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I recently read about the psychology behind giving children little “jobs” at home. Even something as simple as straightening the shoes by the front door or putting a napkin at each place for dinner.

They may seem like tiny tasks to us, but to a child, they can communicate something much bigger:

You are capable.
You are needed.
What you do matters here.

And I haven’t stopped thinking about that. 🥹

Our intention with these jars isn’t just to reward “good behavior.” We want to notice their effort, kindness, responsibility, helpfulness and those little moments when they choose to try.

They’ll get to work toward special treats and one-on-one dates with Mom or Dad, but what I really hope they’re gaining along the way is confidence in themselves.

And obviously, at two, Covey’s “Reward Jar” is mostly just play right now 😂🤍 He loves being included with his big sisters, and honestly, even that feels like part of it. He gets to feel like he has a place in what our family is doing too.

I want our kids to grow up with an “I can do that” mentality instead of automatically thinking, “I can’t.”

To know that they have something valuable to contribute.
That helping matters.
That trying matters.
That they matter. 🤍

Just a little experiment we’re starting in our family. I’ll share how it goes. 🫶🏻

And if you want to try it with your family too, I made a FREE printable Reward Jar chart to make getting started a little easier. 🥹🤍 There’s a pink + blue version, and I linked the jars we’re using too!

You can find everything through the link in my bio. And if you try it, tag me, I would LOVE to see your little helpers. 🫶🏻