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We talk about birthing babies,
but what about birthing ourselves?

New versions, new ideas, new projects.
New ways of being that insist on cooking within us for months (sometimes years!) before our bodies decide it’s time to bring them into existence.

Often through a portal of pain, loss, struggle, and shedding. ❤️‍🩹

This postpartum season has been one of the most creative seasons of my life, and I feel like I’m only just getting started. ✨

It’s different, of course. I’m not using my creativity to put together fun lewks to go to festivals or nights out… and I’m not gonna lie, I miss that part of me so much 🥺

But when they say mothers are efficient they’re not wrong! Between breastfeeding, baths, burps, and cuddles, it’s honestly a miracle I’ve gotten anything done.

Still, the creative juices keep flowing…
and I know I’m not the only one.

So tell me, what’s cooking in your creativity cauldron this season??

Maternity photos by the talented @ryeo.lee 😘 by @selflovewithashlee

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a year ago

When I think about this sound byte, it really hits me in 2 ways:

1: I've always wondered *ahem* been concerned about how others see me. Do they think I'm
🐹Cute?
🧠Smart?
🖕🏻Bossy?
🐣Immature?
🐷Fat?

But then I learned that we all perceive life and form opinions based on what we have experienced in the past. That goes for how I am perceived by others, AND

2. In the way I see others as well.

If someone triggers me and I find myself feeling some type of way about it, they are mirroring that trait to me! They are showing me what about myself is annoying, inspiring, irresponsible, kind, funny, rude or whatever it is.

It's hard to wrap our brains around this concept. It's hard to release the notion that we can control what others think about us, and its even harder to realize that the thing you see in others is really what you see in yourself.

But when you own this TRUTH, oh my GODDESS can it set you free!

If this resonates with you let me know in the comments 🙏🏼💖✨ by @selflovewithashlee

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4 years ago

This Sunday afternoon, you can find us getting a little earthy at @ssbdfest 🌿🧚✨

We’ve been dreaming up this experience as a moment to get out of your head and into your hands. To sit on the earth, follow your creativity, and make something beautiful with your Same Same community.

This is your reminder that creating can be its own kind of ritual 🪷

We’re bringing the materials, freshly foraged on our Autumn Equinox walk through Mt Laguna, and we invite you to bring some of your own items to add! Think pinecones, rocks, leaves flowers etc! 🌼

Meet us Sunday at 1 PM at the Creation Station, and save this so your inner Earth Fairy knows where to find us! 🧚🌿 taken in Mount Laguna, California by @selflovewithashlee

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24 days ago

2 Kinder Raves, 8 time zones apart 🗺️

This past weekend was a big milestone for our community as we hosted not one but TWO international Kinder Raves halfway around the world from each other.

🇺🇸 in Southern California our local San Diego chapter brought nearly 100 families together… at their first ever event!

🇬🇧 and in Birmingham, UK we visited the hosts of a beautiful community gathering called State Within A State, where we rolled up with some old school House tracks to an event that also included live bands, singer-songwriter performances, and a giant drum circle.

The spontaneous energy and joy of these two events reminded us so much of the early days of the Kinder Rave in Berlin, and the raw community spirit that we have always set out to inspire and emulate.

Thanks to our hosts in Birmingham @annemarieallenmusic @madmax_baloo @ma_yeye and co, and to our amazing local organizers @selflovewithashlee and @ninaneuenswander out in California 🌴

If you’d like to book the Kinder Rave at an event in your own community, or you’re curious about starting your own local chapter, don’t be shy! We’re always excited to collab. DM us and let’s do something cool ✌️🪩

📸 on the cover: @martiancircus
📍 @highburypubbirmingham, @thetemplateob by @selflovewithashlee

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a month ago

THIS SATURDAY!!! 🪩🪩🪩

I feel like I keep telling you we’re throwing a Kinder Rave but I haven’t fully explained how fun this afternoon is going to be 😂

We’re taking over @thetemplateob in Ocean Beach from 1-5 with some of my favorite San Diego DJs, activities for the kids, bodywork for the parents and a whole bunch of really wonderful humans helping us bring this thing to life.

And The Template has specialty coffees, teas, cacao + select adult bevvies so you can grab yourself a little treat while your kid is off doing their thing ☕️🍹

Basically...come hang out with us 🥳 Dance. Have a drink. Let your kids play and meet some other fun parents! Stay for an hour or stay all afternoon.

This is the kind of thing I wanted to exist in San Diego once I became a mom...so with the help of @kinder.rave & @ninaneuenswander - we made it !🥹

📍 @thetemplateob - Ocean Beach, San Diego
📅 THIS SATURDAY 9/12
⏰ 1-5PM
🎟️ $15/$20 at the door!

And LOOK at all these amazing people who are making it happen ↓↓↓

🎧 DJs:
@dj_scarfface
@cranberry_selections
@hokumdj
@h2h_staybad (back by popular demand!!)

✨ Kids + activities:
@mermaid_laya
@beesmcgees
@thewildwithinnaturecamp

💆 Bodywork + wellness with @iamrebecacamacho

Know a San Diego parent who needs to know this exists?! Tag them in the comments + SHARE this with your parent crew so we can fill the dance floor 🪩

👉👉Comment RAVE and I’ll send you the ticket link 🎟️🔗 taken in The Template by @selflovewithashlee

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a month ago

what is it about lil coffee pics that make a woman feel like an artsy b*itch? 🫟 by @selflovewithashlee

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a month ago

Lord hear my prayers 🙏 by @selflovewithashlee

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a month ago

it me I’m that that bitch 🌚✂️

idk what is going on with this eclipse energy but it has been ECLIPSINGGGG

and I feel like I’ve had to look at some things this week that I really didn’t want to look at. old dynamics, old versions of myself, the need to explain myself, the need to make sure someone understands where I’m coming from before I can feel okay about my own decision…

and I think what I’m realizing is I can actually take responsibility for the ways I haven’t always gotten it right without making me a “bad person”

I can have compassion for them and still be like…this does not feel good for me anymore. I don’t want to keep doing this.

No is a full f*cking sentence

anywayyyy shoutout to @chriscorsini because the eclipse ritual he posted today absolutely found me at the right moment 🌑 and apparently we are releasing habits, stories, people, patterns, identities, ALL OF IT???

Ok into the fire it goes. 🔥

it me. I’m that that bitch. by @selflovewithashlee

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2 months ago

Thanks for listening

#motherhood #motherhoodunflitered #motherhooduncensored
#vulnerableshare
#ijustwannahangout by @selflovewithashlee

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3 months ago

Nobody warned me how exhausting it would be to second-guess myself all day long 🫩

I thought for sure after spending so much time figuring out who I am and how to listen to my intuition I’d have this motherhood thing in the bag. I mean 39 years of soul-searching, moving cities, doing shadow work, re-wiring my subconscious and [insert whatever else self-development term here], I was ready for this.

What I didn’t fully comprehend (even AFTER the maiden funeral ritual) was that the version of myself I spent years falling in love with would actually die🥀

And in her place would blossom a new version of me, who I basically get to meet and parent right alongside my daughter.

Everything I knew about who I was suddenly had to expand to hold both my heart and hers. My emotions and hers. My daily routine and hers.

And with that, the invisible exhaustion that comes with the amount of time spent wondering if I’m doing ANY of it right.

The mental load is taxing as hell. Am I feeding her the right things? Are we reading enough? Is the temperature cool enough for her? What’s that bump on her head? Are we going to keep co-sleeping? Should I keep breastfeeding or wean? 🫠

Most nights I’m on reddit at 2 am just seeing if what I’m going through is the same as other moms with a one-year-old, or googling a symptom I swear I saw.

So now, getting to know the version of me that is mother, is also learning to trust myself all over again. I’m re-remembering (is this even a word?!) what my intuition sounds like, the little voice inside that tells me it’s ok to sleep, everything is fine. Or to call the nurse hotline and get it figured out.

I think this season isn’t about the preparation I did before or even the information I can absorb, it’s about trusting myself when there’s no clear answer. It’s about sitting with uncertainty instead of immediately trying to solve it. It’s about loving someone this much without letting fear make every decision.
I thought motherhood would be about raising a child. Instead, it’s about raising both of us in this new chapter of life 📖 by @selflovewithashlee

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3 months ago

A woman is nature itself. She blooms. She sheds. She creates. She nurtures. She transforms. There is something sacred about witnessing a mother carry life within her, rooted like the earth, powerful as the changing seasons, and beautiful in ways words can never fully capture. This session felt like an honoring of the wild feminine, the creator, the life giver. I am not just documenting a pregnancy 📸 I am preserving a chapter of transformation, strength, and love 🌿✨ July photography bookings are now open. I would be honored to help tell your story 📸🤎

🧚‍♂️ @selflovewithashlee
📸 @ryeo.lee taken in San Diego, California by @selflovewithashlee

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4 months ago

Happy First Father’s Day @ahuntguy

You make Dad life look easy 😎 by @selflovewithashlee

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4 months ago