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Posted On: July 11th 2026, 05:02 pm
Although I am sharing this video, I actually do know why I have been home the last few days, glued to the TV, praying, and very much emotionally triggered.
I have stayed close to home for the past two days, intentionally choosing to cook and find space for myself. If you saw me, you wouldn’t know what I am going through—but as I type this, the tears are falling. The Nolan Wells case has been deeply triggering.
I need people to stop assuming that those around them are okay. I want to be transparent: there are days when I am not okay. I find myself reaching for the very same tools I teach my clients to use. I am human, and I am real.
We need to do better at checking in on families who are raising young Black men. We need to have the necessary, uncomfortable conversations about how society continues to see them.
I believe in the value of diverse racial and cultural friendships—I have them myself—but there is a standard that must be upheld. A young Black man should never be in a space, particularly one that is predominantly white, where his protection, his consideration, and his well-being are not treated as an absolute priority.
Island. Dorm room. Boating. School. Streets. Friends. The location or circumstance may change, but the pain does not. “Every parent has the right to fight for answers about what happened to their child.”
I have stayed close to home for the past two days, intentionally choosing to cook and find space for myself. If you saw me, you wouldn’t know what I am going through—but as I type this, the tears are falling. The Nolan Wells case has been deeply triggering.
I need people to stop assuming that those around them are okay. I want to be transparent: there are days when I am not okay. I find myself reaching for the very same tools I teach my clients to use. I am human, and I am real.
We need to do better at checking in on families who are raising young Black men. We need to have the necessary, uncomfortable conversations about how society continues to see them.
I believe in the value of diverse racial and cultural friendships—I have them myself—but there is a standard that must be upheld. A young Black man should never be in a space, particularly one that is predominantly white, where his protection, his consideration, and his well-being are not treated as an absolute priority.
Island. Dorm room. Boating. School. Streets. Friends. The location or circumstance may change, but the pain does not. “Every parent has the right to fight for answers about what happened to their child.”
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