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Cold side of the bed, racing thoughts, and a whole lot of unscripted grief. Some nights it just hurts, and it makes you wonder: am I holding on too tight, or just missing who I used to be?

Is holding onto celibacy protecting my peace, or just keeping me stuck in the past? This stage is messy, human, and wildly confusing.

Swipe to read the full breakdown, and let’s talk in the comments: Are you on a celibacy journey right now, or just thinking about it? Let’s talk below. 👇

#datingconfessions #singlelifeproblems #unpopularopinions #datingdiaries #single

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Something about this picture says it all… PEACE. HEALING. PURPOSE. 🧡✨

2026 has honestly been one of the hardest years of my life. I lost my dad 🕊️ and faced crisis after crisis, but through it all, I kept going. I didn’t give up. 🙏🏾 There were moments when I felt tired, hurt, and unsure, but I reminded myself that there is always sunshine after the storm. ☀️🌈

I’m so grateful for my husband, my baby boy, and the small circle of people who truly stand in my corner. Real recognize real. ❤️

Music has always been my peace and something about this moment captured exactly how I felt. Free. Healing. At peace. Connected to my purpose. 🎶🤟🏾🧡 I gave that stage my heart, and knowing the audience felt me means everything! Thank you @onelovemusicfest for always making me feel welcome 🤗 I’m proud to be part of the family 🤗

To anyone watching and going through a hard season: YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Keep going. Keep following your purpose and vision. Not everyone will understand your dream, because it was given to you. Keep believing, keep healing, and make that dream your reality. ✨

And shoutout to my girl Tori @bictoriaa 📸 for always capturing me so beautifully and supporting me at my events! If you’re looking for some dope photography, holla at her! 🫶🏾🔥

The storm didn’t break me… it reminded me how powerful I am. 🌪️🧡

#HealingJourney #PeaceOverEverything #KeepGoing #FollowYourPurpose #DeafPerformer

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All I need is my wife, my son and the Mic in my hand
Shoutout to @onelovemusicfest and @legends7 for an experience I’ll never forget! The memories, the love, and the moments we shared will stay with us forever.

And just like that… on to the next chapter!
📸: @bictoriaa
#TCoop #TCoopMusic #OneLoveMusicFest #FatherSonMoments NewBeginnings

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It was such a BLESSING getting to take our son to his FIRST Eagles football game! 🦅💚🏈 And y’all, he had a BLAST! 💥🥹

Watching him enjoy himself, make memories, and spend time surrounded by people he loves made my heart so full. 💚💚💚 These are the moments we’ll always cherish!

And of course, our little charming boy had folks blessing him with FREE food because of his personality and that special aura he carries! 😂😂🥰 He really has a way of winning people over without even trying!

First Eagles game = MEMORABLE! 🦅🏈💚💚💚

#FlyEaglesFly #FirstFootballGame #BoyMom #MakingMemories #Blessed

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Do you know what your love languages are and are you able to communicate them? 💬⬇️

Communication doesn’t magically stop just because you’re settled down. The truth is, you shouldn’t stop doing the things that got you your partner in the first place. Keeping that connection alive is all about the little moments constantly flirting, dropping a random text like, “Hey, you look incredible tonight,” or sending a quick selfie just because they crossed your mind. ☺️

Five love languages

Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Physical Touch

Let’s chat about words of affirmation.
Those tiny, intentional sparks of communication throughout the day keep things feeling easy, warm, and intentional.

#RelationshipAdvice #lovelanguages  #LoveLanguages #RelationshipGoals #communicationiskey

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Let’s let throw out the idea of what good sex should look like 👇

We’ve all been there: trapped in our own heads, sweating the pressure of a first time, and secretly terrified someone won’t “get it right.”

But here’s the truth we don’t talk about enough sex isn’t a performance review.

True chemistry isn’t about perfection; it’s about communication, a lot of laughter, and finding pure joy in the little moments. Even the awkward, messy, hilarious slip-ups?

That’s where the real connection happens.
Take a deep breath, drop the expectations, and remember: if the chemistry is there, the rest is just practice. When you are ready can practice again ;)

#DatingTips #Communication #relationships
#advice

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Storytime. 👇👀

A few years back and no, not my situationship guy, if you’ve been following me for a while there was someone else I thought I really, really liked at the time.

Because I didn’t speak up early enough back then, I tolerated a lack of respect I shouldn’t have. We ended things, and that was that.

But fast forward years later: he tries to “spin the block” and pick up where we left off. My response? No thank you.

I told him straight up: “You didn’t respect me then. I’m fine being friendly, but I will never be intimate with someone who couldn’t just simply be nice, respectful, and kind to me.” I told him the treatment was cruel and it’s not what I want in this lifetime. I told him I could elaborate more, but ultimately, you’re just not for me.

Having that conversation took real skill, because at the end of the day, we just weren’t aligned. And you simply cannot mold someone into being something they’re not. I mean, kindness is a basic trait, right?

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Here’s the truth: communication is a sexual skill.

If you can’t voice your desires, set your boundaries, or speak up about what’s not working in the bedroom, your intimacy hits a ceiling. Communication is the master key to everything.

Feeling disrespected? Out of sync? Like the spark is fading? That’s your cue to talk. The best breakthroughs live on the other side of uncomfortable conversations

#wellnessfromwithin #hardconversations #datingtips #deafcreator

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When did saying “I like you” become so scary?👇🫣

Does anyone actually tell people when they like them anymore?! Like…

“Hey, I think you’re cute. I’ve been having fun with you. I’m feeling you.” Or did we just… stop doing that…?

Because why has dating become SO socially awkward? Nobody wants to be the first person to admit they’re interested.

We’re all trying to play it cool, act unbothered, protect our feelings, and pretend we don’t care…
But isn’t the whole point of dating to actually LIKE someone?

Maybe post-COVID turned us all into independent baddies who forgot how to flirt and communicate our feelings.

So I’m crowd sourcing:
Do you still shoot your shot and tell someone when you’re feeling them? Or are we all just waiting for someone else to make the first move? 👀

#ModernDating #DatingInYour30s #DatingAdvice #SingleLife #ShootYourShot

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Practicing ongoing consent is a green flag here’s why👇💚

Back in my single AF girlie days , I was in a really, really long situationship. But looking back, the one thing I genuinely loved about us was that we practiced ongoing consent even though I didn’t realize that’s what it was called at the time.

There are so many different ways to practice ongoing consent. You can be with someone for years, and whether you’re on good terms, bad terms, or lying right next to each other, consent has to continue. Their body, is not yours check ins are normal. Back then, he would check in with me in ways I didn’t even fully appreciate yet. But now I do and I plan to bring in the next person I’m with, don’t worry I’m not perfect still learning.

For instance, he would say: ‘Okay, if you’re ever in the mood at 3:00, 4:00, 5:00, or 6:00 in the morning and we’re on good terms, you have my permission and consent to wake me up and get me ready to go.’

But on the flip side? If we had a disagreement earlier that day or earlier that week, he’d be clear: “You don’t have my consent to wake me up tonight.”

Even right from the beginning, we set clear boundaries. He’d say: “You have my permission for this and this, but not for that and that.”

Rejection can feel hard to hear, but here’s the bottom line: consent is always ongoing, no matter how long you’ve been with someone.”

Is this something you already practice or wish to practice?

#RelationshipBoundaries #HealthyDating #CommunicationMatters #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals

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Keeping the spark alive means never guessing where your partner’s head is at even if you’ve been together for years. True connection is all about keeping that consent sexy and fluid, sliding in a smooth “Is this okay?” right when the tension builds.

Remember that intimacy isn’t just about the bedroom; a heated makeout session or a deep emotional check-in hits and is just as important.

Unpack what society tells you romance should look like, ask them what kind of attention and love they’re craving, and show them how effortless good communication can really be. It’s okay to work at this every single day we’re always learning more about ourselves and our bodies as we get older, and it is always okay to say no whenever you want to.

What worked few years ago might not work now, and that’s totally okay; communication is the key.

#CommunicationTips #RelationshipAdvice #HealthyBoundaries #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipCommunication

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When your boundaries are constantly crossed, saying “no” feels impossible especially when you’ve spent years as a people-pleaser, like me.

And I’ve been working on myself ever since!We learn more about ourselves everyday and that’s okay too

Saying yes when you want to say no hurts everything.

It hurts friendships:
👀“Do you want to hang out?”
🥺“No, I need to rest and study.”
👀“You must not love me if you stay in and do homework
🥺 That is not fair. Real friends let you rest without guilt.

It hurts relationships:
❤️‍🩹 Someone asks you to do something you feel unsafe or uncomfortable doing.
❤️‍🩹 They say: “If you really loved me, you would say yes.”
❤️‍🩹 That is toxic. Love never forces you. You are allowed to take time to think. You never have to say yes right away.

To all my freshmen, sophomores, juniors, seniors and if you are going back to graduate school: It is okay to reinvent your boundaries and strengthen them. It is never too late.

Saying no to others means saying yes to yourself. 🤟💕

And remember to show yourself some grace as you navigate this new chapter in your life.

#graduatestudent #CollegeFreshman #CollegeTips #DatingAdvice #CollegeLife

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If “Titi Tori” could give incoming college freshmen one piece of truth, it’s this: dating in college is supposed to be fun! But the second you get that dorm key and whoever has been responsible for you drives away... adulting starts, and yes, hookups do happen

If I could give any advice? Some people are strictly for looking and not doing, and that is 100% okay!

Honestly, if I knew what to actually ask before hooking up, I probably would have way fewer horror stories lol 😂😂😂

A quick checklist before you make any moves:

👀 The “What are we doing?” check: Are you both on the same page about what this is?
💕 Protection talk: Is everyone protected, tested, and consenting? Never guess—always communicate
🛑 Boundaries: What are your non-negotiables? Knowing what you want makes walking away so much easier.

Protect your peace, have fun, and remember college is a marathon, not a sprint! 🏁

#CollegeAdvice #CollegeFreshman #CollegeTips #DatingAdvice #CollegeLife

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