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The skill that’s made my life so much more enjoyable has been the ability to say no to things. Even things that seem really good or things that I want.

The more I intentionally say no, the more I can focus my efforts on the things that really matter in the moment.

So if Q4 is already starting to stress you out, this episode is for you.

3 Steps to Avoid End-of-Year Burnout | EP 101

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1. I removed my phone from my bedroom and got an actual alarm clock.
No staring at it before bed. No reaching for it the second I wake up.

2. I gave myself at least 20 minutes in the morning before touching my phone.
No emails. No news. No scrolling.

3. I stopped skipping lunch or eating at my desk.
I’d have an actual nourishing meal away from my computer.

4. I took a 10-minute walk after work before walking into my house.
Gave myself a minute to come down from work mode before switching into partner/relax mode.

5. I cut down the number of high intensity workouts I was doing and swapped some of them for walking.
Just temporarily until my nervous system had more capacity.

None of this is revolutionary…that’s kind of the point.

When you’re already exhausted, you probably don’t need a complete life overhaul.

You need fewer things keeping your system in go mode and more small moments throughout your day where nothing is being asked of you.

So if you’re wondering whether what you’re experiencing is just everyday stress or something more, comment RESTORE below and I’ll send you my free burnout assessment so you can see where you’re at.

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I used to also feel guilty because I thought I should be grateful for this life but I was struggling to genuinely feel that way.

When I decided to stop constantly pushing through and slow down just enough so I could actually tune into what my body needed, everything started to change. I realized it was okay to want something different for my life, I just had to give myself permission to do it.

Anyone else feeling stuck in this space?

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Looking back, I really can’t believe how long I normalized the dysfunction in my body for 😩

It was like I was so busy and dysregulated that the idea of supporting my body sounded like an interruption to my “productivity”

Anyone else ever feel like they don’t have time to look after themselves?

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Fight or flight= “I need to do something about this NOW”

Freeze= “I’m going to avoid this altogether”

Regulated= “I can pause before I respond”

One situation can have 3 different responses based on what state your nervous system is in.

Which state do you switch into when you’re stressed?

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1. Everything felt way more urgent than it actually was. An email would come in and I felt like I had to respond RIGHT NOW. Someone needed something and suddenly it was the most important thing on my list. I had a really hard time just letting things wait.

2. I needed SO much alone time after work. I could be around people all day and seem completely fine, but by the time I got home I did not want anyone asking me a question, needing anything from me or honestly even talking to me lol.

3. The smallest decisions started feeling exhausting. I could make big decisions at work all day long, but then someone would ask what I wanted for dinner and I genuinely could not tell you. Just pick something. I do not care 😂

4. I had zero tolerance for being interrupted. Someone could ask me a completely normal question while I was trying to get something done and I could literally feel the irritation shoot through my body. Like whyyyy are you talking to me right now?! 😫

5. I was always waiting for the next chance to finally recover. I would obsess about Friday or going on vacation. Except I would rest, come back…and within a few days I already felt like I needed another one.

The problem is when you have so much to take care of it’s REALLY easy to brush all of this off as just being part of the deal.

Until feeling like this becomes so normal that you forget you’re not actually supposed to feel this way all the time.

Recognizing what you’ve normalized is the first step to building a life where you can still be ambitious AND actually have the capacity to enjoy what you’ve worked so hard for.

If you’re a high achiever and not sure whether you’re actually burnt out or just tired, comment RESTORE and I’ll send you my free 2-minute burnout quiz to help you figure out where you’re at and what you need to start feeling better.

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Break ups, burnout, quitting jobs… every time I was about to level up.. something broke down first. Whether it be my relationship, my mental state or even just my happiness.

But every time I came out on the other side even better because I took it as a sign that I needed to change the way I was doing things instead of failure.

#realignment

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100 episodes....and instead of immediately asking myself, “Okay, what’s next?” I’m actually letting myself take this one in 🥹

I’ve spent a lot of my life reaching the goal, giving myself five minutes to feel good about it… and then moving the goalpost.

I don’t want to do that anymore.

Sometimes growth is actually letting yourself register how far you’ve already come.

🎧 You’re Doing Better Than You Think: How to Actually See Your Growth | EP 100

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WE HIT 100 EPISODES!! 🥹🎉

And I didn’t get here by being in a growth season the entire time.

There were seasons I pushed...seasons I maintained...and seasons I had to pull back and heal.

I think that’s a big reason I’m still here.

Long-term success isn’t about running the marathon all the time. It’s knowing what season you’re in and actually honoring it.

You’re Doing Better Than You Think: How to Actually See Your Growth | EP 100

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I used to do this at Mercedes all the time too. Holding someone accountable for something they did but the minute they showed any signs of stress I’d just take it back (even though it wasn’t mine to own or I had 0 capacity)

I thought I was being flexible but I was really just abandoning myself to ease the situation.

Can anyone else relate?

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1. I would spaz out on little things either with my coworkers or my loved ones. Then I would feel guilty or embarrassed after for losing my cool.

2. I couldn’t sit still without being productive. Everything I did had to have some type of output attached to it….whether that be housework, working out, or even rest…everything had to be optimized.

3. I was still high functioning. I thought burn out meant I was lethargic and stuck on the couch. If you’re high achieving…It means you’re still doing your job and showing up for everyone even if you’re beyond exhausted underneath the surface.

4. My diet sucked. I was either skipping breakfast and only eating when I was hangry or I had stomach issues because I couldn’t digest my food properly (for me it was pain in my stomach and throwing up)

5. I couldn’t sleep through the night. I would wake up around 3 or 4 AM thinking about work or just unable to let my mind rest.

6. I struggled to find joy in the things that used to be fun. My energy was so shot that even having fun felt like a lot of work.

What was confusing about all of this was that I had done everything I was “supposed” to and still felt unfulfilled and exhausted inside.

Healing my burnout, not only gave me my energy and joy back, but it also helped me build a life where I could continue to be ambitious while still enjoy enjoying everything I had built.

If you’re not quite sure whether you’re actually burnt out or just tired, comment the word RESTORE below, and I’ll send you my 2 minute burnout quiz, which will help you figure out exactly where your body is at and what it needs to feel better ASAP.

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When we try to control those seasons of unknown…we suffer more. We worry, stress, lose sleep.

But when we approach them with curiosity… ask questions, explore, try new things… the answers start to find us.

I’ve been through the cycle enough times now to know that if we want a truly fulfilling life, we need both seasons.

Share this with a friend who’s having a tough time 🫶🏼

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