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Meg Townsend | Burnout Coach

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You're the one everyone counts on & you're fried.
12+ yrs as a therapist, 100+ women coached out of burnout.
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Imagine how much energy you’d have if everything wasn’t your responsibility.
Not the appointments.
Not the reminders.
Not making sure everyone else’s needs get met.
Just a little more space to be you.
A little less resentment.
A little less pressure.
A little less carrying.
That’s what we’re working toward inside Rest Without Ruin.
DM me RULES and I’ll send you my Unspoken Rules Worksheet to help you identify what’s been keeping you stuck.

#unspokenrules #restwithoutruin #overwhelmed #exhausted #resentful by @restwithoutruin

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19 days ago

Hey friends, I’m Megan! I’m a recovering over-functioner, and unpaid CEO of everyone’s lives.

I’ve spent a decade helping people untangle their sh*t in the therapy room. Now I’m here to help exhausted, high-achieving women stop white-knuckling their way through life as the unpaid project manager for their family, friends, and coworkers.

The credentials: eldest daughter, wife, bonus mom to 2 teenage boys, dog mom, and business owner. The real qualifications: I’ve cried in a Target parking lot and still shown up to run someone else’s crisis by 9am. I get it because I am it.

When I’m not working, you’ll find me on the lake, in the mountains, buried in a book, or sweating out my rage at the gym because feelings are easier after a good sweat.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and one more “can you just handle this” away from combusting…you’re in the right place.

I know you’re ready to stop being the unpaid ceo of everyone’s life, so follow along to learn more about how not to lose your sh*t 😉

#OverfunctioningWoman #BurnoutRecovery #TherapistTurnedCoach #CEOofEverything #RestWithoutRuin by @restwithoutruin

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2 months ago

I was assigned taco salad for the family reunion. Fine. Except I hate the dressing in the family recipe…always have.

So I said I’d make a version I actually liked.

My mom: “You HAVE to make it the way we always make it, that’s what everyone’s expecting.”

Not “it tastes better.”
Not “it’s tradition, please.”
Just….that’s what’s expected of you, so get in line.

We threw down. Full blown standoff, over salad dressing, like the grown women we are.

For me, it wasn’t about the dressing.
It was about being told my preference didn’t count as long as everyone else’s expectations were met and I was done living that way.

I didn’t budge so she made it herself.

The reunion happened.
People ate taco salad.
Nobody died.
My mom didn’t disown me.
The sky, shockingly, did not fall.
And this was one small act of rebellion that set me on a path of a happier more free “me”.

Follow for a more free you and less taco salad moments.

#peoplepleasing #overfunctioning #oldestdaughtersyndrome #boundaries #boundarieswithfamily by @restwithoutruin

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2 months ago

Maybe resentment isn’t something you need to feel guilty about.

Maybe it’s your cue to pause and ask:

What am I carrying right now that I don’t actually want to be carrying?

You don’t have to shame yourself for the feeling. You can listen to it.

Save this for the day you need the reminder.

#momlife #bonusmomlife #exhaustedwomen #angrywomen by @restwithoutruin

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7 hours ago

The car licensing.
The grocery order.
Where the car keys are.
Where the other car keys are.
That we’re out of dish soap and my patience.

I never applied to be the family CEO but here we are.

Turns out it’s a full-time job with no pay and a shitty benefits package.

Some things truly HAVE to be on my plate, but NOT everything.
Nor do I have to do it exhausted.

That’s why I do this work. I help women stop being the ONLY one who remembers.

Drop the most ridiculous thing only YOU remember in your house.

I’ll go first: the dog’s flee and tick treatment.

#bonusmomlife #mentalload #bonusmom #overfunctioning by @restwithoutruin

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a day ago

Dishes? Done.
Trash? Taken out.
Vacuuming and dusting? Absolutely not.

It’s been a busy week, and at some point I had to decide what actually needed to happen before we left and what could wait.
So the non-negotiables got done.

Everything else will still be there when we get home.
And instead of spending the weekend thinking about what I didn’t get done, I’m going to enjoy being at the lake with my family.

Turns out, “good enough” makes it to the lake too.

#overfunctioning #highfunctioninganxiety #restwithoutruin #eldestdaughtersyndrome #boundarieswithfamily invisibleburnout by @restwithoutruin

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4 days ago

A client of mine said this to me, and I got chills.

She’s a mom who carried everything. Every schedule, every appointment, every feeling in the house. She was on her to-do list, technically. Somewhere below “buy more dish soap.”

So that’s where we started.

Together, we sorted through what she was carrying and decided what actually belonged to her. Turns out, a lot of it didn’t. Other people’s emotions are not your responsibility.

Then we did something radical. We put her name at the top of her to-do list. Not as a reward. As a priority.

Not everyone loved it. She held steady anyway.

“I’m closed for remodeling” was her way of saying she’s building a life where she exists too.

If you want that for yourself, comment REMODEL and I’ll send you the exercise we used.

#restwithoutruin #overfunctioning #invisibleburnout #highfunctioninganxiety by @restwithoutruin

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5 days ago

You vent to your best friend. She gets it. You feel better for about an hour.

Then you walk in the door and the dishwasher’s still full, the permission slip’s still unsigned, and somehow you’re the only one who knows the dog needs his meds.

Being heard didn’t change who’s carrying everything.

I’ve watched so many capable women tell the same story for years. I was one of them.

You’re not failing. You’re doing three people’s jobs and wondering why you’re so damn tired.

The relief comes from setting some of it down.

Comment READY for a free exercise to help you be less exhausted.

#highfunctioninganxiety #restwithoutruin #eldestdaughtersyndrome #boundarieswithfamily #invisibleburnout by @restwithoutruin

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6 days ago

My family assigns dishes for reunions. I got the taco salad, made with Dorthy lynch, which I hate.

When I pushed back, my mom said everyone expects that recipe, so that’s what you bring.

That’s an unspoken rule, an expectation.

It just got passed down like grandmas famous casserole dish.

You probably have a dozen of these running in the background:
Who hosts.
Who remembers.
Who smooths it over when someone’s upset.
Who says “I got it” before anyone else can.

None of them are written down but people “know them”.

Comment PEACE and I’ll send you the exercise I use to stop carrying rules that were never mine to begin with.

#overfunctioning #highfunctioninganxiety #restwithoutruin #eldestdaughtersyndrome #boundarieswithfamily by @restwithoutruin

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7 days ago

“Megan, everyone expects that recipe.”

That’s what my mom said when I tried to get out of bringing the taco salad to our family reunion.

It felt like I was asking to skip a funeral.

In the end….I brought rolls, my mom quietly made the taco salad “the way they expected it”. Nobody noticed or cared.

I’d treated that rule like it was load-bearing when it was just a salad.

You’ve got your own version….
Hosting because you always host.
Remembering every birthday.
Saying “I got it” before anyone else can blink.

Tell me your taco salad in the comments.

Comment REBEL for my Unspoken Rules worksheet. Let’s find out how many of yours are optional.

#overfunctioning #highfunctioninganxiety #restwithoutruin #eldestdaughtersyndrome #boundarieswithfamily by @restwithoutruin

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8 days ago

“Sorry, I can’t right now. I’m on lunch.”

That’s a sentence I use regularly.

And here’s the funny thing: nobody gets offended.

For years, I treated lunch like it was optional. I’d squeeze in one more email, one more task, one more favor.

Now? My lunch break gets the same protection as a Chiefs playoff game.

I’ll get back to you when I get back.

Turns out most things can wait 30 minutes.

Who knew?

#boundaries #overfunctioning #boundarysetting #lunchbreaks by @restwithoutruin

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11 days ago

Nobody sat you down and gave you these rules. You picked them up, followed them, and became the person everyone could count on.

But being dependable does not mean being responsible for everything.

You can put some of it down without becoming selfish, lazy, or the problem.

Comment REBEL and I’ll send you my Unspoken Rules Checklist so you can see which rules are still running your life.

#unspokenrules #restwithoutruin #exhaustedwomen #tiredmoms #invisiblerules by @restwithoutruin

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12 days ago