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You don’t realize how loud normal life is until you’re out here. Here are some favorite sounds from our quick trip.

The sound of base camp.
No signal to pull us back.
Late night thoughts of bears roaming the woods,
and why we chose them over men.

The sound of taste.
A good fire makes everything taste like the world is okay.
Quietly wishing that good people could always live inside this feeling.

The sound of autumn.
You can hear her as she settles.
She’s tired but still looks graceful.

The sound of twenty six.
Keep your money.
I choose these moments in every lifetime.

The sound of home.
Her home is where we are.
Our hearts are full. by @rsruperto

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17 days ago

“I don’t make enough estrogen to care about what you think of me anymore.”

Heard this the other week, and it’s the most accurate summary of my mid fourties. It’s the sound of every last fuck I have to give and setting a steep cover charge for access to my peace.

45 was my quietest, most honest year yet. Just a cozy little blur of pottery, gardening, and holding down the fort with Alex and Suman…while calmly smiling as we descend into fascism.

I’m trying to get better at documenting life in general, so here’s a summary of 45 and things I’ve learned along the way.

[AUG finally got to touch NJ sand 🙂]

We really enjoyed the countryside of this trip.

[SEP Volterra Pisa & Florence]

Highlights:
Everything Borgo Pignano
Driving country side
Osteria del Cinghiale Bianco

Copenhagen is basically a society built by people who traded the exhausting need to LOOK successful for actually just wanting their lives to FEEL good. In short, our dream place to live.

[SEP Copenhagen]

Highlights:
Alouette
Noma*
Atelier September
Lille Bakery
Apotek 57
Juno the Bakery
Hart Bakery
Hos Tina & Michael hot dog stand

*The Noma dinner itself was honestly an out of body experience. But knowing now what went on behind the scenes leaves such a heavy, bitter taste in our mouths. If we had known about the abuse and toxic practices, we never would have paid that much to be part of it.

I nailed the most important decision I’ll ever make.
I fell in love with a good person.
A soft place to land in a loud world.
A person who knows how to hold my heart.

[OCT Brooklyn ]

Highlights:
Uzuki
Radio Bakery
Dashi Okume
Cibone O’te
Maru coffee

Pottery has become my quiet rebellion, a way to find inner peace in the midst of chaos. Instead of fighting the pain or pretending everything is fine, it forces me to look squarely at the wreckage of my life and accept it, piece by imperfect piece, right along with the clay.

[Pieces I made throughout the year]

It all boils down to curiosity, whether in advertising, food, or music. Anyone can be gifted, but obsession outlasts talent every time. That’s the only reason I’m where I am today.

Alex on the other hand, is the holy grail. A rare mix of raw by @rsruperto

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2 months ago

This night will always remind me that some moments refuse to shrink into a screen, some bonds outgrow titles, and when you love something deeply enough, the universe will make the moon rise just a little brighter.

They met in 2015 when we all started working together. She became my work wife immediately, and when she told me they were dating, it felt like the world had simply clicked into place.

Ten years later, they finally got the ceremony they deserved. He planned it for months and every detail carried his love. From handwritten menus to the way the moon seemed to rise just for her.

But it wasn’t just a celebration of them. It was a love letter to everyone they love. Being included in that is something I’ll always be grateful for. And when life feels heavy these memories are what keep me hopeful. Otherwise, why bother. taken in Borgo Pignano by @rsruperto

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a year ago

We’ve unpacked, washed, and actually put everything away. Before that magic fades, here’s a photo dump, starting with Tuscany + Florence, minus the wedding.

Italy reminds us that cracks do not ruin things, but give them character. Frescoes fade, towers lean, and the world still calls it beautiful.

Twenty five years of figuring things out, almost divorces, moving back and forth between coasts, and still choosing each other. We are still here, as solid as Michelangelo’s David and maybe just old enough to be considered historic. by @rsruperto

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a year ago

No fireworks, no grand milestones, 2024 was a year of quiet contentment.

Enough is a gift. In the ordinary, there’s beauty. In simplicity, there’s peace. Each day was filled with quiet gratitude for what is, not what could be.

A year of stoic joy, small victories, and the kind of happiness that doesn’t need a spotlight. Here’s to more of this life. by @rsruperto

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2 years ago

25 years ago, if you would have told me I’d be living in Jersey happily married to a guy that once said he liked papyrus, I would have punched you in the face.

Almost fourteen years married in a week. Our 24th year together deserved a special cake 😊

Hojicha brown sugar chiffon cake, whipped chocolate ganache, oreo crumb, and matcha buttercream by the amazing @bakedbypito 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 by @rsruperto

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2 years ago

The hardest part of growing old is having to watch your parents grow older too.

Living thousands of miles away, seeing my parents enjoy themselves is a luxury I don’t take for granted. Every moment is fleeting, and I’m more aware than ever that all the little things start to matter.

My dad told me how happy he was at the of top the mountain. I like to think his happiness comes from seeing that I’ve found my own path. Their sacrifices, their resilience, everything they poured into me has paid off. Somehow, my immigrant parents, with nothing but hope and clipped wings, taught their daughter how to fly. by @rsruperto

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2 years ago

It’s crazy that I can’t remember what I did yesterday, but I still remember exactly how Hiro’s fur felt against my lips when I would kiss his face. Or the sound of Kobe’s little paws dancing once you grab his leash.

Grief isn’t just losing someone you love. It’s losing a million little moments you loved, every day. Alex and I have enough memories of our pups to last a lifetime. But no one ever told us that the memories just don’t mend the grief.

Last week was my first birthday without them. The person I saw looking back in the mirror that morning had a couple of gray hairs and some wrinkles from years of laugher. She looked familiar but I didn’t recognize the person behind her eyes. She is patient and much kinder to herself. She knows to make room for both resilience and heartache. She is the person the pups saw in me.

I still don’t know how to navigate this world without them. But I’m slowly accepting that even though life will never be the same, it doesn’t mean it will never be good. by @rsruperto

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3 years ago

I loved seeing life through his eyes. Astonished. You have my heart forever 🤍 by @rsruperto

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3 years ago

One thing people never tell you about losing a loved one is that the pain never goes away. Even at your best days, it’s always there…you just learn to live with it.

You make room for it so you don’t break down and cry when people ask you if you’re okay. You learn to take in deeper breaths when you relive memories because once you breathe out, that’s all you have left. Memories.

I’ve prepped myself for this moment the last 2 years but it still wasn’t enough. A million lifetimes would have never been enough.

I am the luckiest person alive to have been your human, Hiro. I love you more than you’ll ever know. I hope you’re not stealing Kobe’s food. #hirolöve by @rsruperto

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4 years ago

⛅️ by @rsruperto

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4 years ago

The thing about living on borrowed time is that it forces you to make the best out of every single moment.

Today our vet told us that our time with both pups is very limited. It’s not lost on us on how lucky we are to get these closing moments. So we’re enjoying every single second we get. My heart is still full as it breaks 🥲 #hirolöve #köbester by @rsruperto

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4 years ago