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👆ON REPEAT 🤯 One moment, he makes you feel like a Queen.
Desired
Cherished
Beautiful
Special
Welcome
..

He makes you feel wanted, comfortable. 
He gives you affection, attention and tenderness.
You feel the connection.
You see the good in him.

And then, something changes.
The same person who made you feel so good - crosses your boundaries.
He dismisses your feelings.
He makes you question your own experience.
He turns your reaction into the problem.
He tells you that you’re playing the victim.
And suddenly, you’re no longer the Queen.
You’re the problem.
You’re too sensitive.
You’re overreacting.
You’re the one who needs to explain herself.

And when you dare to speak about what happened, he feels attacked. He denies your experience. He is even threatening you if you dare to tell the truth about what just happend‼️🚩

This is the disorienting part: the person who made you feel cherished is now making you feel small, confused & scares you. So you try to leave..

And then, sometimes, the tenderness returns. He changes roles
He treats you well again.
The connection feels beautiful.
You laugh together.
You feel close.
You don’t want to leave anymore.

And you wonder:
How can someone who makes me feel so good also make me feel this way?

You remember the Queen.
You want to believe in the Queen.
You want to stay in the moments that feel beautiful and forget the moments that hurt and scared you. All the moments you were about to leave & all the moments you isolated yourself & avoided these manipulative, gross, needy, energy vampires.

But here’s what I want you to remember:
You don’t have to decide whether someone is a Queen-maker or a Monster. You have to look at the whole pattern of how they treat you.

The beautiful moments can be real.
And the harm can be real, too.

One does not erase the other.
You can feel attracted to someone who has hurt you.
You can miss someone who has crossed your boundaries.
You can enjoy their tenderness and still recognise that their behaviour has made you feel unsafe.

This doesn’t make you weak.
It doesn’t mean you wanted to be hurt.
And it doesn’t mean you are choosing to be a victim.

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