Rob Allan | Doctor of Psychology

What you believe about your value and worth as a person is now up to you, not someone else - unless you allow them to define it for you.

It’s ok to appreciate compliments and recognition from others who value impressive achievements. Graciously accept these kind words, but don’t let them become the main source of your validation or self-worth. Relying on external validation around your performance is a game that will ultimately leave you frustrated and exhausted as it means continually bettering past achievements to get new validation this way.

Breaking free from the performance-validation-self worth loop will allow you to focus on what truly matters to you and find fulfilment in values that you get to define.