day even starts.

Here’s what I need you to do:

Set a timer for 20 minutes.
Pick up every single item in that pile and make a decision — hang it, fold it, wash it, or donate it.

Those are the only four options. There is no fifth option that ends with it going back in a pile.

Clean clothes hang or fold. Dirty clothes go in the hamper.
Things that don’t fit or that you haven’t worn in six months go in a donation bag that leaves your home this week.

Then look at the corner. That empty corner is not nothing. That empty corner is peace. That is breathing room. That is what your bedroom is supposed to feel like.

Your bedroom should be the room you rest in — not the room you stress in. 🤏🏽

Twenty minutes.

One decision at a time.

Start today. by @mylifenstyle

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Okay let’s do a little exercise together.

🗣️I want you to talk — out loud, right now — for sixty seconds about anything. What you did today, what you want for dinner, anything.

🗣️And I want you to count every single time you say um. Uh. Like. You know. Right. I mean.

Go ahead. I’ll wait.🕤

...

How many was it?

Because most people — most — hit double digits without realizing it. And the scary part is not the number. The scary part is that you didn’t notice. You never notice. You just keep talking and the filler words keep filling and the person on the other side is quietly losing confidence in what you’re saying.

Here is the truth about filler words that nobody tells you:

They don’t make you sound like you’re thinking.
They make you sound like you don’t know what you’re about to say.

There is a difference. And people hear it.

Here is how to actually fix it:

REPLACE THE FILLER WITH SILENCE.
The next time you feel an “um” coming — stop. Just stop. Breathe. Then continue. That pause feels like forever to you. To everyone else it sounds like confidence.

SLOW DOWN.
Filler words happen when your mouth is moving faster than your brain. Slow your delivery down on purpose. Give your thoughts time to form before your mouth opens.

RECORD YOURSELF.
Once a day, talk for sixty seconds about anything and play it back. You will hear yourself differently than you think you sound. And the awareness alone will cut your fillers in half within two weeks.

PRACTICE OUT LOUD.
In the car. In the mirror. Answering questions nobody asked you. The more natural speaking feels, the less you reach for filler words to hold the space.

The most powerful communicators in any room are not the loudest or the fastest.

They are the most intentional.

That is who you are becoming.

Now go practice.

🗣️Follow me for more etiquette tips @theelevatedetiquette

#theelevatedetiquette #mylifenstyle #howtospeak #progressnotperfection by @mylifenstyle

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Okay so interrupting is one of those habits that people have and genuinely do not realize how often they’re doing it.

They think they’re enthusiastic. They think they’re engaged. They think jumping in means they’re following along.

What the other person hears is: what I have to say is more important than what you’re finishing right now.

That is a communication problem. And it is fixable.

Here is why we interrupt:
We get excited. We’re afraid we’ll forget our point. We think we already know where the sentence is going. We’re so ready to respond that we stop actually listening and start just waiting for a gap.

That last one is the most common. And it means you are not really listening — you are rehearsing.

Here is how to stop:

WAIT FOR THE FULL STOP.
Not a pause. Not a breath. The complete end of their thought. If you’re not sure they’re done — wait one extra beat. You will almost never be wrong for waiting.

HOLD YOUR THOUGHT.
If you’re afraid you’ll forget your point — you can jot a quick word down or simply trust that if your point is good enough, you’ll remember it. And if you forget it? It might not have been as urgent as it felt.

MAKE EYE CONTACT AND NOD WHILE THEY’RE TALKING.
This keeps you engaged with what they’re actually saying instead of drifting into your own response. Active listening looks like something — show it.

WHEN YOU REALIZE YOU’VE INTERRUPTED:
Stop. Say “I’m sorry — please finish.” And mean it. Then actually let them finish. That one moment of self-correction communicates more maturity than never having interrupted in the first place.

The best conversationalists are not the ones who speak the most.

They’re the ones who make you feel like what you said actually mattered.

Be that person.

#theelevatedetiquette #mylifenstyle #realtalk #communicationskills by @mylifenstyle

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Nobody talks about this enough — what you wear on a date is communication before you say a single word. It tells your date how seriously you took the invitation and how much you respect them and yourself.

Let me break it down by the type of date:

✨CASUAL FIRST DATE — coffee, lunch, a walk:
You don’t have to be dressed to the nines. But you should look like you thought about it. Clean jeans, a fitted top or button-down, clean shoes. Hair done. Nails clean. Fragrance light. Put-together without trying too hard.

✨DINNER DATE — sit-down restaurant:
Step it up. A nice blouse or dress for her. Slacks or dark fitted jeans and a collared shirt for him. Clean shoes — not sneakers unless they’re clearly intentional and stylish. You’re sitting across from someone who chose to spend their time with you. Honor that.

✨OUTDOOR DATE — concert, festival, farmer’s market:
This is where you get to have fun with it. But “fun” still means intentional. A cute coordinated casual look. Comfortable shoes that also look good. Weather-appropriate — but make the weather work for you, not against you.

✨EVENT DATE — a show, a formal dinner, a wedding as a plus one:
Ask what the dress code is. Asking is not weak. Showing up underdressed to a formal event is.

For every single date type — the rule isthe same:
Look like you care. Because if you’re asking someone for their time, you should.

#theelevatedetiquette #mylifenstyle #datenight #firstdate #whattowear by @mylifenstyle

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