“How are you doing?” isn’t always one of them. 🤎
For many autism moms, those four words carry so much more:
Are you okay?
Are you happy?
Did something hurt you?
Did someone upset you?
Is something happening inside of you that I haven’t figured out yet?
And when your child cannot easily tell you, you learn to listen differently.
You listen to behavior.
You notice routines.
You study expressions.
You recognize sounds, movements, gestures and changes that other people might miss.
You become fluent in the smallest details because sometimes the smallest detail is the answer.
But there are still things we wish we could simply ask.
And hear.
Not because our children have nothing to say.
But because communication doesn’t always arrive in the form the world expects.
So we keep asking.
We keep learning.
We keep listening.
And some autism moms are still holding one of the simplest questions in their hearts:
“How are you doing?”
Waiting patiently for an answer. ❤️
2 months agokraftykompassionatekreator
When I get that Life360 alert that he’s on his way home , I give him a few minutes, then I’m checking in: How was your day? Are you okay? Did anything happen? I ask because I know what he’s been through. My son has experienced mental, physical, and emotional harm in a place where he was supposed to be safe—school. So even now, in his last year and making Honor Roll, I still ask. Because our children can accomplish amazing things and still need us to advocate for them. They can smile, say they’re fine, and still be holding something inside. So when this autism mom asks, “How are you?” I really need to know. I’m listening to the words, the silence, and everything in between.
2 months agowhenmotherhoodlooksdifferent
Yes; there are so many ways our kids communicate beyond words! I have learned to tune into all the methods our daughter Nai uses ❤️ from her AAC device to spoken language & gestures.
2 months agoeverystepshines
This hit me. 🥺💛 Sometimes How are you doing? holds so many questions underneath it. When the words do not always come, you learn your child in a different language. Their expressions, their sounds, their movements, their patterns, even the smallest changes. There is something so deep about knowing your child that way, while still wishing sometimes they could simply tell you what their heart is holding. 💜💙💚🧡
2 months agomomsofautism
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