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Nicki Soares

@nicki.soares

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I’m a Mommy 💗 | Rebuilding life after divorce at 38 | Dating, healing & single mom life | Muscle Mommy

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A little about me 💅 I’m a single mom of two living in NorCal. Muscle Mommy, dog lover, dreamer, and I’m passionate about helping other women build a life they love.

Am I a little delulu? Hell ya ✨💫

Let’s be real… no one’s building their dream@life while simultaneously complaining about their circumstances, letting fear takeover and waiting for the “perfect” moment to take action.

So yes, I’ll continue to be delusional because I refuse to play small.

#momfluencer #singlemomlife #growth #singlemom by @nicki.soares

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Social media can feel like a highlight reel, so here’s some of my biggest struggles I face as a Millennial single mom who is trying to figure it out.

I never feel like what i accomplish in a day is good enough. I’m always left with I could have done more, even if the day was significantly productive.

Lately, I’ve been making myself get out of my comfort zone: sending the dm, asking instead of waiting to be chosen, or believing that I belong in the room with other successful people. My old patterns of seeking validation and people pleasing come in strong. This is something I constantly have to work on.

I came to terms that I may never find love with a partner and this can hit deeper than I’d like to admit. Finding love again often feels like it’s out of my reach.

At 38, I really thought life would be so different. Not that it’s bad at all, but I get caught up in “what ifs”. I have to remind myself that no one has it all together even if it appears they do.

Sometimes I think back to a part of my life where I compromised so much, but in ways it was simpler. I didn’t know what I know now. Since I’ve started taking massive action in my life, I feel like I’ve grieved a thousand deaths of myself. It’s uncomfortable AF and makes me wannna crawl back to my old self.

Transition days are the worst. If there’s one thing I miss about being married, it’s being in my kids worlds 24/7. They now have to adjust and live in two households. My 8 year old doesn’t understand.

Balancing it all…putting myself out there as a strong woman for something bigger than what most people do and staying soft, feminine and taking care of myself. Most days it can feel impossible but I want to show my kids what life looks like on the other side of discomfort.

I have to take a deep breath and know that whatever losses or wins that come my way are for a reason and having faith that God already has it handled. by @nicki.soares

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Glory to God #jesus #mysavior #mytestimony taken in California by @nicki.soares

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Why I opened out of child and spousal support after my marriage ended. #momfluencer #divorce #healing by @nicki.soares

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So many people will try to talk you out of your dreams because they talked themselves out of their own dreams and will protect their limitations onto you. It’s important that you just do your own thing and don’t worry about what everyone has to say about your life. #growth #mindset #singlemom by @nicki.soares

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Managing it all quite well actually. #momfluencer #singlemom #singlemomlife by @nicki.soares

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Unhinged ways I live my life as a single mom. Sure, I can be a little out of touch with reality, however, I know for damn sure my reality is not like everyone else.

I’m selective about who and where I spend my time. Not everyone is allowed access to my calendar. I’ve quit four jobs in the past year and distanced myself from unhealthy environments and relationships. I don’t feel one ounce of guilt about it. If they can’t see my worth, it’s not my job to prove it and I’m out.

I refuse to have conversations about how “expensive” everything is or “this is just how it is” for single moms. I don’t claim that the economy is going to dictate how I live my life or believe the lie that just because I’m a single mom, I have to eat shit for half a decade.

I used to be led by my emotions but now, I wake up everyday and put in the work I need to do. If I’m having a day where I feel sorry for myself, I acknowledge it but it’s never the driving force of how my day goes. If anything, I’ve learned consistency>perfection.

I often feel so scared and cry my eyes out to God about wtf I’m doing, but you better believe I’m taking action. Whether it was the right or wrong move, I always learn from it and gain momentum/confidence.

I believe God gives us all unique gifts but it’s our job to see them through. We’re not meant to sit around and wait for opportunities, we’re meant to lead with intuition over everyone else’s opinions on our lives.

I always say, my next car WILL be a Porsche and I really love the finer things… but freedom of time is the ultimate form of wealth. I don’t want to be the overworked mom pouring into someone else’s business and missing out of my children. I’m the business mommy who gets to go to every game, school pick up, etc.

I’ll be real, modern dating after a decade is ROUGH. However, I don’t give into the lie that all men are trash. I have close friends who are married to good men and friendships with good guys. I know there’s an exceptional one just for me. by @nicki.soares

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Time to believe in yourself like you believed he was the one. Let’s go 🏃🏻‍♀️ #momfluencer #confidence #healing #singlemomlife #dating by @nicki.soares

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Self love sets the standard and you realize what you once tolerated, no longer has space in your life. #growth #selflove #momfluencer #singlemom #boundaries by @nicki.soares

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Currently accepting applications. Go ahead and post those 💪 💅 #momfluencer #singlemomlife #dating #biceplover by @nicki.soares

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I hate to break it to you, but confidence is built on the other side of fear. Once you decide to start taking bold risks in your life, everything changes. You are then able to drown out the noise of other people and listen to your intuition and that is EVERYTHING. #WomensEmpowerment #PersonalGrowth #SelfConfidence #MindsetShift #BecomingHer by @nicki.soares

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Had a conversation with a friend recently, and it went down like this. Divorce is hard marriage is hard. You have to be the one to choose your heart, and ultimately the decision should be which one is going to lead you to life that you want for yourself. This is one of the toughest decisions I ever had to make two years ago when I left my marriage of 13 years. The choice is all yours. You do have to remember that the good things in life never come easy. #singlemom #divorce #healing #marriage #growth by @nicki.soares

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