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Selen Ozbek, MSc, GMBPsS

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📚 Doctoral Candidate in Health Psychology
☘️ Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
📝 National Editor @practicalhealthpsychology

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#acbs #womenacbs #womenday by @psyselenozbek

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7 months ago

This Sunday, March 8, we will gather to connect and share together.
An open space to come together as a community.
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Please check your time zone.
Registration form in the bio.

ACBS Women's SIG by @psyselenozbek

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7 months ago

The ACBS Women SIG is celebrating Women’s Month all throughout March 💜

We are organizing talks, workshops, and community gatherings across different time zones to bring our global community together and raise funds for ACBS 2026 scholarships.

Stay tuned — the registration and payment link for these events will be available soon. We can’t wait to share this month with you!

El SIG de Mujeres de ACBS celebra el Mes de la Mujer durante todo marzo 💜

Estamos organizando charlas, workshops y encuentros en distintas zonas horarias para reunir a nuestra comunidad global y recaudar fondos para becas de ACBS 2026.

Próximamente compartiremos el link de inscripción y pago para estos encuentros. ¡Esperamos vivir este mes juntas! by @psyselenozbek

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8 months ago

[EN] This was reported in ASquare Magazine back in 1994. It sounds extreme, I know. It speaks volumes about how deeply thinness has been woven into our sense of worth. ❤️‍🩹

Fast forward to 2025, research continues to show that body weight is a powerful social signal, and the uncontrolled use of cosmetic surgeries and weight-loss injections further reinforces fat phobia.

Studies link weight stigma and fear of fatness to increased anxiety, depression, physiological stress responses and eating disorders, which can be deadly. It also pushes people away from healthcare, exercise, and social connection, ironically, the crucial things that support health and well-being. 🥲

This is why conversations about body image are crucial. They’re about health and self-worth in a world that is confused what health actually entails beyond the looks.

[TR] Bu, 1994 yılında ASquare Magazine’de yayımlanan bir rapor sonucu. Abartı geliyor, biliyorum. Ama bu ifade, zayıflığın ne kadar derinlemesine işlendiğini açıkça gösteriyor.❤️‍🩹

2025’e geldiğimizde araştırmalar, kilonun güçlü bir sosyal sinyal olduğunu kanıtlıyor ve özellikle estetik operasyonların, kilo verdiren iğnelerin kontrolsüz kullanımı şişman-fobiyi destekliyor.

Araştırmalar, kilo damgalanması ve şişmanlık korkusunun; artan kaygı, depresyon, fizyolojik stres tepkileri ve ölümcül olabilen yeme bozukluklarıyla bağlantılı olduğunu gösteriyor. Çünkü zayıf olmak o kadar kolay olsaydı bu kadar zamandır “obezite” çözümü olarak sunulan şeyler işe yaramış olurdu. Aynı zamanda, insanları sağlık hizmetlerinden, egzersizden, yani ironik bir şekilde sağlığı ve iyiliği destekleyen temel şeylerden uzaklaştırıyor. 🥲

İşte bu yüzden beden algısı üzerine daha fazla konuşmamız gerekiyor. Çünkü sağlığın ve öz değerin görünüş olduğuna inandırıldığımız dünyada toplumsal ihtiyacımız sağlığın neye dair olduğunu anlamak. by @psyselenozbek

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a year ago

I am excited to be hosting an in-person workshop at Centre 151, London and invited my brilliant colleague @houseofalmondblossom to share her expertise in appearance of embodiment. We will dive into the social narratives that shape our relationship with our bodies and discuss how to move towards liberation within our own skin.

We will have a reflective, real, and radically compassionate conversation about body image, health myths, and reclaiming our stories. This space is for any curious humans who wants to think critically of beauty and reconnect with their bodies, in their own way.
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📍 Tuesday, 7 October | 7:30–8:30pm at the Centre 151

🎟️ Registration via Eventbrite in the link in bio

Come as you are. We’d love to see you there 🤍 by @psyselenozbek

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a year ago

In this experiential, discussion-based salon, we’ll explore how social narratives around body image, control, patriarchy and health shape our eating behaviours in powerful but sometimes invisible ways.
We’ll reflect on weight stigma and appearance-based social expectations, and how these show up in our personal and professional lives, often leading to a disconnection from our values. This session aims to highlight the impact of the broader context we’re all living and working in, and to open space for more compassionate understanding of our relationship with our bodies.
The session will be an-hour long, please check your email.

See you tomorrow 💜 by @psyselenozbek

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a year ago

[EN] Currently reading Moon Palace by Paul Auster, this line really stayed with me and made me think about human connection.

Often in early or surface-level conversations, we can be speaking to themselves, projecting our own thoughts, anxieties, or rehearsed lines, without truly engaging with the other person. This moment reflects the shift when the character in the book stops being absorbed in his own inner monologue and begins to genuinely see and engage with the other person.

This quote is less about whether it really happened and more about that inner shift, the moment of turning from self-absorption to truly meeting the other person. It speaks to those thresholds in human connection, when we stop circling inside our own minds and allow ourselves to engage, see, and be with the other. 🫂

👇🏼I’d love to hear what this quote meant to you, please share in the comments if you’d like to!

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Şu anda Paul Auster’ın Moon Palace kitabını okuyorum, bu satır beni çok etkiledi ve insan ilişkileri üzerine düşündürdü.

Çoğu zaman özellikle biriyle ilk tanıştığımızda ya da yüzeysel sohbetlerde aslında kendimizle konuşur gibi oluyoruz. Kendi düşüncelerimizi, kaygılarımızı ya da olmak istediğimiz ideal benliği yansıtıyoruz. Bu da karşımızdakiyle gerçekten temas etmeyi zorlaştırıyor. Kitaptaki bu an, karakterin kendi iç diyaloğundan çıkıp karşısındakini gerçekten görmeye ve onunla bağ kurmaya başladığı dönüşümün ilk cümlesi.

Bu alıntı, gerçekte olup olmamasından çok, o içsel dönüşümle ilgili, insanın kendi içine kapanmaktan çıkıp karşısındakine gerçekten yöneldiği anla. İlişkilerdeki bu eşiklere dair bir şey söylüyor: zihnimizin içinde dönüp durmayı bırakıp karşımızdakini görmeye, onunla olmaya izin verdiğimiz anlara. 🫂

👇🏼Bunu okuduğunuzda sizde nasıl bir anlam çağrışıyor? Yorumlarda paylaşalım! by @psyselenozbek

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a year ago

ACBS World Conference - that’s a wrap!
Every time I attend an ACBS event or a conference, I’m reminded of why I keep coming back. Learning is part of it, sure, but learning with people who share a similar outlook on life and work sparks a strong sense of belonging.

We don’t just sit and take notes here. We feel. We hold our own stories alongside our clients’, and that’s what makes this community so special.

Here are my five takeaways from six full days of connecting with ourselves, our work, and colleagues from around the world:

✨ Pre-conference workshop with the wonderful @walser.robyn :
This one had us crying, laughing, and reflecting on how, even when everything sucks, there’s still love somewhere. Being bold, open, and loving as a human and a psychologist truly goes a long way.

👯‍♀️Friendships can start with a glance:
A little comment, a shared look during a meaningful memory exercise… that’s how @orioncounselingandconsulting and I clicked this time :)

🧠 Behaviour change sometimes needs a nudge: “Talking about things” alone isn’t ACT. As the name suggests, there’s action in the mix, and our role should involve bringing awareness to spaces that are left unseen.

📚 There’s still so much to learn:
And that’s exciting. It’s why we’re here, and we should never take our knowledge for granted. Science is evolving everyday!

🎭 Yes, we come for science… but also for Follies: ACBS wouldn’t be complete without the night we make fun of ourselves, our work, and everything CBS-related. Last two slides are examples of that. This year, I performed at Follies for the first time ever. More on that soon. :)

ILY @acbs.social 💛 #acbswc25 taken in Sheraton New Orleans Hotel by @psyselenozbek

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Maybe. But for many of us, it’s more layered than that.

I took this video at the Hackney Half Marathon last week, so many people running with purpose. For charity, for health, for personal challenge. It reminded me that movement means different things to different people.

I remember seeing this sentence “You are one run away from a good mood”. There is a lot of truth in that, as well as hope that may not actually serve many people. In my observation, it’s been marketed as a miracle form of exercise, something to do to feel ‘amazing’. Sometimes it takes everything just to lace up your shoes. It certainly is not a fix-all for a rough day or a quick weight loss or boost in mood.

As a health psychologist, I always emphasize that exercise is not about chasing a better mood or fitter body.
 It’s about honouring your health, consistently, no matter how you feel or look, getting up to move even when you don’t feel well is the commitment that boosts well-being.
 Some days movement is running. Other days it’s stretching, dancing, walking, or simply doing a few walking lunges on your way to work.

Exercise can protect us from so much: heart disease, depression, diabetes. But more than that, it keeps us grounded. It gives us something to commit to, even when everything else feels uncertain.

So instead of asking “How can I feel amazing?” Try asking, “What can I do today for my health, given the circumstances (i.e. work schedule, emotional state)?”

That’s how we can start feeling content about our lives. 🤍 taken in London, United Kingdom by @psyselenozbek

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a year ago

Behaviour change is hard. Not because you’re weak or lacking discipline. Because your brain is wired for comfort, not growth. We are faced with various thoughts that stop us. Some common thought we might have: “I’m not used to this, I will fail, it’s too hard, I don’t have time…”

Yep, been there, thought that 🙃 But what if those thoughts can be a part of the work instead of the barrier?

In Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), we don’t spend our energy trying to fight or change these thoughts. Instead, we bring them into the work. We get curious about them. We notice them and understand that they have a good reason. And then we keep going with them, not despite them.

* You want to meditate but keep thinking, “I’m bad at this.” Of course you are, you haven’t done it before. Set a timer for 2 minutes anyway.
* You’re trying to eat more intuitively and the voice says, “This won’t work.” You acknowledge it and still plate your food with care.
* You’re working on a side project and the thought shows up, “What’s the point?” You nod to it and keep typing.

The goal isn’t to re-write your thoughts. It’s to keep moving in the direction that matters, even when the barriers is there.

💭 Next time one of those familiar but unhelpful thoughts pops up, ask yourself: Can I bring this into the work with me?
The answer might keep you going. 🤍 by @psyselenozbek

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a year ago

Yılın o zamanı geldi, yeni yıla girerken beklentileri düşünmek, hedefler koymak çoğumuzun sıklıkla yaptığı bir şey. Belirsiz, sebebi içselleştirilmemiş hedefler genellikle uzun ömürlü olmaz. Davranış değişimi oldukça zor bir şey, kişisel önemini, yaşamak istediğimiz hayata nasıl bir etkisi olacağını içselleştirmeden koyulan hedefler, yeterince önemli bir yere sahip olmadığı için yapması cazip gelmez. Bu çok insanca, beynimiz doğası gereği enerjiyi korumak ister; bu yüzden sıcak bir evden çıkıp spora gitmek zor gelebilir. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Çoğu klişeleşmiş hedefler “yeni yılda sağlıklı olmak, daha çok okumak” gibi herkesin istediği şeyler. Hepimiz sağlıklı yaşamak, iyi ilişkiler kurmak isteriz, bunları istemekte bir sakınca yok elbette, ama sağlıklı olmayı neden istediğimiz çok kişisel bir konu. Her yılın güzel ve tatmin olduğumuz anları olduğu gibi zorlayıcı anları da oluyor. Aşağıdaki sorular hedeflerinizi keşfetmeniz için faydalı olabilir. 🔍

-Hayatımda yolunda giden neler oldu? Bunlar benim için neyin önemli olduğuna işaret ediyor?
- Bu yıl hangi konularda en çok zorlandım? Bunların ne kadarı benim kontrolümdeydi? (Örneğin sevdiğiniz birini kaybettiğinizde yaşadığınız zorluklar bu yılın kötü dönemlerinden biri olsa da düzenli kitap okumamak sizin değiştirebileceğiniz bir zorluk olabilir.)
- Zorlayıcı konularda yardım isteyebileceğim, fikrine ve desteğine güvendiğim kimler var?
- Geliştirmek veya bırakmak istediğim alışkanlıklarım var mı? Bunları gerçekleştirirsem ne kazanmış olurum?
- Konfor alanım beni bu yıl korktuğum hangi yerlere gitmekten korudu
- Korkmasam 2025’te neyi yapmak isterim?
- Hangi anlarda kendim gibi hissettim/hissetmedim? Bunlardan yola çıkarak neler yapsam kendim olduğum anları çoğaltabilirim?
- 2024’te istediğim şeylere ulaşmamın önüne geçen neler oldu? Tekrarlarsa bu zorluklara nasıl tepki vermek isterim?
- Dünyaya ve kendime dair merak ettiğim 3 şey nedir? Bunları haftalık planıma dahil edersem ne gibi davranışlar sergiliyor olurum?

Umarım bu soruların üzerine düşünmeyi faydalı bulursunuz. Bu yıl sizin için en önemli soru hangisi? 🤗 by @psyselenozbek

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2 years ago

Yokluğunun üzerinden 1 yıl geçti, aklıma gelmediği bir gün olmadı. 5 Aralık 2023’e kadar hayatımda bu kadar önemli bir yeri olan birini kaybetmemiştim. Doğan Hocam bana insan olmaya, dünyaya, ölüme, anlamlı yaşamaya dair bir sürü şey öğretirken onun ölümüne hiç hazırlamamışım kendimi. Hep söylerdi, “Hadi bu derste de ölmediniz, yine iyisiniz.” O kadar ciddiye alarak çalıştığı ölüme bir o kadar da alaycı yaklaşırdı. O kadar otantik bir hayat yaşadı ki ölümden hiç korkmadı, belki de o yüzden onun ölümü hiç aklıma gelmedi.

Yıllarca bıkmadan usanmadan söyledi, bir psikolog sadece psikoloji bilirse dandik psikologtur diye. Sanat, edebiyat, müzik, fizik, felsefe, matematik, kültür, her şeyi öğrenin derdi, elinden geldiğince de öğretti. Dünyayı merak etmeyi öğretti, çünkü yalnızca psikoloji kuramlarını bilmek insanla çalışmak için yetersiz kalır. İnsanın olduğu her yerde psikoloji vardır, psikoloji sosyaldir, derdi.

Bir üniversite hocasıyla böyle bir bağ kurulmasının nadir olması beni hem şanslı hem yalnız hissettiriyor. Çoğu hoca öğrencilerinin adını hatırlamaz, biliyorum. Kendimi bu yüzden de çok şanslı hissediyorum. Sadece öğrencisiyken değil, sonrasında da omzumdan elini hiç çekmedi Doğan Hocam. O öldüğünde sadece bir öğretmenimi değil, yakın bir arkadaşımı, akrabamı, rol modelimi aynı anda kaybettim.

Hakkını arayabilen, sesi çıkan güçlü biri olmak için çabaladığım her anda sesi kulaklarımda çınlıyor. Lafını esirgemeyen, adaletsiz gördüğü düzenlere karşı hep ayakta duran tavrıyla bize de güçlü durmayı ne güzel öğretmiş. Öğretmese duramazdım.

İyi ki yaşadığı süreçte minnetimi hep paylaştım, Ankara’ya ailemi ziyarete her gittiğimde onun yanına da gittim. Ekim 2022’deki ziyaretim son görüşümmüş, bilmiyordum. İyi ki o son fotoğrafı çekmiş, sarılabilmişiz son kez. İyi ki bu kadar kıymetli bir insandan hayata dair bir şeyler öğrenmişim, paylaştığımız her an, yas sürecinin zorluğunu yaşamaya değer.

Ölüm çok gerçek, çok acı, hep zamansız. Çok erken, çok adaletsiz, ama yine de bu dünyadan iyi ki Doğan Kökdemir geçti, giderken de öğretilerini yaşatacak yüzlerce insanı bıraktı. Öğrettiklerini, vizyonunu yaşatmaya devam edeceğiz, unutturmayacağız. 🖤 by @psyselenozbek

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