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Kristin Mervich | Complicated motherhood + business

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I can’t be the only one who thinks about this.

Can we talk about it?

If you’re building a business while navigating a complicated motherhood (medical, grief/loss, special needs, mental health, or otherwise) I want to know:

Does this resonate with you? Have you felt like these two parts of your life weren’t “supposed” to exist in the same conversation? by @resourcedmother

I’M SO PROUD OF HER AND ALL MY MOM CLIENTS The thing is I know social media has completely worn out the phrase make more money while working less.

Why I want that for you runs incredibly deep for me, and if you have followed me, you know why.

I only got 3 years with one of my children. And now he’s gone forever. So I want moms who help people all day long to have all the time they want with their kids. I want you to have the space to take care of your body. Your capacity. Your spirit. Your energy. Your relationships.

Therapy and healthcare fields casually and almost proudly wear badges of honor around being the worst patient.

I fully disagree with this. If you know vicarious pain, trauma, disease, stress, etc., then I freaking hope that it motivates you to practice everything you preach.

That’s why I really love working with my mamas. More money provides for your family. That is worth talking about, worth pursing. AND more time, capacity and health is priceless.

Also, I’ll call out that I have always felt far more accessible because I feel financially secure and have the space in my schedule to continue helping more and more people. First the ocd community. Next it was the therapist community by employing good people and coaching therapist moms. Then, the motherhood community overall. And next, it’ll be the childhood cancer community.

And it’s all compounding. I’m still doing all those things with more space than I ever have before. And that’s what I help my moms in my coaching containers do, too. 🫶

Comment SCHEDULE to voice note with me for free for 3 days. Let’s figure out your dream schedule and give you some action steps.

And if that’s all you need, amazing. We don’t have to continue forward. But if you do, I have ONE more private coaching slot opening up.

All the love to you, mamas. 💛
One last thing- can you please cheer Jess on in the comments? She’s planning some HUGE things! by @resourcedmother

I promised my boy I’d live for him, and I meant it.

In the fun times, small moments, and meaningful ways.

I’m the mom of a real-life superhero and legend after all… 🪽🎗️🥹 by @resourcedmother

I have a few hills I’m willing to die on when it comes to motherhood and building a business. 🙃

And after building businesses through 4 pregnancies (I’ve been pregnant some or all of each year from 2020-2027), maternity leaves, raising babies, childhood cancer, and the horrific grief of losing my son, I believe these things more fiercely than ever.

I don’t believe motherhood is something we need to work around to become successful.

I don’t believe slower growth means we’re falling behind.

And I certainly don’t believe we should have to sacrifice our health, relationships, or the parts of ourselves that make us feel alive just to build something profitable.

I believe motherhood should inform our business strategy, not constantly compete with it.

What’s the point of building a successful business if the life it creates isn’t one you actually want to live?

Some of these beliefs took me years to learn. Others took just a moment when tragedy hit.

I hate cancer and WHO it selfishly took from me, but I’m forever grateful for the perspective because of it.

SAVE this for the next time you start measuring your success against someone building a business with a completely different life than yours.

And tell me, which belief resonates most with you? Or which one would you push back on? 👀 by @resourcedmother

“Can I play in the puddle?” Go for it, kid. 🤗 by @resourcedmother

4 and 6 make me feel real called out. How about you? by @resourcedmother

The grief is not always seen, but I promise you it’s there.

Engraved in every nook and cranny of the day.

Bereaved moms running businesses and nonprofits while still raising their living children are special kinds of humans.

Please be kind to her if she forgets something she’d normally remember, needs more time to herself than she ever used to, or takes just a little longer to reply.

She’s carrying something not many people can see, but it’s I promise it’s heavy.

If you’re running a business or building a nonprofit or both while missing someone very special or living a motherhood where you have to fear this may one day be your reality, you’re right at home. 🫶 by @resourcedmother

I don’t have the luxury of assuming tomorrow will look like today.

For a long time, I thought that meant I needed to get better at managing my time.

But what I’ve learned from building a multiple six-figure business through motherhood x 4, pregnancy and pospartum, childhood cancer, grief, and everything in between is that I don’t need a more rigid schedule. I need a better way to prioritize.

Some days I have several uninterrupted hours to work. Other days, I have 30 minutes. And some days, work doesn’t happen at all.

My Order of Operations helps me make decisions without constantly having to figure out where to start. It was inspired by medical triaging when I was constantly working from a hospital or clinic visits or from the bathroom of our inpatient room after my kid went to sleep.

But here’s the important part: It’s a hierarchy, not a checklist.

I don’t have to get through all four levels to have a productive day. And I don’t have to earn the right to work on something further down the list.

I can adjust based on what’s urgent, what will move my businesses forward, and what I actually have the capacity for.

My goal isn’t to squeeze every possible minute of productivity out of my life.

It’s to build businesses that continue to grow without requiring me to sacrifice the flexibility I built them for in the first place.

And I want that for you, too. 💛

If you’re building a business around a life that doesn’t always go according to plan, comment CHECKLIST and I’ll send you my free Low-Capacity Business Builder Checklist to help you figure out where your business needs more flexibility, support, and breathing room. by @resourcedmother

7 months, Quinny. 7 whole months.

Without your contagious laugh.
Without my “deep voice baby”.
Without you playing with Dylan and Mila.
Without you here to be excited about your unborn sister.
Without you at home to teach board games.
Without your bear hugs.
Without a new piece of art from you.
Without your morning cuddles before anyone else is up.
Without you here to see your pride with potty training.
Without you to get more and more confident about climbing up slides and jumping from couch to couch with Dyl.

I still can’t understand why a human being with so much life yet to live had to say goodbye.

I can’t understand why you were given a body that failed you.

I can’t understand how I’m supposed to go on in a world you’re no longer in.

How does a mother live without her child in her home?

How does she go about normal life and motherhood things when she only knows where 3 of her 4 children are?

How is this real life?

I promised you I’d live for you. And I’m trying. Between missing you immensely every moment, pregnancy and being sick with something that won’t let up over the last month, it’s been so hard to live up to my promise. But I want you to know, I haven’t given up. And I’ll always try my best.

I love you my sweet boy. We miss you so very much down here. And I hope you don’t ache for us the way we ache for you.

Love, Mommy by @resourcedmother

All the strength in the world 🫶

Their brother should be right between them on that other horse on the carosuel. by @resourcedmother

With so many moms breaking the internet with their empire-like launches, I want you to know you’re not doing it wrong if what you want are options. Choice.

And hey, if you or I break the internet next, I’m going to be cheering like that obnoxious mom at the softball game.

But I know you may not have the option to be up all night, night after night, making an internet-breaking launch work or build a successful clinical practice in 3 months or less.

What you want is an option to be the mom you want to be without money or dedicated work time you don’t have being ANOTHER hard thing in your life.

Tell me what success looks like in your eyes. 💛 by @resourcedmother

I see you. I am you. It’s so okay not to be okay. 🫶

It’s okay to ask for help.
It’s okay to lay on the couch.
It’s okay to need support more than you’re used to.

If you need internet mom friends who get, stick around. 💛 by @resourcedmother