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Stefanny Valencia | Mom of 2 | Postpartum Life

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Fresh off a family trip, with a five-month-old at home and no plan, I was on my own.

The first year was accepting and surviving. Being a stay-at-home mom took a toll on me. But I was blessed to be with my son for his first two and a half years, and I still am. I’m forever grateful for that.

I didn’t lose myself in that season. I met a version of me I didn’t know existed. The woman who thought a job title was her whole identity? She’s the strongest I’ve ever been.

Everything happens for a reason, and I’m a true believer in that. That door had to close so I could walk into the life I have now: a beautiful family, a home I love, and a purpose I’m still discovering. 🤍

If you’re in your own hard season right now, follow along. You’re not doing it alone.

@bloomsupps

P.s… groceries later and I clearly didn’t care to clean the freezer 😬
#sahm #realmotherhood #cleanwithme #storytelling #momlife by @stef.valencia_

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Okay moms, I know so many of you can relate to these grays 😅

Honestly it’s a constant battle in my head — do I even have the time for this, or do I even want to? (Leaning more towards wanting to, if I’m being real.) But some days? Nope. My to-do list is a mile long and it’s just so much easier to throw on a hat or slick my hair back and call it a day.

But it can’t always be that way. I matter. How I look and feel matters to me — always has. I’m on autopilot like 90% of the time with two kids, but I have to push myself to slow down and actually take a little time for me. Which is what I did today. It feels good to feel good 😎

#postpartum #grayhair #realmomlife #selfcare #momvlog by @stef.valencia_

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I was always a morning person before having my children but it has been a struggle to wake up early now that I’m a mom.

Before giving birth to my baby girl in May I promised myself that I would get myself slowly back into a morning routine that would not only help me but my family that need my attention.

I couldn’t leave myself for last because then where would that put my kids if I can’t even show up for myself?

They need me - so that means I pour into my cup first in order to pour into everyone else’s 🤍

#newmom #momvlog #postpartum #morningvlog #morningroutine by @stef.valencia_

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Some days nothing is wrong, everything is just too much.

The mess, the laundry, the dishes, and that voice wondering if I’m doing enough. I know I’m doing a good job, and at the same time I feel like I’m not. I catch myself worrying about it all day.

38, postpartum, mom of 2 under 3, and learning that feeling like I’m failing doesn’t mean I am.

Taking a few minutes to get ready doesn’t fix any of it, but it helps me feel a little more like myself. Even when my daughter looks at me like I’ve lost it 😅

#2under3 #postpartum #grwm #overstimulated #realmotherhood by @stef.valencia_

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Nobody tells you postpartum isn’t one season. It’s every single day.

It’s healing a body that just made a whole person while keeping a home running. It’s working part-time from home with a baby on my chest and a toddler who needs me just as much. It’s having no family close by and no village to call when I need a break.

And it’s the guilt. Since the baby came, I’ve worried my son gets less of me. Less patience, less time, less of the mom he had before.

Then on my birthday, he brought me roses. And I thought, maybe I’m doing better than I think. Maybe you are too.

I want more for my family, and I’m working hard for it. But wanting more doesn’t mean I’m not grateful. On the days I’m running on empty, I pray, and I remember I’m living the life I once prayed for.

You’re not behind, mama, and you’re not alone 🤍

#postpartum #sahm #2under3 #momguilt #momof2 by @stef.valencia_

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Becoming a mom changed what I put on my skin. 🤍

When there’s a baby resting on your cheek and a toddler covering you in kisses all day, you start reading labels differently. I want to feel good about what I’m putting on, for me and for them.

Getting ready is also one of the only moments in my day that’s just mine. A little mascara, a little blush, and I feel like myself again, even on the mornings that start at 4am.

That’s why I love these products so much. I trust what’s in them, they make me feel put together in minutes, and they cover everything from my makeup bag to my shower shelf to my wellness routine. Getting all of it at half off with the one-time membership means I can take care of myself without the guilt. As moms, we don’t do that nearly enough.

If you’ve been looking for something clean that doesn’t break the bank, I’d love to share what I use. Comment “CLEAN” and I’ll send you every product from this video 💌

What’s one beauty product you can’t live without? Tell me below 👇🏻

#cleanmakeup #affordablebeauty #realmotherhood #momvlog #sahmomlife by @stef.valencia_

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Keeping up with routines hasn’t been easy on my end, and to be honest, it’s been challenging with a 5-month-old and a toddler.

But one thing I’ve actually stuck with? Waking up early. Every. Single. Day. Thanks to my toddler (IYKYK)😅

I also want my kids to grow up seeing that a clean, organized home matters… BUT I’m learning not to be so hard on myself. This is a house with two little ones. There’s going to be a mess, and that’s okay.

At the end of the day, I want to be a good example for them, and that includes taking care of me too 🤍

What’s the one part of your routine you never skip, no matter how crazy the day gets? Tell me below, I need ideas 👇🏻

#relatablemom #realmotherhood #morningvlog #morningroutine #postpartum by @stef.valencia_

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9 days ago

I’ve been quiet the last few days. A bad fever knocked me down, then the kids got sick too, and honestly I just didn’t have it in me to show up here.

What you’re seeing is only part of today’s reset. The rest happened off camera, in between snacks and naps and a baby who wanted to be held the whole time.

I’m not going to pretend the whole house is perfect now. But I took back what I could, and it reminded me that coming back doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

Thanks for still being here while I was gone.

What is your reset like these days?💛

#reset #postpartum #momvlog #cleanwithme #realmotherhood by @stef.valencia_

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13 days ago

Beauty content used to be my happy place. Then self-doubt crept in and I quietly put it down.

Nothing sponsored here, I’m not selling a thing. I just missed this — my makeup, my thoughts, talking to you like we’re on FaceTime.

If you set something down because you didn’t feel like you could do it…maybe today’s the day you pick it back up.

What was it for you?

#grwm #cleanbeauty #yap #postpartum #relatablecontent by @stef.valencia_

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I was told I was too old for the life I’m living right now.

I was 33. It came from someone I cared about deeply, and it hurt like hell.

I’m not sharing this to sit in that hurt. I’m sharing it because someone reading this is carrying a timeline that was never theirs.

So if you’ve been told you’re too old, too late, or that it’s just not meant for you: it was never too late. That was their timeline, not yours. 🤍

Tell me below: what were you told it was “too late” for?👇🏻

#realmotherhood #relatablecontent #sahm #timeline #postpartum by @stef.valencia_

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16 days ago

I’m sick, the house is loud, and these three things are honestly what is holding me together throughout my morning and day…

My water bottle — I’m exclusively breastfeeding, so if I don’t stay hydrated my supply takes a hit. It basically lives in my hand.

My carrier — Velcro baby. She naps on me, I get things done, nobody cries. Everybody wins.

My electric toothbrush — the case cleans itself with a UV light, my teeth feel so clean after, and it’s the smallest part of my morning that makes me feel like myself again. I’d never go back to a regular one.

What’s the one little thing holding you together right now?👇🏻

@gocontigo @babybjorn @babybjornus @discoversuri

#postpartum #realmotherhood #ugccreator #momlife #newmom by @stef.valencia_

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Our mornings are a bit chaotic, but the routine is what saves me.

It’s what keeps everything flowing, and honestly it’s the only reason I get any time to myself during the day. You need that as a mom, but you need it as a woman too.

It’s not perfect but it does get easier. You find your rhythm and you just go.

And baby girl absolutely runs this house, plus she’s a velcro baby on another level and I’m okay with that.

What’s the one part of your routine you can’t skip? 👇🏻

#realmotherhood #morningroutine #momof2 #sahm #postpartumjourney by @stef.valencia_

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