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For anyone going through a relationship break up.
Feeling is healing. Can you be with it fully?
For so long, I avoided painful emotions with two things:
1. Numb & suppress it
2. Intellectualise that “I’m good” and bypass the experience
I learnt from a young age through conditioning that my emotions were “wrong” & “bad” so I actively developed my thinking mind to always feel in control of that part of me.
But it’s perfect to have all parts of us expressed, in fact, we need to.
Sigmund Freud said: “Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive, and will come forth later, in uglier ways”
For someone who loves doing “inner work”, I had so much shame around a relationship ending: “what will people think?” & “what does this say about me if I can’t make it work” & “I’m meant to have the answers.”
Brother. All of that is bullshit. Absolute shit. All these thoughts are trying to break my addiction to “being right” & “having answers”.
The fastest way to move on from these emotions is to stop resisting them. To breathe into it, feel it & ask simple direction questions:
“Can I be with this?”
Not for the sake of “growth” or “business” or for any secondary benefit.
Just to be at home with YOU. The part of you you’ll be with for your entire life.
If it was a 7 year old version of you directly in front of you who was deeply distressed, you would embrace them, yet through your own conditioning, when it’s the adult version of you, you run away from that part of you, often unconsciously.
Relationships are a beautiful mirror & in the moments you think it “shouldn’t” have gone that way are often the GREATEST life redirections.
Lean in. “If this was destined to happen, what’s the message for me?”
EP209 on @timelessmindsetpod
“Why High Achievers Burn Out”
Feeling is healing. Can you be with it fully?
For so long, I avoided painful emotions with two things:
1. Numb & suppress it
2. Intellectualise that “I’m good” and bypass the experience
I learnt from a young age through conditioning that my emotions were “wrong” & “bad” so I actively developed my thinking mind to always feel in control of that part of me.
But it’s perfect to have all parts of us expressed, in fact, we need to.
Sigmund Freud said: “Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive, and will come forth later, in uglier ways”
For someone who loves doing “inner work”, I had so much shame around a relationship ending: “what will people think?” & “what does this say about me if I can’t make it work” & “I’m meant to have the answers.”
Brother. All of that is bullshit. Absolute shit. All these thoughts are trying to break my addiction to “being right” & “having answers”.
The fastest way to move on from these emotions is to stop resisting them. To breathe into it, feel it & ask simple direction questions:
“Can I be with this?”
Not for the sake of “growth” or “business” or for any secondary benefit.
Just to be at home with YOU. The part of you you’ll be with for your entire life.
If it was a 7 year old version of you directly in front of you who was deeply distressed, you would embrace them, yet through your own conditioning, when it’s the adult version of you, you run away from that part of you, often unconsciously.
Relationships are a beautiful mirror & in the moments you think it “shouldn’t” have gone that way are often the GREATEST life redirections.
Lean in. “If this was destined to happen, what’s the message for me?”
EP209 on @timelessmindsetpod
“Why High Achievers Burn Out”
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